I think my MIL has officially lost it.

[Pernillep]

this is what she posted on facebook today.......


My daughter-in-law, Pernille, who has my utmost respect and admiration. She is a great mother and wife....waiting on the birth of her second child....


I don't even know what to say to that.... other than WOW. I should be flattered but it makes me really uncomfortable.

ETA: I see I am apparently the odd man out that thinks this is odd. Well, all I can say, it is cultural. I don't do "sugar" sweet, it creeps me out and makes me uncomfortable.
Guess being 42 weeks pregnant makes me want people to STOP talking about, asking or announcing anythign about my babies, birth etc.

[slimkins]

That definitely sounds like something that my in laws would post. I think for them and maybe even my parents, that is all they kind of have going in life. Even though they have "hobbies", they really just live for their families and any new additions to their families. I notice they never brag about "things" they have... other than family. Odd, yeah, but definitely endearing.

[Heavenly]

Just lurking but I don't understand how that is upsetting. My facebook status has been all about my SIL for the last two days because she was in labour and just had her first baby! I am excited and proud of her and obviously your MIL feels the same about you. My MIL and have a horrible relationship, I would love to have my MIL write something like that about me.

[thepoet]

is she normally not so sweet? Is that why you think she's fallen off the deep ened?

Babies do crazy things to people hehe. Enjoy it!

[EdnaMarie]

Huh. I am sorry you feel uncomfortable, but I don't really get what's weird there. It seems really sweet. She's going to be the grandmother, so she naturally feels some ownership of the situation.

[LisainCalifornia]

I really think that is so sweet. You are very fortunate to have a mother in law that thinks so highly of you and loves her grandkids. Try very hard not to ever take that for granted--because that is pure gold.

[cocoanib]

She sounds really sweet and excited about the new baby.
That's awesome!

[ScarletBegonias]

not in your ddc, but i think i may understand where you're coming from. my mil says the same kind of stuff, but in a stepford-y-wife kind of way. she means well, but it honestly weirds me out some times.

[Pernillep]

Originally Posted by ScarletBegonias

not in your ddc, but i think i may understand where you're coming from. my mil says the same kind of stuff, but in a stepford-y-wife kind of way. she means well, but it honestly weirds me out some times.

YES, totally this.
I don't know I am not used to people being overly sweet. I just didn't grow up like that and it makes me really uncomfortable. I just don't do "sugar" like that well. Most of the time it just seems fake to me. I know they are really nice people and I am fortunete but at almost 42 weeks pregnant I wish someone would focus on something other than the baby or me for that matter. I just want to crawl into a hole.

[spiritedmama]

I hear you pernillip! i don't want anyone talking about me or the baby or not being labor......I have given hubby strict instructions. Don't tell me who called and is wondering, don't tell me about convo's about it at work, etc....I can see what you are talking about the stepford-y-wife thing. We don't do that in our family either BUT, at least she is saying NICE things about you

[~Laura~]

Originally Posted by Pernillep

YES, totally this.
I don't know I am not used to people being overly sweet. I just didn't grow up like that and it makes me really uncomfortable. I just don't do "sugar" like that well. Most of the time it just seems fake to me.

DDC crashing, but this is my husband exactly. He was raised without any sweetness (well, he had plenty of the opposite) and it has taken him YEARS (going on 9 now) to even get remotely comfortable with it. Unfortunately for him (or fortunately, depending on how you look at it), he married into a very tight family and has a MIL that gushes over him daily like he was her own. He's still not comfortable with it, but at least he knows it isn't fake now. We are all genuinely head over heels for him and want to make sure he knows it daily.

It took me some time to "get" this about him (it was frustrating at the start), so I totally understand why it wouldn't make sense to most people.

Laura

[HippyChick]

idk how id feel in your situation but i just gave birth to my first a amazing little girl and the faternal grandmother, dispite my efforts to contact her, and messages ive left her ect, has not even called me or shown any intrest in even meeting her new grandchild so i would love a little of this sugary nonsense right now, its certainly better then what the alternative might be, i definatley dont want to sound judgemental or try to say your feelings are unjustified by any means so please dont be offended by any of this, im just throwing in my view, maybe considering how she might be acting can help you not gag so much from all the sugar lol

[marlygf]

I totally get what you're saying. My family was not lovey and dh's mom is totally lovey! Its really hard to get used to and like you said, take them seriously, when you've never experienced it before.