The most self-questioning, "what do I do now?" time for me as a parent isn't the infant stage, it's the adult stage. When I can't kiss away the miscarriage, the ups and downs of adult relationships, the frustrations of finding a job, etc. On the other hand, it's also the most rewarding time as well. To be on the side lines and watch my adult children struggle and find their own solutions and realize that I had a hand in all that. To see my children raise their children.
Right now planning for the future aka this college thing is our biggest issue. My son definitely wants to go to a 4 year school and I think he will excel but I also have ideas that he doesn't want to listen to and I am struggling to let him find his way, I have told him the parameters of what I can afford and he knows what he has to work with....
I finally understand my own parents so much better. In some ways the baby, and childhood years are easier at least to me.