To all those saying, "It's none of your business/ What do you care?"
Well... you are correct that what this particular woman does is none of my business whatsoever.
But I still care. I care because women in America are being victimized. (As I've already said repeatedly, I dont' know if this woman falls into the camp of "blindly trusting her OB & therefore too likely to get damaging anti-evidence-based care.") But there ARE lots of women who DO fall into that camp.
That bothers me, so I care. & if I CAN do something to prevent victimization of women & damage to women & babies, I would like to. I don't think I'm wrong for that.
(Yes, again, I can't assume this woman falls into that camp and I shouldn't (and I won't) harass her personally. But it's a feeling I have that I want to warn everyone to be sure they're an educated consumer. I don't think it's wrong of me to have that feeling. I don't think it's wrong of me to want to help people from being victimized. (It's only wrong to act on it & harass people!! & I do realize that!)
I have been cut open twice when I could have avoided both cuts & never had to learn the hard way how traumatic a c/s could be & how nightmarish it is even now looking back (I've had several friends end with unwanted c/s for failed inductions, etc. & I absolutely break down for the rest of the day remembering my c/s...I am scarred in so many ways that I don't want anyone else to feel!). I know that that something could've gone wrong even with a HB midwife & I still could have had a c/s with either of my first two, but it wouldn't have been a guarantee like it was with the hospital...
I try to educate other women as much as I can and as subtly as I can...especially if I'm not close to them. One of my DH's friends had a wife who was due right around when I was with my third & I really feel like I may have saved her from a c/s because I shared a lot of information with my DH's friend about unnecessary inductions as well as the complete list of preE symptoms so that they would be educated instead of complacent. My DH's friend managed to back the doctor into a corner, so to speak, & found out that even the doctor acknowledged that there was no medical need for the induction they kept scheduling for her...She went on to deliver on her own with no interventions
Those of us who know the truth need to share. Nicely. Not being pushy. But we need to share because otherwise no one knows the truth & others *will* be victimized more than they already are. Those who know & choose a different path than me? Well, as long as they know the options & understand, then that's up to them!
Stepping off the soap box (for now!!)...