Grabbing glasses

[henrysdoc]

I need some advice and suggestions. My DD is 22 months old. We are having trouble with her grabbing at her dad's glasses. She thinks it is fun and has bent them. My DH is very frustrated and is convinced she needs to be spanked to learn the lesson. I am very frustrated because I have given him suggestion after suggestion on how to handle the issue and he does not give any of them a consistent chance. I feel like I am being bullied into disciplining her in a way that is not necessary and frankly a cop out. She is a smart child but I really believe my husband's expectations of her are a little age inappropriate. My questions are any ideas about how to stop her behavior and how can I get my husband to take the time to try the things that I know work for her? I am home with her and I know what works but they are techniques that require consistency and time and patience. Any thoughts are appreciated.

[NiteNicole]

My husband and I both wear glasses. When my daughter was little and she'd make a grab for glasses, I'd move her hand and tell her no once. Then I'd either put her down or if I couldn't put her down, I'd turn her away from me so she couldn't reach them. I don't remember grabbing glasses being a big issue for her.

[VisionaryMom]

Grabbing glasses is fun, and yes I think it's largely age-appropriate. They're right *there* in front of you, after all! I wear glasses for some activities (mostly reading and computer work). DS wasn't a big grabber, but DD was. I would tell her no and then put her down if I needed to work. Otherwise I'd take them off. The biggest problem I had was that I lose my glasses if they're not on the top of my head, so I had to make a conscious effort to remember where I put them.

[eloise24]

As soon as I see her going for my glasses or as soon as she grabs them, I grab her hand firmly and say "don't touch mommy's glasses." If she needs to be put down, I do that. She'll try it for a week or so at a time and then seems to forget about it for a while. I figure a steady and consistent response is best. Non emotional, just the facts

[lilyka]

I would firmly but gently squeeze their hand and say NO. Not yelling or angry. just relly neutral (my kids loved drama so the less drama the better) The squeeze did not hurt. it was just a way for them to connect the word with what the offending action was. if they grabbed more than two or three times in a row I would put them down so that they would have to move on to something else.

[octobermom]

Originally Posted by NiteNicole

My husband and I both wear glasses. When my daughter was little and she'd make a grab for glasses, I'd move her hand and tell her no once. Then I'd either put her down or if I couldn't put her down, I'd turn her away from me so she couldn't reach them. I don't remember grabbing glasses being a big issue for her.

This is what my DH did as well during this stage and honestly if he was playing face to face with her at a toddler age he'd often remove his glasses for a bit (assuming he was in a situation he could) we did deffiently tech to respect the glasses but also didn't make a toddler responsible for the glasses safety.

Deanna

[samstress]

Originally Posted by NiteNicole

When my daughter was little and she'd make a grab for glasses, I'd move her hand and tell her no once. Then I'd either put her down or if I couldn't put her down, I'd turn her away from me so she couldn't reach them.

this is exactly what i did. it wasn't an issue for long.

if dh has trouble doing the things you suggest (and wants to slap her instead), perhaps suggest he remove his glasses when her hands are in close proximity to his face. not the best solution, but better than i slap IMO. i'm guessing it's a phase she'll quickly outgrow.

[chfriend]

I got contacts. So did dp.

If a baby grabbing your glasses causes one to become frustrated enough that you want to hit the baby, it's time to re-evaluate one's stress level and mode of responding.

[SwanValkyrie]

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