How many people have been harrassed for bf in public? - Page 4

[isign]

DH has been super supportive of BFin, and realized the lack of support in our area. He was in the mall a few weeks ago with some youth from church and saw a mom NIP with a cover similar to mine. When he told me the story, he said he just couldn't help himself. As he passed her, he smiled at her and said that his wife nurses too, and said something encouraging to her hope it really made her day.

[bubbamummy]

I could never nurse with a cover Ds hated it, so I had my entire breast on show at the US immigration desk in Dallas Int. Airport with a VERY fussy DS refusing to nurse properly after a LONG flight, no one uttered a word DH was slightly mortified, but whatever

[annettemarie]

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[JessicaS]

Hello,

This thread is being reopened.

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Thank you.

[jocelynr]

I voted no, but something has happened since then. I wouldn't consider it harassment, but it did make me feel like a 2nd class citizen.

Dh has a friend who has been bugging us to go to church with them. I didn't want to go because I really like the church we currently go to, but I did it for his sake. The first thing that bothered me was that it took over an hour and a half to get there (too far with a baby). We get there, and this place is HUGE. I go with the wife to drop off her kids at the kids ministry. They start to give me something to fill out for dd, but I tell them that I am not going to leave her. She's going through some separation anxiety, and neither of us knew the caretakers or other children in the nursery. Plus she really needed to nurse after that long drive (she's 1, not tiny, but still). I was told that children aren't allowed in the sanctuary and that I had to take her to the green room if I wanted to keep her with me. OK, fine. Not great, but whatever. Then I asked her if she was ready to nurse, and someone then said, "Oh, well for nursing we require (well request) you to go to the nursing room." WTH! I am upset now. Of course, dh isn't allowed in there. There is a door with a window, but I am sitting on the same wall, so no one would be able to see me anyway (not like I cared). This woman (who drove dh's friend) put her jacket over the window b/c they couldn't find the curtain. I told her that I was fine and didn't need it, but she said it was for everyone else. At that point, I just wanted to leave, but I knew that dd would not go back in the carseat. It just made me sick. I always nurse in church, in the pew.

[sarahr]

I was once asked to leave a kinko's, where I had taken a break from my copying when my dh brought my dd to nurse. But when I stood my ground, they backed off quickly.

[FelixMom]

Once, by my late mother while having dim sum (stop it, ma, the longer you make a fuss, the more you're drawing attention to me...) and once in the public library by a security guard--a woman, no less!--who wanted to bully me and my two kids into a dinky little room dubbed the nursing room because otherwise all the little kids would be corrupted by my NIP BFing...

[woodensandals]

No harassment for feeding in public, but when I was pregnant I was harassed by people encouraging me to breastfeed. Not that I wouldn't take that as good advice from my relatives or my midwife... just not so much from the guy on line at the deli, the teenage male cashier at Duane Reade, or the VP of a department I don't work for. So weird.

[KirstenMary]

I have been niping for over 6 years. Once, I received a dirty look, but that's been it.

[mom2reenie]

I've got a dirty look when nursing DS1. When I was bottlefeeding DD in the mall, a lady walked by and made a comment about me feeding my baby poison. When I was nursing DS1 a lady came and told me to keep up the good work.
DS2 won't nurse if he hears other people outside our immeidate family, so the only time I NIP with him is if there is a really quiet seculded area and he's desperate, so not even looks when I nurse him.

[terese17]

well, I hit no for the poll, but then I was reading all the others posts and I started thinking. I had my firtst son the end of my sophomore yr in college, and my second in the middle of my senior year. I used to take them to class with me when they were very small, they were always on campus. I did have a cousin of mine, who also had a son the same age, tell me that a classmate of hers had asked her if she would ask me "not to just whip my boob out all the time, you know, there are daycares." I'm pretty sure I just laughed about it, there aren't too many college kids on board with the pg and nursing stuff so it didnt really bother me.

[KnitLady]

Never. I've been NIP for 3.5 yrs now and although I've gotten a look or two, no one has ever said a word to me.

[frontierpsych]

nope, never. Been NIP for a year now.