annoyed by pediatricians - they don't seem to support BFing - Page 2

[~LadyBug~]

Never mind...."Well Baby Visit" right?

[KangaTwo]

Originally Posted by GoestoShow

I'm not sure what the BS is that you're referring to, but as someone who struggled so hard with breastfeeding, I am incredibly offended when people ask me if I'm still nursing.

To me, the BS is the difference between assuming someone is (insert feeding style here), and inquiring whether they are (insert feeding style here). I wouldn't be offended if someone asked me if I was using formula, but I would be offended if they assumed that I was.

[kalynnsmom]

I ran into the same frustrations with my twin boys' old pediatrician. At the hospital, she actually berated me for wanting to nurse. My boys were losing too much weight (according to the pedi). I expressed my desire to nurse them. My doctor said "Well, my DD is FF'ed and she is fine! I see lots of sick BF'ed babies all the time!" OK, well, I never said anything abut formula, I just expressed my desire to nurse. Then she proceeded to tell me that most of her twin moms don't nurse and that to not even bother because it would be too much of a hassle. When one of my boys developed nipple preference she said that he would probalby not ever nurse.

So, I definitely understand your frustrations..I ended up going to a breastfeeding support group and the IBCLC that ran it gave me a suggestion. Went to her and have been ever since. She is VERY pro breastfeeding AND pro extended breastfeeding!

[bannanachild]

Originally Posted by lisa133

She started telling me how it is bad for his teeth and he doesn’t need it “metabolically.” She said he should be getting all of his food during the day and sleeping all night long.
I am so offended that she is implying that I am doing something wrong. I find this type of advice totally crosses the line from medical advice to parenting advice. What does she care if I feed my son all night. He is getting extra rich breastmilk that way. I am so annoyed. And I researched the teeth issue and it is inconclusive (personally, I think it is BS. My older son nursed all night for 32 months and he has no cavities). her!

It is BS. This article does a good job of explaining why Doctors think that Breastmilk causes cavities, and why they are wrong. If you Google "breastfeeding and cavities" You'll find a whole bunch of sites saying Breastmilk is NOT bad for teeth and it IS good for babies.

Good for you for knowing that your ped is full of crap. I think most doctors think they are God, and the parents think that too. Thus, they do whatever the doctor tells them to do without using their own brains.

[SunShineSally]

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Originally Posted by Birdie \B.

I'm annoyed for you! That's kind of crazy for pediatricians to be so dismissive of breastfeeding! I think you should definitely find a new doctor. We go to a family practice, and it's wonderful! We have one doctor, and she's very very supportive of breastfeeding. She never asks about parenting style questions such as sleeping or eating at night, and she never passes judgement on what we decide to do. I would hope you could find a doc who doesn't question your practices and the benefits of breastfeeding. Good luck!

I second that my new family doctor is wonderful do not dismiss a family practice they also get to know you and your family and that is one majorly important thing. My whole family includeing my mother goes to our doctor and he always asks about my mother when I go there (by her name!!!) and vise versa BTW we have only been there for about 5 months! I would try to find one that only has one doctor so you will really get to know them and them you!

My last ped was awful also. She wanted me to feed Ds tuna at 7 months (he wasn't even on solids then) She wanted me to supplament at 6 months with formula (he was a chubby little man!) She thought he should have been sttn at 9 months also! I never even told her we co slept I always just nodded and smiled then did my own thing

Don't give up there are good doctors out there who agree with natural parenting and bonding with your child and actually care for their well being! I swear we just need to dig and fight to find them!

[susumama]

How come everyone seems to be seeing a doctor so often? I think we have become a culture of needing 'professionals' to tell us how to tie our shoes
If your baby is obviously sick (and I don't mean with a cold - there's nothing the medical profession can do about that) take them to a doctor but why go if they are well? Do we really need a chart (& one made exclusively for artificially fed infants) to tell us they are well? Can't we look at them and tell they are growing, have vitality, etc etc. How did our species possibly survive without this? Our natural motherly instincts will tell us when something is wrong if we let them shine through in a natural way (not from a climate of fear & expectation that we will fail).
We moved to the country 2 1/2 years ago & I recently had my 5th child. At the hospital they wanted to know who my family doctor was. They were astonished that I didn't have one. They still couldn't grasp it when I said that nobody had been sick enough to see a doctor in the past 2 1/2 years. I got the impression that people must go to the doctor even if they are well (which *I* thought was very strange) but reading threads like these I must be in the minority. Am i???

[alegna]

Originally Posted by susumama

How come everyone seems to be seeing a doctor so often? I think we have become a culture of needing 'professionals' to tell us how to tie our shoes
If your baby is obviously sick (and I don't mean with a cold - there's nothing the medical profession can do about that) take them to a doctor but why go if they are well? Do we really need a chart (& one made exclusively for artificially fed infants) to tell us they are well? Can't we look at them and tell they are growing, have vitality, etc etc. How did our species possibly survive without this? Our natural motherly instincts will tell us when something is wrong if we let them shine through in a natural way (not from a climate of fear & expectation that we will fail).
We moved to the country 2 1/2 years ago & I recently had my 5th child. At the hospital they wanted to know who my family doctor was. They were astonished that I didn't have one. They still couldn't grasp it when I said that nobody had been sick enough to see a doctor in the past 2 1/2 years. I got the impression that people must go to the doctor even if they are well (which *I* thought was very strange) but reading threads like these I must be in the minority. Am i???

Yeah... you're in the minority. I'm right there with you

-Angela

[NaturalMindedMomma]

WBV are not an optional thing for all moms. As a single mother of 2 girls, I receive public assistance, if I do not take my chilc to WBV i could lose welfare, wic, and lose my children to their fathers in court. I already do not vax and without a solid relationship with our holistic pediatrician to back me up, their dads might have a leg to stand on in court.

As for pedi's, I have seen one who was horrible and then a family Dr who was just as bad for my children (I love her as my Dr). Right now my children see a Holistic Dr who we love and my insurance covers, thank god. He doesn't believe in vaccines and majorly supports bfing. He was so impressed by how much weight my baby had gained and gave me a compliment! They are few and far between but when you find the right Dr, it's AWESOME!

I am PROUD to set people straight who assume she is FF and proud when I NIP period. My boobs are awesome!