Pregnant after Infertility Tribe - Page 2

[Julia'sMom]

Does anyone feel like they can't complain about their pregnancy, since we worked so hard to get pregnant? Sometimes I just feel so ungrateful when I'm in the midst of normal pregnancy discomfort. I am thrilled to be pregnant, but wish I felt more comfortable with expressing my discomfort. Does that even make sense?

[Masel]

My TTC journey started 10 years ago. It took a backseat through job issues and an adoption. When I finally started having regular periods in 2006 I began charting again and finally had an IUI to help with DH's less than ideal count.

So anyway, I'm at 34 weeks and am in the weird position of already being a mom during my first pregnancy. DD has had some sleep issues lately and I feel like I never get much downtime to just enjoy being pregnant.

I don't seem to mind complaining. I've said several times that adopting was easier. The legal professionals involved treated me with more respect than medical professionals.

[Perdita_in_Ontario]

Originally Posted by Julia'sMom

Does anyone feel like they can't complain about their pregnancy, since we worked so hard to get pregnant? Sometimes I just feel so ungrateful when I'm in the midst of normal pregnancy discomfort. I am thrilled to be pregnant, but wish I felt more comfortable with expressing my discomfort. Does that even make sense?

I did the first time, but I'm waaay over that now

It doesn't matter to me how hard I worked to get here. Frankly, I felt like total crap the first trimester and I don't care how grateful I should have been to get there LOL! There were even days *gasp* when I caught myself thinking "this wasn't worth it" (I was bordering on hyperemesis gravidarum for a while).

But of course I wouldn't say that on the Infertility forum. I even quite hate having my pregnancy timeline in my signature.

[Pookietooth]

I would like to join. I conceived ds on metformin + injectibles with an IUI. After he was two and a half, we sort of started, and once he was three we did temping but no meds (I did try herbs, homeopathy, low carbing, removing foods I thought I was sensitive to etc.), and kept at it the old fashioned way until I decided that on my 42nd birthday I was going back to an RE (with dh's encouragement). I did a clomid cycle (thin lining), femara, and had two IUI cycles last year (the first one ended in a m/c). We finally decided that even though IVF was more expensive, if we only did one it would be cheaper than several IUI cycles, so we did it, and I got my BFP! So here I am 43 and finally pregnant. Ds will be almost 7 when the baby is born, which bothers me but nothing can be done to turn back the clock.
gumby74, have you read up on MTFTHR and detox issues?

[crazyrunningmama]

Originally Posted by cristeen

I completely understand this. I was on BCPs for the first 5 years we were together... and after 3 years of ART I have to sit here and go WHY?WHY?WHY?! did we waste that time. I cleaned out the medicine cabinet in preparation for baby, and found 2 packs of BCPs in there (which I threw away)... so DH asked me what we were going to do after baby arrives (to avoid) and my answer was: absolutely nothing - ask me that when I'm pregnant with the next baby and we'll discuss options then. No way am I going to actively try to avoid again - what a waste of time and money that turned out to be.

Exactly!!! During my 6 week postpartum check up after I had dd, the doc asked me what I was planning to use for birth control. I was like, are you kidding me???? For one thing, I had third degree tears, which she knew. I think they have to ask, so I said "I'll take my chances" and she said "okey-doke".

Originally Posted by Julia'sMom

Does anyone feel like they can't complain about their pregnancy, since we worked so hard to get pregnant? Sometimes I just feel so ungrateful when I'm in the midst of normal pregnancy discomfort. I am thrilled to be pregnant, but wish I felt more comfortable with expressing my discomfort. Does that even make sense?

Yes, it makes sense. I'm not complaining this time so far, but with dd I felt like I should be sweetness and light every moment. Even when I barfed. :

I posted this elsewhere, but my second beta was 6692, up from 211 last week. : I was confident, but I'm still relieved. Now the u/s......

[Sri Radha]

I am also pregnant after infertility. I am 12w5d with a singleton after an FET. This is our first and I never thought I would get here. I am so happy and thankful to be pregnant at last. I just heard the heart beat yesterday, 152 bpm! :

[boobs4milk]

congrats crazyrunningmama and sri radha!!!

[crazyrunningmama]

Hey Sri Radha, isn't it great that we're both here??? :

I feel barfy today, all I can think about is what I could eat that might make it better. Awesome to be having m/s, but shoot, I'm supposed to be getting stuff done.

