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post #21 of 37
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i just now remember that when I found out I was pregnant with twins, I googled "twin belly pictures" and then sat in front of the computer and cried.
LOL...that's funny
post #22 of 37
I didn't even think about it. I didn't want to think about it. Seriously I knew it would be bad but really didn't want to know just how bad. So I focused on twin pregnancy figuring I'd deal with the whole situation once I was in it.

Honestly, it was really hard but nowhere as bad as I thought it would be.
post #23 of 37
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I didn't even think about it. I didn't want to think about it. Seriously I knew it would be bad but really didn't want to know just how bad. So I focused on twin pregnancy figuring I'd deal with the whole situation once I was in it.

Honestly, it was really hard but nowhere as bad as I thought it would be.
Good to know.

Intertwined:
post #24 of 37
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i just now remember that when I found out I was pregnant with twins, I googled "twin belly pictures" and then sat in front of the computer and cried.
I just did this the other day ... and cried. Of course, it's cause I'm already outgrowing the maternity wear I used when dd was full term. Dresses are becoming my only option. Eeek. And yes, this is a fear, stupid and selfish, that I am trying so hard to overcome. I need to eat to feed these babies and want to glory in my belly instead of worrying about the waddling and massive girth.

Oh, and nummies, I also agree with the poster who said they just didn't think about it. By avoiding and just focusing on what I need to do this month to prepare, I've found a lot more calm. I'm sure the beginning will be hard and I've already told people that the best thing they can do is visit and support us. I'll deal with the rest when it comes. (where's the ostrich with his head in the sand smilie?)
post #25 of 37
J, if you have the funds, invest in a pair or two of the "secret belly" jeans at Motherhood in a size larger than your norm. I was constantly hiking up the hips but they carried me through the very end, when I had to stop wearing them not because they didn't fit but because it was May in Texas. Then I had a pair of the same style capri's and a sundress that I literally wore thin. I gave birth in that dress and now it's in their memory box.
post #26 of 37
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Yeah, don't me started on clothes. I plan to just be naked the entire winter....
post #27 of 37
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Yeah, don't me started on clothes. I plan to just be naked the entire winter....
Well, at least you'll be warm enough! : At some points it was winter, I had the heat off and the windows open, and poor DH would be sitting there in his sweats, with a hat and blanket, shivering and begging me to close them!
post #28 of 37
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Yeah, don't me started on clothes. I plan to just be naked the entire winter....
AMEN! It is actually like 105 degrees where I am and I do have a pair of the secret fit jeans or whatever they are called, from my last pregnancy and have been wearing them (so hot). But for the most part, that's the only thing that fits (at 30 weeks). Although...sometimes my belly hurts and itches so bad that I can't wear them for long. I'd rather have something not touching my belly. So I made a really large size of a "maxi" dress...which would normally be really cute, but since I'm so huge, it pretty much looks like a tent on me, and my whole family was making fun of me (in a nice way I guess...just saying they couldn't help it, cause I am just so huge). But, it is really comfortable cause it's all long and flowing and it totally loose around my belly.
post #29 of 37
I never actually thought about the logistics of taking care of twins LOL
I was so focused on staying pregnant long enough that they'd be viable and healthy.
It's overwhelming now that they're here, but I've never been the most organized person LOL
I just take it day by day. My guys don't like to sleep at night, but nap decently during the day. And neither seem to really like the swing or bouncer, but LOVE being out of the house. They totally get restless if we don't go for walks or to the store, and then get ornery.
post #30 of 37
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Don't even think about the nights right now you'll just cause yourself a lot of undue stress and, ironically, you'll keep yourself awake at night worrying : )

It doesn't matter what idea/plan you have before the babes are born in regards to daily life/sleep/survival, it's bound to be different, even a little different than even the best laid plan or the worst fears....

When they arrive, just do what works for you guys, for us (at night) it was wrapping the babes together to sleep in the old pram next to our bed, when they fussed I'd wheel them out, change, nurse, change again them (while indulging in late night TV!) then rewrap them, then I'd peek in at older DS's (1 and 11) then back to bed, some nights I did this 6 times or more, some nights only twice.
Take whatever help you can get during the day, and if a kindly old neighbor offers to stroll the babes down the path while you put your feet up and read to your older kids, please, jump at it :
Don't listen to negativity regarding the sleepless nights, the crying, the nursing, the laundry because it will overwhelm you. Focus on your strength as a mother, your own wisdom and instincts, and revel in it, because it's over before you know it! (Save the panicking for when they both start climbing stairs.....)
I hope I don't sound bossy : )
I very much agree with this!

