DS just turned 2 and for we've been going to the gym for the past 6 months or so. He always did ok, but..
In the last month he started grabbing other kids faces, or pulling their hair extremely hard...at least 1 or 2 kids end up in tears nearly everytime.
We usually go about 3x/week, 45 minutes at a time. The last time we went I got paged to the kids room after 2 minutes of being there and he left a raised welt on a little girls face right near her eye from grabbing and scratching her face. They looked at me like they didn't want him there anymore, and I could understand that. I felt bad because I was pissed at ds all day and was really rude to him. I know that was a terrible way to react, but I just got really angry over the whole situation.
But, since I've had a couple of days to think things over I don't think its unreasonable to ask the girls who work there to provide him with closer supervision. (Acutally, I've mentioned this several times to all the girls who work there). The day this happened there were two girls in the room, maybe 10 kids, and both girls were sitting. My thoughts are: is it unreasonable to think that they can try and engage DS a bit more instead of just ignoring him and perpetuating the vibe of him being unwelcome?
I know he's been having boundry issues and he isn't very verbal yet. I've taught him to say "back!" when he needs his space, however, I don't think other kids under 2 would understand that.
I don't know what to do. That's pretty much my only outlet for excercise since its over 100 heat index every day for the next month or so...it's literally impossible to go out for a run or to a park. Without it, I start to get depressed and into a really negative headspace.
I don't want to be irresponsible towards other children, but I also feel that the daycare providers need to be doing more (I know they are generally busy and underpaid, but still...).
Also, when he acts out, I don't show up for a minute afterwards, so its too late at that point to do a time-out or anything. Is it bad for the providers to put him in the time-out section? I really don't want to do anything to make the situation worse, but I don't know what to do to make it better either.
Please help, I really need advice here...
In the last month he started grabbing other kids faces, or pulling their hair extremely hard...at least 1 or 2 kids end up in tears nearly everytime.
We usually go about 3x/week, 45 minutes at a time. The last time we went I got paged to the kids room after 2 minutes of being there and he left a raised welt on a little girls face right near her eye from grabbing and scratching her face. They looked at me like they didn't want him there anymore, and I could understand that. I felt bad because I was pissed at ds all day and was really rude to him. I know that was a terrible way to react, but I just got really angry over the whole situation.
But, since I've had a couple of days to think things over I don't think its unreasonable to ask the girls who work there to provide him with closer supervision. (Acutally, I've mentioned this several times to all the girls who work there). The day this happened there were two girls in the room, maybe 10 kids, and both girls were sitting. My thoughts are: is it unreasonable to think that they can try and engage DS a bit more instead of just ignoring him and perpetuating the vibe of him being unwelcome?
I know he's been having boundry issues and he isn't very verbal yet. I've taught him to say "back!" when he needs his space, however, I don't think other kids under 2 would understand that.
I don't know what to do. That's pretty much my only outlet for excercise since its over 100 heat index every day for the next month or so...it's literally impossible to go out for a run or to a park. Without it, I start to get depressed and into a really negative headspace.
I don't want to be irresponsible towards other children, but I also feel that the daycare providers need to be doing more (I know they are generally busy and underpaid, but still...).
Also, when he acts out, I don't show up for a minute afterwards, so its too late at that point to do a time-out or anything. Is it bad for the providers to put him in the time-out section? I really don't want to do anything to make the situation worse, but I don't know what to do to make it better either.
Please help, I really need advice here...
