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post #101 of 449
Wow, Sonja, contratulations!
post #102 of 449
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Originally Posted by Dena View Post
So, urm, a slightly delicate topic, if I may...is anyone else forbidden to dtd for now? We are, but the pg hormones are making me feel like a 19-year-old boy. I swear, I get turned on by acronyms for sex acts. Argh!
Well, we tried once after being allowed. The bleeding afterwards scared us both so much that we haven't since. Even messing around led to some blood, so we've been on pelvic rest the whole pregnancy so far. I have it. Espeically since after DD, sex was very painful for a long time post-partum. I'm really hoping it's different this time around.
post #103 of 449
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welcome Sonja! Congrats!!

Well, you walked into a fun topic. I am experiencing the excess fun hormones too, dreams and all. I know we won't dtd until at least the second tri, and then my dh will still be nervous. I think it was 3-4 months postpartum until we got around to it last time (stitches + no sleep), so I'm sure he's preparing himself for patiently waiting.
post #104 of 449
I'm here ladies...just hanging out. Reading along.

Congrats to all the newcomers and to CRM for seeing the heartbeat!
post #105 of 449
Thanks for the kind welcome ladies!

We were on a pelvic ban too due to bleeding and i was also like the 19 yr old boy so my midwife said we could DTD but use a condom... because its the prostaglandins in the semen that cause the bleeding she said.
I gotta say it was kinda funny using a condom and being pregnant!
I hit 12 weeks today so the ban is lifted... but I can see myself being paranoid anyway.

Sonja
post #106 of 449
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Okay, is this normal - I don't "feel pregnant" right at this minute, so I worry that something has gone wrong. The nausea is so reassuring, am I crazy?
post #107 of 449
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Originally Posted by crazyrunningmama View Post
Okay, is this normal - I don't "feel pregnant" right at this minute, so I worry that something has gone wrong. The nausea is so reassuring, am I crazy?
Not crazy at all!

I have moments when I don't feel pregnant. And I'm almost 39 weeks!
post #108 of 449
I am 12 weeks and I feel the same... i think it will be easier to feel PG once i can feel the baby move. The nausea does seem reassuring in a strange way though.
post #109 of 449
CRM - I too agree, not crazy at all.

Now I wish I would feel movement all the time, but of course I don't. I suppose the belly should be enough, but really I think we always want more reassurance.
post #110 of 449
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When I was pg with dd, I only really felt her move when I was lying down. So, often I would drink a bit of juice to give myself and her a blood sugar boost and stretch out so she'd have lots of room so I could feel her move around. If I could, I'd be doing that all the time now! Barfiness has returned today and I have made my first prenatal appointments, so it's seeming more real!!
post #111 of 449
CRM: It probably took me until I was about 25 weeks before I really felt pregnant. Prior to that time, people would ask how the pregnancy was going and then I would think.....oh yeah, that's right...i'm pregnant! Now....there is no way I could forget with the constant peeing, not being able to walk, pelvis that feels like it is being hit with a hammer everytime I take a step and the frequent kicks to the bladder and ribs:
post #112 of 449
I just need a hug. I feel like such a bad person (to put it nicely). A friend just announced she's expecting. She's only been married for 4 months and is already about 3 months along. Even though I'm pregnant, I'm just so incredibly jealous and pissed off. Why did I have to go thru such hell when people can just conceive like that. I think I need to go cry, and sleep. Hopefully I can blame it on pregnancy hormones. Since she announced via email, I'll just send my congrats when I'm feeling better.
post #113 of 449
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Juliasmom. You are not a bad person for feeling how you feel. You didn't immediately email her back and tell her to %^&** off with her stupid good news (right?), that would be bad. We have gone through hell, it does suck and we are allowed to grieve about it. It isn't great that other people's good news is a trigger, but there it is, reality. And yes, go to bed, that always helps. And get dh to write the email back if you have to.
post #114 of 449
Julia'smom: I would feel the same way and have many times. I always try to think though that even though getting pregnant is easy for that person....there are other things that person is really struggling with that you aren't. I also try to remember that my children came after a lot of heartbreak and struggle.....and yes.....in my honest opinion.....that makes them more wanted! I know that sounds harsh, but it's how I survive sometimes when dealing with people who don't have a clue what it's like!
post #115 of 449
I need some reassurance gals I'm 6 wks and my symptoms have been completely gone for a few days now... Granted, the only symptoms I had were frequent urination,sore bbs, insomnia, and a touch of fatigue... but they're all gone. my beta at 17DPO was great 927.7 but I haven't been monitored since then.... and the midwife I switched to isn't going to see me until 10/22. I am not doing too well... had a huge panic attack earlier today and can't shake the feeling that something is wrong.... should i go back to my old IF OB on Monday and beg for a u/s or try with the CMN to push up my apt. and have some monitoring done?
post #116 of 449
If it was me...I would call the IF OB on Monday. Peace of mind is worth a lot! Especially when you have been through infertility. Stress isn't good and if an appt. with the IF OB helps....then go for it. There is no way I would be able to wait till 10/22. Hang in there!
post #117 of 449
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Hey Jelinifer. For sure get into your IF OB if you can, no point in stressing if you can get some reassurance from them. Just to let you know though, my symptoms have been coming and going with no rhyme or reason. For example, on the day I was in the car for 10 hours, I had NO nauseau for the first time in 2 weeks. It stayed gone for a couple of days and is now back in full force. Sore breasts have come and gone and come back, too. I totally relate to that out of control feeling - like I want to have a baby update with heartrate and an ultrasound picture every day, just to know that nothing is wrong, but we just have to have faith, kwim? People who haven't gone through IF just worry if there's bleeding, I think. Many 's to you, I know that worried feeling.
post #118 of 449
Jelinifer, I second - third, whatever - calling your IF OB on monday and getting in for a u/s soonest. The sooner you can reassure yourself that everything is ok, the better. If it helps, though, your beta was higher than mine on day 17, and both my babies look fine. From what I have read (and I tend to be a tad obsessive about this stuff), higher betas like yours do tend to be predictive of a successful pregnancy.

Julia'sMom, I can totally relate to how you feel - as can everyone here, I am sure. I actually get jealous of random women or families on the street who are pregnant or who have a lot of children. In my first pg, I actually caught myself sighing deeply a few times upon spotting a pg woman and thinking, oh, when will it be my turn....oh, wait.... IF is crazy making in more ways than one. The lovely thing about email, though, is that you can send a totally insincere congrats complete with lots of virtual squeals and exclamation points, not mean a word of it, and no one is the wiser. BTDT.
post #119 of 449
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Originally Posted by crazyrunningmama View Post
Juliasmom. You are not a bad person for feeling how you feel. You didn't immediately email her back and tell her to %^&** off with her stupid good news (right?), that would be bad. We have gone through hell, it does suck and we are allowed to grieve about it. It isn't great that other people's good news is a trigger, but there it is, reality. And yes, go to bed, that always helps. And get dh to write the email back if you have to.
No, I didn't sent the email then. I just sent it this morning, and was able to genuinely express congratulations. I was just so shocked by the strength of my reflexes and then realized that dh has none of those feelings now that we're pregnant. That just made me feel more alone, hence my posting here. Thanks ladies for the support!

Jelinfer - I too would call the IF OB. Mine offered to do a quickie u/s if I got too nervous before I was seen by my regular ob.
post #120 of 449
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Hey Jelinifer, how are things?

Me, I am pooched out already and I feel like people are suspecting. Hee hee, not telling and don't care that my company will be hard pressed to replace me. Have I mentioned I am not liking my job?
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