Originally Posted by ithappened
Also, I dont know what part of the US you live, but if you are anywhere near a city, I always found a ton of different types of playgroups available
I'm sure you're right. It was particularly hard for me when we moved here as I was struggling with some physical challenges, which made getting out anywhere with two children very hard. Also, some things that I did try seemed very unwelcoming, like a local chapter of a national mothers group wouldn't even tell me anything that was on their schedule unless I paid and I didn't want to pay only to find that locations and times didn't work out for us. I tried a handful of things, found that we had enough going on and didn't really explore anymore. Now a few things have changed for us that mean I probably could do with starting that process again.
It's just happened to be a year or so with a lot of change for us, we were going to a big church and they planted a church, so we went with the plant and we're very happy with that, but it also meant there was no longer a daytime bible study for me to go to and I made the choice that I wasn't going to seek that at a church other than our own.
We had an unplanned 3rd baby, which has put me back into baby mode, which I haven't done here before. The odd thing I have gone to, I find that because of the gap between kids that my 4.5yr old is often the oldest when most people have toddlers, but that I also don't fit into baby focused groups.
DD is at preschool 3 mornings a week and I'm really hoping that after Christmas I can schedule a baby only activity during that time. It can be tricky to pay for things up front then feel you have to go and it can make it difficult to schedule one off appointments.
I've also not continued with a couple of activities that I did alone that aren't easily compatible with a nursing baby (she's 6 months today) at first I didn't really notice then over time I've come to really miss them.
I've been struggling with depression, it started during the pregnancy and I've been on medication for about 7 months now, unfortunately it really doesn't seem to be working all that well, which makes things even harder, I get anxious about going to things whether it's meeting new people or with people I know. This time of year has always been hard for me since we've been away from home, we have an invite for Thanksgiving and I'm looking forward to that, but I'm dreading Christmas.