My DS is 4. We have a 2 yo DD. DS has always been a kind, gentle child but he is also very sensitive and has quite a few tantrums throughout the day. He's been going through this since he was about 2.5. He goes into these modes where he's crying and angry, which makes him hit. I tell him hitting is not ok, and that he can't be with us when he hits. I offer comfort, but it usually results in more hitting. At that point, I tell him he should take his anger out in a quiet place, like his room, but he refuses to go. I'm not really sure what to do at that point. Short of pinning him down (which no, I'm not doing), I can't get him to stay in his room. Once it got so bad, I had to close my own door, with DD and I in there. He still cried hysterical for a while and started screaming he was scared. I opened the door, and he sobbed for a bit but did not hit anymore. 
I feel at a loss these days. He is usually a very sweet, considerate boy but when he gets into this mode, it's hard to be around him.
He cries a lot more when his sis is around, and I try my best to meet the needs of both children. But my DD is quite demanding as well, and has started to nurse like a newborn again (actually she didn't nurse remotely this much when she was an infant). We even have special times where my son gets one on one attention either from myself, my DH or my mother.
He loves his sister very much, and loves the idea of taking care of her... but I think it's hard for both of them because they cannot communicate yet. He wants her to play a game or something, and DD doesn't do it the "right" way so he starts to get angry and try to force her sometimes. He also cannot stand her touching anything of his. If she takes something of his, I ask him to let me help, by offering something else. I usually ask him to do it. But by the time, I turn my back to get something he's already tackled her on the floor and snatched it from her hands. She is usually in hysterics by this time. Also, when he thinks I'm not looking, he sometimes pushes her or hits her and tells me she fell, and that's why she's crying.
Any help regarding any of the above would be much appreciated...
I feel at a loss these days. He is usually a very sweet, considerate boy but when he gets into this mode, it's hard to be around him.He cries a lot more when his sis is around, and I try my best to meet the needs of both children. But my DD is quite demanding as well, and has started to nurse like a newborn again (actually she didn't nurse remotely this much when she was an infant). We even have special times where my son gets one on one attention either from myself, my DH or my mother.
He loves his sister very much, and loves the idea of taking care of her... but I think it's hard for both of them because they cannot communicate yet. He wants her to play a game or something, and DD doesn't do it the "right" way so he starts to get angry and try to force her sometimes. He also cannot stand her touching anything of his. If she takes something of his, I ask him to let me help, by offering something else. I usually ask him to do it. But by the time, I turn my back to get something he's already tackled her on the floor and snatched it from her hands. She is usually in hysterics by this time. Also, when he thinks I'm not looking, he sometimes pushes her or hits her and tells me she fell, and that's why she's crying.
Any help regarding any of the above would be much appreciated...
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