How are you all???

[njsummer01]

[QUOTE=Masel;14261892]So anyway, I'm at 34 weeks and am in the weird position of already being a mom during my first pregnancy. DD has had some sleep issues lately and I feel like I never get much downtime to just enjoy being pregnant.QUOTE]

I feel the exact same way! Our DS (adopted) is the light of my life, but a very busy almost-3 yr old, so I'm really trying to find time to enjoy and honor this process. I'm really concerned about how he'll transition to not being the baby anymore. I have mild OHSS and haven't been able to pick him up for 3 weeks now, which has been very difficult for him.

But I'm really happy that my beta went up well again today!! (153 - 797- and now 1820 on 21 DPO)

I wanted to ask you ladies what you did with any extra meds you had on hand. I have a lot left (follistim) and it just seems so wrong to throw it away when it's so expensive (it's got to be $700 worth left) but I don't know if there's any way to return it or what else to do with it.

[Pookietooth]

I have 1800 IUs of Follistim (doc over-ordered and I'd forgotten to tell her I still had meds left over from the IUI), and sure wish I could do something with it, but you aren't supposed to resell it.
I do kind of feel like I can't complain, but I do anyway. To some extent.
I will never use any form of birth control again, knowing that there is no way that I can get pregnant. I remember after ds the nurse asked me what form of bc we'd be using, and I lied and said condoms. I knew it didn't matter, because we hadn't used any for years and never got pregnant. This time it will be the same. I have three frozen embryos, but I've read that there is 0% chance of success with frozen embryos from women over 40 so I'm guessing we'll donate them to research. I know dh would never consent to ttc again he was barely in favor of this one.

[crazyrunningmama]

I feel like I will burst before it is time to tell everyone I am pregnant. Since I have had dd, I have met a lot of moms that tell when they are 7-8 weeks pregnant (not close friends, either). Is it having gone through IF that makes me so hesitant to tell? Part of it is that I hate how lightly people talk about miscarriages, I can't stand the thought of people casually mentioning it if it were me. I will see a lot of family shortly after my u/s, I know it will be hard not to tell when I have the chance in person. With dd, I didn't tell until 15 weeks.

[Pookietooth]

I waited awhile to tell people, at least in part because of my m/c last year. I think I waited until around 20 weeks or so, although I started showing quite early.

[cristeen]

Originally Posted by njsummer01

I wanted to ask you ladies what you did with any extra meds you had on hand. I have a lot left (follistim) and it just seems so wrong to throw it away when it's so expensive (it's got to be $700 worth left) but I don't know if there's any way to return it or what else to do with it.

It can't be returned, at least here it can't, but I took mine in to my RE's office and "donated" it to them. There had been times when they'd given me shots without sending me to the pharmacy first, so they wound up being free - so I figured I'd pass it along to another woman.

[Julia'sMom]

Leftover meds - I also "donate" them to my clinic. They use them for women that don't have insurance or only need a small amount to carry them thru or such.

CRM & Sri Rahda - I'm so happy you're both here! : :

njsummer01 - Yeah for good betas! May the rest of your pregnancy go smoothly.

I must say, there sure are a lot of familiar names on this thread. :

[crazyrunningmama]

How are you doing Juliasmom? Are you working or ?

AFM, counting the days til my u/s, enjoying the sore boobs and barfiness....

And constipation! Dammit, how did this happen to me??

[boobs4milk]

congrats on great betas ladies!

we didn't tell people until i started to show and then they started to question me. we had just told everyone about zoe and 3 days later found out that we had lost her. this pregnancy seems like it's taking forever. we found out at 4 wks 3 days...and with all the bedrest and sickness, well the last 27 wks haven't exactly flown by!

[crazyrunningmama]

Well, I am 6 weeks today ( and with dd people didn't start noticing until 4-5 months or later, so that's a loooooooooooong wait.

How is everyone feeling?

Is this the last pregnancy for everyone or ???

[Julia'sMom]

Originally Posted by crazyrunningmama

How are you doing Juliasmom? Are you working or ?

AFM, counting the days til my u/s, enjoying the sore boobs and barfiness....

And constipation! Dammit, how did this happen to me??

