what do you guys think about the language suggested by hypnobirthing people - like surges instead of contractions?
i agree, language is very powerful. when i had my early miscarriage, googling and coming up with "chemical pregnancy" made me question whether it was even valid, as an experience, to be processed.... i got over that
I think that different terms apply to different types of birth.
For instance....I am generally opposed to the term "Delivered" when used by OBs/MWs/Nurses, etc...because a woman delivers the baby...it doesn't take a lot but waiting around to catch a baby! But the sad fact is, that there are some women who aren't really involved in their birthing experience...I mean, there are some women who don't even know when they are having a ctx and have to be told when to push because they can't feel any urge to....I don't know. In some cases, I think it is appropriate to say "managed" and to say that an OB "delivered" a baby. Edit to add: To clarify, I think that has more to do with the mama handing over the reigns than WHERE it is that she gives birth. Some women give birth in a hospital, but still deliver their own babies. Some women don't WANT to be that active in their birth and gladly hand over the reigns to an OB....in which case, I think the OB DID deliver the baby.
I don't like words that make the process of birth seem like anything less than a wild, spiritual, intimate experience....but for some women it's not that...so what do you do? Some women like a medicalized birth...it makes them feel more comfortable with the whole thing...so...what do you do?
I guess we all use the lingo that feels right to us...and that reflects our "birth dialect"....shows where we are coming from, when it comes to the subject of birth.
Me.....I prefer the company of crows, a river, some trees and my strange wonderful husband, when I dance my birth dance....when I think of birth, it is words like: magic, energy, great creative spark, goddess power, universe, joy, earth, euphoria, sorceress, meditation and Rrrrraaaaaaaaahhhhhh!!! which come to the tip of my tongue.....
But some people think of birth and the words doctor, stirrups, contraction, dilation, epidural, sterilized, shot, managed, ping ping ping (you know, those "pinging" machines!)....etc, come to their mind. And I don't think either is more or less "right" just more or less "right" for ME.
We all come from different places and to be honest, I really like that our "birth dialect" reflects those differences...kind of like food is different from different regions of the US....that's great. I like it. I like knowing, that if I'm visiting someone who hails from the south...that I can expect an awesome freakin' breakfast....and that a friend from the North is best to have around in winter, when a good roast or oxtail soup hits the spot.....I don't know how that has anything to do with birth....I think I'm just hungry...so I'm going to wrap this up!