Wow. I honestly thought no one would reply!
|OP i am assuming you havent been back home either.
No, I havent been back in 10 years and I almost cant believe it. I really really miss my family very much. Ive seen my mom, she's been over here twice. I miss my dad, brother and sister and her daughter very much.
I can relate SO much to so much of what everyone's said. Its very strange to me that my kids have NO experience of american life apart from what they see on tv. I mean, tbh, I love britain, I love the different tiny cultural differences, but its still a culture shock, just like someone else said. As my kids get older, also, I am feeling more and more like I dont fit in. We never intended to stay in the UK, we were planning on going back to the states within 3 years of me getting over here. Long story. So, I never intended to settle in. Infact, it wasnt until about 2 or 3 years ago, that I decided to completely shelve the idea of ever going back to live.
|Hi Genifer -- I am also an American living in the UK!
I am in Norfolk; where are you? Do you use any of the British parenting websites (don't know if I am allowed to link to them?)
I have lived here almost 18 years and I still get culture shock moments (sigh).
It's funny, but somethings I want to blame on cultural differences and it turns out that things have changed back in the States, too, in the same way, I am just out of touch both ways.
We lived up north for 8 years, including in Manchester for five years. We're now living in Plymouth, just outside of Cornwall. Plymouth is awesome. We are in the center of the most beautiful part of the country (Imho). I LOVE it. I love visiting Plymouth seafront and walking on the Mayflower steps and the history of this part of the country. I said to dh that I could settle and grow old here. We only moved to plymouth a year ago, but dh grew up here and had quietly been pining to come back to this part of the country the whole 20 yrs he'd been away.
Oh yeah, Ive never found any british parenting sites, Im sure its ok to post them or just pm me with them. thatd be cool. In a lot of ways I cant relate to some people. Or they dont get me, whatever. There is this council estate culture, where a lot of people are on benefits for ages, which we were but never intended to stay on them. There are different attitudes to growing up over here then in the States. I dont always get those. I guess it stems from kids finishing up with formal education when they are 16. That scares me!!!! Really. Im at a stage where Ive got to change. (welling up...)... Ive got to accept that Im not going back and at this point even if I did, everything'd be different. ID be different! My family back home. My brother called me Mary Poppins the last time spoke to him (which was a good three years ago). It really really gets me sometimes. Now the reasons why I havent spoke to him in that long are... well its another long story. Id been estranged from my family for ..oooh about 6 years... just not on very good terms. All they wanted to know from me when I spoke to them was when we were coming 'home'. My dh and I eloped and they really never accepted it (homelife was ... challenging. Not horrid, but strained). I eloped with my dh after knowing each other for less then 5 months. It was a total shock to them, I think.
Anyway. Im glad I started this thread too. So surprised to see so many posts when i logged on. Im glad there are some I can relate to.