I'm still working part time. Yeah, I know I keep saying I'll stop. : The budget is motivating me to keep it up as long as I can. How about you?

I have to laugh at the constipation. It still gets me sometimes, I think it may be in part due to the prenatals.


This will likely be my last pregnancy, baring a miracle from above. Definately the last time I'll seek out any "help".

[Perdita_in_Ontario]

Originally Posted by crazyrunningmama

Well, I am 6 weeks today ( and with dd people didn't start noticing until 4-5 months or later, so that's a loooooooooooong wait.

How is everyone feeling?

Is this the last pregnancy for everyone or ???

Well, don't count on the 4-5 months this time! I was almost 5 months last time when I started showing. Yeah... I was in maternity clothes by 10 weeks this time. Didn't HAVE to be, but I would have had to buy all new clothes otherwise, and I figured better to buy one set. I'm actually quite stunned by the differences between this pregnancy and last.

This is our last pregnancy. I'm sooo done with this.

So I've started chatting more with my SIL. DH's brother was recently diagnosed with the same genetic problem as he has (Congenital Bilateral Absence of Vas Deferens). She is devastated - and as they're significantly older than we were when we found out, they have far less time to come to terms with it. I feel so badly for her. When we first chatted a couple of months ago, she knew IVF/ICSI was their only hope, and she didn't realize that the chances were, at best, 50/50. She figured that if she went through this, she'd be pregnant. How awful to explain that's not the way it is.. and not wonderful to have to tell her we're pg, although I'm hoping it's a bright light for them to show them that it IS possible to have not one but two (or more!) kids with IVF. Poor woman though. I just hope that they are successful.

[crazyrunningmama]

Originally Posted by Julia'sMom

I'm still working part time. Yeah, I know I keep saying I'll stop. : The budget is motivating me to keep it up as long as I can. How about you?

I have to laugh at the constipation. It still gets me sometimes, I think it may be in part due to the prenatals.


This will likely be my last pregnancy, baring a miracle from above. Definately the last time I'll seek out any "help".

Same for us, we'll take our chances (after all these meds, I am so done with hormones forever and I don't think I'll have much luck convincing dh to wear condoms after all of this!). I have actually been off work for this cycle (nice doctor) but I need to get back to work pretty soon because after this baby, I won't be going back to work in a steady way so we had better pay some things off before then (like the $10,000 I just spent on IVF w/ICSI and meds for example). Are you feeling okay, like to get around, in and out of your car etc? I hope you are taking good care!

Originally Posted by Perdita_in_Ontario

Well, don't count on the 4-5 months this time! I was almost 5 months last time when I started showing. Yeah... I was in maternity clothes by 10 weeks this time. Didn't HAVE to be, but I would have had to buy all new clothes otherwise, and I figured better to buy one set. I'm actually quite stunned by the differences between this pregnancy and last.

This is our last pregnancy. I'm sooo done with this.

So I've started chatting more with my SIL. DH's brother was recently diagnosed with the same genetic problem as he has (Congenital Bilateral Absence of Vas Deferens). She is devastated - and as they're significantly older than we were when we found out, they have far less time to come to terms with it. I feel so badly for her. When we first chatted a couple of months ago, she knew IVF/ICSI was their only hope, and she didn't realize that the chances were, at best, 50/50. She figured that if she went through this, she'd be pregnant. How awful to explain that's not the way it is.. and not wonderful to have to tell her we're pg, although I'm hoping it's a bright light for them to show them that it IS possible to have not one but two (or more!) kids with IVF. Poor woman though. I just hope that they are successful.

Hmmm, I hadn't taken showing earlier into account, that's a good point. I'm on the heavy side, so no one will say anything for a good while though. And I haven't gained any weight yet. I can't even think what I have for maternity clothes, I have to wrap my head around digging those out of storage.

That is so sad for your SIL. I also thought IVF = success for the first round, ignorance was bliss. I was pretty young (for the group in the RE's office) and I was able to tell myself that I'd have better chances. That must be so hard for her, and your BIL. And it is hard to tell someone you know has issues that you're pg, I am in that situation with a good friend. I now she'll be happy for me, but also probably wanting to cry.

Gotta say - it is sooooooo great to see you guys here, being all pregnant and happy. : Thanks for joining this thread and keeping me company.