Originally Posted by sisteeesmama
Should life be that hard? No. Is it sometimes? Yep, it is.
I mean, like I said, it would be nice if everyone worried about that kind of stuff for our convenience so that we would never be put in the situation of our child being given something we don;t want them to have or could even kill them like a peanut m&m for a child with peanut allergies. But how can you make everyone care? How can you make everyone ask everytime? And should you really want that? I just don't subscribe to the mentality that because someone might have a peanut allergy that I shouldn't send my kid to school with a peanut butter sandwich, just as an example.
I don't see sending one's own child to school with a PB sandwich and giving another person's child candy as being the same thing at all. Giving a child candy without checking with a parent is pretty irresponsible. In the OP's case, the woman at least offered it in front of the mom. People do know about allergies these days. People do know that kids (at least some of them) get wired on sugar and dyes. They just don't give a crap.
Obviously, you can't make everyone care. I never thought we could. That doesn't mean I think it's okay that people don't care if they kill a child to prove their point that parents are "too mean" to let their kids experience the joys of candy. And, no - I don't think everyone who offers a kid candy has that kind of motivation, but some definitely do. There have been a couple of examples in this thread.
|This is a free country and people just do not have to subscribe to your ideals. And thank God, because it means that I don't have to subscribe to theirs!
I do genuinely feel sorry for moms with kids who have severe food allergies, I really do, but it boils down to this your situation, this is your kid.
Exactly. It's their
kid. So, don't hand their
kid a candy without clearing it with mom and dad. That woman in ER almost killed my niece - not because she wanted to give a little girl a candy, but because she couldn't be bothered to say, "excuse me, is it okay for me to give this to your daughter?". To say my SIL was "responsible", because she turned her head for a second, while waiting in an ER for word on her grandmother, strikes me as really bizarre.
People in our complex give dd1 crap when she's playing with their kids. They do it all the time. I don't mind. But, if dd1 had a peanut allergy, you can bet I'd have made sure they all knew it, and that dd1 had it drilled through her head that she can't
take anything that's offered.