another updatetoday i printed out the articles from respected medical associations (American Medical Association, American Academy of Pediatrics and American Academy of Family Physicians) for my husband, and he is starting to read through them. the information i found is medically sound, and not just opinions or emotions, which is what he wanted. if he wants to ask the doctors he sees with me tomorrow, it's fine with me. the articles state that circumcision is not medically necessary.
also today i saw my midwife, told her that i definitely do not want our son circumcised, and that my husband still needs some convincing in that regard. she said it's the OBs who perform the procedure at our hospital, and that i should make sure to not sign the permission for the procedure. also she marked my file "do not circumcise" and said that it will not be done. she said *i* am their patient. so, while it may be technically possible for my husband to go around me by taking our son elsewhere to be circumcised later, it will not be happening at our hospital after his birth.
nevertheless, i know from reading here that accidents do happen, so i will be vigilant about keeping him in the room with me the entire time, even for baths and anything else he needs.
but i'm resting a little easier now that my file is marked "do not circumcise." also i told my doula that i'm having this disagreement with my husband that i did not anticipate, and asked her to help me make sure of what forms i'm signing when they are shoving them in my face during labor. also i spoke with my mom, who will be around, taking care of our daughter, when i'm having the baby (and afterwards too for the duration of our hospital stay), told her about where i'm at, (i.e., i'm definitely not circumcising him, and DH is needing to get educated about how it is cosmetic, not a medically needed surgery), and asked her to help watch out for him (i.e. if for some reason i'm incapacitated, and the nurses take him out of the room, to watch to make sure he's not getting circumcised without my permission).