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post #381 of 449
Welcome to the new ladies!

Poet- I am so excited for your u/s!!

Pookie- I haven't heard any stats on that. I imagine though that they would be similar to anyone younger with frozen embies because the age of the egg has stayed the same. I'm not sure though.

How is everyone else doing? I am ok. 39 weeks tomorrow! I'm so ready for them to be here though.
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My RE just did two OB u/s's - one at six weeks to confirm the pregnancy and one at eight weeks to make sure everything was still going ok; then she released me to ob care, which in my case was a midwife.
post #383 of 449
Just thought I"d let you ladies know I"m still lurking along.

Welcome to the newly pregnant!! It's so wonderful when this group increases. : :Joy:

Nummies - You are my hero, 39 weeks. Bless you girl. It will be worth it.

Pookie - How brave you are. I agree that I think the age of the eggs is more important than the age of the Mom.

CRM - :

AFM, still struggling with the feeding. Sarah lost weight soley on the breast, so she is back to minimal supplementation with the bottle. Bengjamin has just started to nurse, at 1 month of age. HOwever, he still takes the majority of feedings from teh bottle. Pumping is not keeping up so I"m struggling with nursing two, bottle feeding two, pumping and making formula. Crazy times. We're giving it to 8 weeks, then the pumping has to go. It's just too much. Pray my supply increases and Benjamin and Sarah really start to gain weight and strength. Twins are a blessing, as I remind myself everyday when I wish I only had one to deal with.
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CRM, Congrats on news of your little girl! Two girls sounds so lovely. I love sisters.

I'm having the big u/s on Tuesday and a bit nervous about it. We haven't seen the little one since 8.5 wks and I haven't been able to feel movement yet. We have heard movement on the doppler though, flips and lots of activity. My belly is really hard. I had pretty strong ab muscles, so I'm thinking maybe that has something to do with it.
Thanks, the two girls thing is sinking in and I'm feeling okay about it. Not to be ungrateful, but this means I'll never have a son, which I always expected to. Weird how our expectations set us up.

So it's Tuesday and I was thinking of you. Hope it went well and you got lots of great pictures!!
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Anyone know if women over 40 have any luck with their own frozen embryos?
No idea on the stats, but I know where you're coming from. As soon as DD was born I was wondering "when can we do this again?". Enjoy your babe!!
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How is everyone else doing? I am ok. 39 weeks tomorrow! I'm so ready for them to be here though.
I sooooo thought your post was going to be a baby update! Congrats on making it this far, we'll be thinking of you and waiting for a baby update with bated breath.
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CRM - :

..... Pray my supply increases and Benjamin and Sarah really start to gain weight and strength. Twins are a blessing, as I remind myself everyday when I wish I only had one to deal with.
Thanks, backatcha! for increased supply. You are doing great and giving those babies such a gift. I have seen a friend go through the drama with breastfeeding twins, I hope you are getting lots and lots of support (in real life, I mean). Let everyone from your church, playgroups, family, neighbours, whatever help you in any way they can (and damn the dirty floor). You are doing such an important thing right now!!! Here's also wishing you a good LC or LLL leader, the right herbs? medication? for increasing your supply.

AFM, feeling fine, baby kicks me in the cervix and bowels a lot, which is weird. Less than three months left of work, can't wait!!!!
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Bumping.
I feel huge today, how are you all?

Nummies? Update???
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Bumping.
I feel huge today, how are you all?

Nummies? Update???
Feeling huge too. As of this week I had to start sitting down to put on pants, and I think I'm going to need help with getting on socks and shoes soon.... I'm not ready for this just yet!
post #387 of 449
Just a drive-by to say...very healthy looking BOY for us!
I knew this really. DH has practically all fast swimmers.
The a-ok normal stamp put us over the moon. IF prepped me to always expect the other show to drop, to never feel 100% safe. I feel much better after our lovely peek in.

More later, and lots of
post #388 of 449
Poet - Yeah for boy! and double yeah for healthy! :Joy: :

CRM - My DD1 LOVES her sister. I definately see the advantage to that bond. As for her brother...well...she could take or leave him.

Nummies - I"m dying to get some news here. Here's to hoping your busy babymooning. :Love
post #389 of 449
Hello everyone!!!

Poet: Boys are fabulous....if I do say so myself

Benjamin is doing well. He's three months next week! Crazy how time has flown. I'm including a recent picture of him. Next week I start my internship and a little worried about how he is going to do. Well, actually more worried how I am going to do away from him.

http://i71.photobucket.com/albums/i1...n/DSC02401.jpg
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Grrrrr. Okay, here's a new topic. Guilt for feeling blue/bitchy/overwhelmed. As you all know, I wanted nothing more than to get pregnant again and have one more child. Today especially I am so blah and cranky, hating my job, feeling bogged down by the housework that I'm NOT doing and letting my kid watch way too much TV. Still. And kicking myself because I should be "so happy" every second of the day (this is the start of the third trimester aches and pains for me as well). Also worried about getting PPD (cause I think I had it to some degree after DD). Help!
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Grrrrr. Okay, here's a new topic. Guilt for feeling blue/bitchy/overwhelmed. As you all know, I wanted nothing more than to get pregnant again and have one more child. Today especially I am so blah and cranky, hating my job, feeling bogged down by the housework that I'm NOT doing and letting my kid watch way too much TV. Still. And kicking myself because I should be "so happy" every second of the day (this is the start of the third trimester aches and pains for me as well). Also worried about getting PPD (cause I think I had it to some degree after DD). Help!
I feel the same way too- really bummed some days and then really guilty afterwards because I feel like I should be a sparkling ray of grateful sunshine after what we went through to get here. Everyone talks about PPD, but not about having the blues while PG- and yet one of my books (I think it was Your Pregnancy Week by Week) was saying that depression is more commonly diagnosed during pg than PPD.... I'm also afraid of PPD too if this is the way things are going for me so far. Could you get someone to watch your DD so you could have a bit of "me" time? Get a massage, catch a movie, take a yoga class, go out for some decaf with girlfriends.... whatever you feel up to that will help you unwind and help with the stress. Hang in there and remember.... take it one day at a time
post #392 of 449
I thought I would revive this thread and let everyone know that nummies had her babies!!!!

