I just have some questions about it, forgive me if i havent quite gotten the jist of it right.
But, im on board for it all..its just im wondering how you find the balance between having a dependant child on the parent, but also a independant thinker.
I supposed im thinking of people i know who were supported unconditionally by their parents,especially moms and they're not the most independant people i know by any means. Im concerned my son will turn out the same way, i dont want him to have the mama's boy stigma attatched to him, we can be close...but theres a fine line between a healthy and unhealthy mother-child relationship.
Also, im wondering about the "just let him cry" arguement. My cousin was recently visting with her 5 1/2 month old son, now when she put him down to sleep, he would cry for about 5-10 minutes and then stop. Is that right? I mean is that the best thing for him to become independant? Im just not sure where the line gets drawn, it makes sense for me to be able to be there for everything he needs, its my responsibility, but i dont want a mama's boy.
So with my DS it will be different. If he is a "mama's boy" - so be it! I hope he always trusts that if falls/cries/needs encouragement (no matter what his age), his parents will love and support him. That is a life lesson that is far more important than anyone else's opinion of my parenting.