Astrid, where are you? I've seen REs here in Canada, and you usually find them at fertility (IVF) clinics. They don't just do IVF there, and every major city or university seems to have a fertility center. It's worth the drive to see someone who has a clue!
As far as clueless comments, you can't get away from them when you adopt either! Before we had kids, people always said that if we just relaxed and went on a vacation we'd get pregnant. So the fact that women get pregnant from rape situations has no bearing? I'm sure that at least 95% of babes are conceived at home. Whatever.
These people are just uncomfortable with topics like this and try to make them go away by saying some trite thing. While we were trying to adopt, people said that everyone who adopts gets pregnant after. WTH? Again, this happens less than 5% of the time, but everyone remembers it because it's such a cute story. I sure wouldn't want anyone to go out and adopt a child just so they could conceive, like they REALLY wanted after all.
Yes, I get bitter. I know people are well-meaning, but it's just clueless of them. An infertility group I'm on calls them WeMBIs (Well-meaning but ignorant.) I think it's a very useful term!
Kerri
As far as clueless comments, you can't get away from them when you adopt either! Before we had kids, people always said that if we just relaxed and went on a vacation we'd get pregnant. So the fact that women get pregnant from rape situations has no bearing? I'm sure that at least 95% of babes are conceived at home. Whatever.
These people are just uncomfortable with topics like this and try to make them go away by saying some trite thing. While we were trying to adopt, people said that everyone who adopts gets pregnant after. WTH? Again, this happens less than 5% of the time, but everyone remembers it because it's such a cute story. I sure wouldn't want anyone to go out and adopt a child just so they could conceive, like they REALLY wanted after all.
Yes, I get bitter. I know people are well-meaning, but it's just clueless of them. An infertility group I'm on calls them WeMBIs (Well-meaning but ignorant.) I think it's a very useful term!
Kerri
I did not cause her physical harm because I figured adopting from jail would be hard. I shouldn't have worried, she held up the paperwork I needed from her so long the agency stopped placing kids in my state and I ended up not adopting. (long story!)