CRM: I totally get where you are coming from and just have to say that all those feelings are completely normal and means that you are human. I had PPD after DS1 was born and I was scared to death that was going to happen with DS2, but so far....it hasn't. Not to say there hasn't been days of frustration and uncalled for anger, but overall I am feeling much better. I think because my life circumstances are different now and I am taking fish oil, I feel better. Best wishes to you and Jelinifer!!
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Yay nummies!!!!
http://www.mothering.com/discussions...992&highlight= The highlight:
"Gavin Quinn and Kai Nicholas were born on January 12th (their due date).

Gavin was 8lbs 5oz and 20 inches long. He was born at 6:11am.

Kai was 7lbs even and 19 inches long. He was born at 7:04am.

It was an amazing homebirth!!!" Wowowowowowowow!!!


Thanks for the support guys! True, I am not always a "sparkling ray of grateful sunshine" (love that!) but that was a not good day. I am seeing a counsellor just as a precaution and because I clearly still have some things to process about dd's birth. Trying to take time for myself but also trying to work as much as I can before going on mat leave. It's a hard balance. And fitting in the yucky GD screen this morning didn't help!
post #394 of 449
Hi everyone. I've not been here in while. I was posting back in August (as Furrow; changed my screenname), but then I miscarried. Now I'm 13 weeks along with a new pregnancy

CRM-- I'm just now getting over the funk you describe, and I'll probably go through it again. I've dealt with the guilt issues, but you know what? I say screw the guilt. Infertility (and for some, m/c) takes away too much already. It shouldn't take from us the right to feel what other "normal" pregnant women and new mothers are allowed to feel. I'll step down from my soapbox now

AFM -- I'm finally off the icky progesterone suppitories. Hooray!
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Amy- Welcome back!!!!!!
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Amy, It's so wonderful to welcome you back! Cheers!

Wow, Nummies rocks. Full term twins and home birth, that is quite something! Congratulations Nummies!!!

I can chime in with the complexity of not having that ART constantly follow you around. My inlaws told extended family about our problems, and it came up 3 times during a baby shower they had for me. I had to do some heart to heart talking about what it is really like and how I just want to publicly be normally pregnant. Sigh.
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Poet, seriously, are you catching up to me? It seemed like you got your BFP waaaay after me and now we're so close. When's your EDD? Mine is April 19 (but I am mentally preparing to go early, but not actually, you know preparing my house or anything normal like that).

AmyKT Thanks, you are right. And yes, saying good bye to those suppositories was a happy, happy day.

Thanks to all for the kind words about my mental health, it's good to know I'm not the only one. It is still up and down and I am seeing a counsellor in a prevention sort of way. SPD hit hard this week and physical pain wears me down emotionally as well. But, baby is thumping around regularly in there for which I am very, very grateful.

How are all of our twins mamas doing? to you (and happy nursing, good sleeping, and a lack of stupid comments from bystanders)

We haven't seen Perdita in a while! And and welcome to all who have joined this thread in the last while. Many, many congratulations.
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How is everyone doing this week?
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Poet, seriously, are you catching up to me? It seemed like you got your BFP waaaay after me and now we're so close. When's your EDD? Mine is April 19 (but I am mentally preparing to go early, but not actually, you know preparing my house or anything normal like that).
Ha! Nope I've always been just a month behind you. My EDD is 5/24/10
I personally think that the first month of being preg. after IVF is like living in a portal though, each week passed is monumental. I think anyone who got a bfp a month after me would seem far off too, but we're close!

So I'll try this out here. I am not a big person. I had a low BMI to start, and I've not been ragingly hungry during this preg. Eating fairly similarly to how I ate before. Yet in 23 wks, I've gained 23 pounds and the fundus is measuring ahead too. I don't really care per se, but it was unexpected and worried me a little. I find that if I talk about it with others, I get the 'don't complain after what you went through' looks. Don't some of you feel like it's nice to still have a right to process your pregnancy w/out the constant lens of IF?

Other than that I'm really well. I finally started feeling little boy at 23 wks. This must be some honkin anterior placenta! DH and I read to him every night before we go to bed which I love, and we are taking a natural childbirth class that is so wonderful. It's a little early but it was the only one we could fit into our schedule. I think it's nice to learn so much a little earlier. I feel like we're really on the same page and it's great.

What's new with everyone else?
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Perdita - Where are you?

I'm so glad to see everyone's pregnancy progressing smoothly. I too had the feeling that I couldn't complain, after all, the pregnancy was what I wanted and tried for so long to acheive. In fact, I still feel that pressure. As much as I love my kiddos, there have been many times when I've cursed the if that resulted in twins. It would have been so much easier one at a time like a normal fertile woman. However, this really isn't something I feel I can tell anyone, because who would understand?

AFM, the twins are doing well. They're getting older and more alert and we've acheived the first smiles. Unfortunately, they still aren't getting heavier. Benjamin is still 8 lb even and Sarah is just 7lb at almost 8 weeks old. THey're both nursing, hallelujah, and we're keeping up supplemental bottles in hopes that they'll gain weight. Sleeping is falling in a routine, so I have nothing to complain about there. I can't wait to see all the other beautiful babies coming soon. :Joy: :Joy:
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