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post #21 of 51
So very sad, poor little guy. I'm so sorry for the family and for your family.
post #22 of 51
I hope you guys can get an answer. How heartbreaking.
post #23 of 51
I cannot imagine. Poor little Andrew for him, for you, your family and his too.
post #24 of 51
This is so incredibly sad. I hope something comes to light.
post #25 of 51
I am so very sorry for this tragedy. (Tears)

My heart goes out to you and Andrew's family....I hope you find out some answers...
post #26 of 51
I am very sorry.
post #27 of 51
I'm so very sorry you are having to go through this. I'm so very sorry for Andrew's family.

A similar loss happened to my aunt and uncle's neighbors. The little boy was just shy of 2 yo. The cause of death ended up being from complications resulting from being born without a gallbladder and he passed in his sleep while taking a nap one afternoon at daycare. The care provider had checked back in 15 min after she put him down and he was already gone. They had no idea there was a problem before that. Just a few instances that made you think "hmmmm...." I wonder if there is more to that (such as mild developmental delays). But, really nothing that made his parents run to the doctor panic stricken. Sad, so very, very sad. I still have trouble looking at their house when I visit my aunt and uncle. I'm still so sad for them and its been over 3 years ago.
post #28 of 51
I'm so sorry for your loss. Wishing you peace.
post #29 of 51
thats so sad r.i.p little man

post #30 of 51
How heartbreaking. I am so sorry for you and the little boys family. I can't imagine losing a child I was close to. I hope that the autopsy brings some kind of answers and peace to your heart.
post #31 of 51
Andrew
post #32 of 51
I am so very, very, very sorry for your loss. Andrew

Thank you for the courage it took to share your story.

I hope you find the answers you need. I wish I had some answers to offer.

From your phrasing, I assume you know about this site about Sudden Unexplained Child Death, but thought I'd mention it anyway, just in case. The site mentions peer support services for family members, and childcare providers, too, who have experienced this kind of loss. Maybe connecting with others in similar circumstances might help with the search for answers?

In a similar tragedy in my own community a couple of years ago, the bereaved family found meaning in raising awareness about SUCD and funds for research into causes.

The Compassionate Friends is an organization that I have some personal experience with, one that has helped people I know well who have experienced the loss of a child.

My prayers and condolences to you and your family, and to the little boy's family. What an unspeakably devastating experience for all of you. May you find peace and healing.
post #33 of 51
I am so sorry!
post #34 of 51
Oh my God

I am so sorry.

I'm sure the cause could have been many undiagnosed conditions. I thought heart, due to his sleepiness, but it might have been any organ, or a metabolic issue, even a brain issue. I just have no idea. From what you said it sounds like he had something going on for a long time. Since there was an autopsy all you can do is wait for the other test results. If nothing is ever found, that must be so hard, to have no answers. I think in that situation I would want a second opinion on the autopsy records. It would be so hard to let go without knowing.

You did all you could. He was a lucky boy to have a lot of love in his time on earth.
post #35 of 51
oh no. how horrible, mama. im so very sorry. i hope for some answers for you all soon.
post #36 of 51
Im so sorry for the loss of sweet Andrew.
post #37 of 51
Metabolic defects are commonly to blame, I know fatty acid oxidation defects can easily kill a child and sadly if its not caught at birth its often caught after its to late in infancy/toddlerhood Their bodies just literally run out of fuel (glucose) and instead of kicking over to fat burning mode they can't and there little bodies just shut down. I'm guessing the test for mito defects are one of the labs pending. I hope they find answers for you and the family and you will be able to find some peace
post #38 of 51
. Unfortunately, I know this all too well. This very same thing happened to us with our foster son (whom we were in the process of adopting) in January. Just had a doc appt on a Thursday, declared healthy, happy little boy, a week later, we went to get him from a nap, he was gone. There were no signs or anything. We FINALLY got his autopsy report after months of waiting on the brain tests and toxicology...they ruled it SUID JUST this August!. For us, it is not good enough. People have said "Well, I bet you guys have closure now!" Closure? hardly. We are upset and very sad. No one knows why. They pulled the health records of his mother and said that it could be anything...but they do not know what.

I am so sorry for you and this little boys' family. I know how hard it can be in an unexplained death. My prayers are with you.
post #39 of 51
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still waiting...thank you all for your thoughts and prayers...
post #40 of 51
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Originally Posted by momz3 View Post
. Unfortunately, I know this all too well. This very same thing happened to us with our foster son (whom we were in the process of adopting) in January. Just had a doc appt on a Thursday, declared healthy, happy little boy, a week later, we went to get him from a nap, he was gone. There were no signs or anything. We FINALLY got his autopsy report after months of waiting on the brain tests and toxicology...they ruled it SUID JUST this August!. For us, it is not good enough. People have said "Well, I bet you guys have closure now!" Closure? hardly. We are upset and very sad. No one knows why. They pulled the health records of his mother and said that it could be anything...but they do not know what.

I am so sorry for you and this little boys' family. I know how hard it can be in an unexplained death. My prayers are with you.
I'm so sorry, mama (HUGS).

You mentioned a doctors appt and I was wondering if he received any vaccines that day?
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