SO sorry, OT
Intertwined... HOW do you do it, really?! I have almost 3 year olds (in a couple of months) and a 13.5 month old and found the first year of the baby's life so challenging mixed in with twin 1.5 year olds! Yours are so little/young and still very dependent on you. I really would love more, but I guess I'm selfish and scared to go through that first year again. My husband would love more.
post #31 of 37
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I very much agree with this!

SO sorry, OT
Intertwined... HOW do you do it, really?! I have almost 3 year olds (in a couple of months) and a 13.5 month old and found the first year of the baby's life so challenging mixed in with twin 1.5 year olds! Yours are so little/young and still very dependent on you. I really would love more, but I guess I'm selfish and scared to go through that first year again. My husband would love more.
I think I'd lose it totally and hop off a bridge if I was about 7 months pregnant with a singleton right now!

Honestly, I just put my head down and barreled through it. I mostly refused to feel sorry for myself and we made it work. Times were hard occasionally. There was an 10 week period this spring that we lived with friends and it....didn't go well and ended that friendship. That was hard.

But mostly, we just do what we have to do. I'm almost never not busy. I run a business and chase kids and nurse the twins (and sometimes the 2 year old) and it's crazy and fun and hectic. I'm no longer sure why I thought having four was hard though. I'd go back there in an instant!
post #32 of 37
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I think I'd lose it totally and hop off a bridge if I was about 7 months pregnant with a singleton right now!

Honestly, I just put my head down and barreled through it. I mostly refused to feel sorry for myself and we made it work. Times were hard occasionally. There was an 10 week period this spring that we lived with friends and it....didn't go well and ended that friendship. That was hard.

But mostly, we just do what we have to do. I'm almost never not busy. I run a business and chase kids and nurse the twins (and sometimes the 2 year old) and it's crazy and fun and hectic. I'm no longer sure why I thought having four was hard though. I'd go back there in an instant!
Thank you, thank you, thank you for your candid thoughts/expressions. I'm sorry to hear about your friendship ending. That's sad to hear.

Keep barreling through! I completely agree that it's fun and hectic! I truly LOVE being with my kids, playing with them, teaching them, but the thought of adding another scares me. It's a lot of work with three and the work will only get more intense and time-intensive with additional kids.
post #33 of 37
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Originally Posted by bfw0729 View Post
Thank you, thank you, thank you for your candid thoughts/expressions. I'm sorry to hear about your friendship ending. That's sad to hear.

Keep barreling through! I completely agree that it's fun and hectic! I truly LOVE being with my kids, playing with them, teaching them, but the thought of adding another scares me. It's a lot of work with three and the work will only get more intense and time-intensive with additional kids.
That's very true. You have to decide if the additional joy and love of a new person will balance the added work/energy output and that's a VERY personal decision obviously. We didn't choose to have the twins, they chose us. And their dynamic in our family has been very good and very balancing so it's been SO worth the additional work. Of course, I also spent a LOT of time while pregnant praying fervently for easy babies and God was merciful enough to answer my prayer.
post #34 of 37
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Originally Posted by Intertwined View Post
That's very true. You have to decide if the additional joy and love of a new person will balance the added work/energy output and that's a VERY personal decision obviously. We didn't choose to have the twins, they chose us. And their dynamic in our family has been very good and very balancing so it's been SO worth the additional work. Of course, I also spent a LOT of time while pregnant praying fervently for easy babies and God was merciful enough to answer my prayer.
I absolutely see your point. AND if we do get pregnant, it would be perfectly fine because they are so precious and a gift. I also hear you about praying and God delivering two easy babies. That's awesome. I prayed for a positive and healthy vbac homebirth experience every night and God provided that exactly. However, I didn't pray for an easy baby. I should have This baby cried HOURS a day for the first 12 months of her life. She lived 10 hours a day in a sling for the first 6.5 months of her life also. VERY high-needs, so needless to say, I'm terrified.

My son, one of the twins, was my EASIEST baby and barely cried, ever. I guess I should pray for a baby like him
post #35 of 37
It's funny, my first month or two the twins took serious pity one me and slept through the night. I was able to heal from surgery and it wasn't so bad. Nursing twins was so much easier then nursing my son, all I had to do was show them a boob and they attacked like rabid wolverines . You manage, you cope and you get through it. I'm preggo with number 4 now and I'm having that panic again... after surviving twins! I think it's just part of expecting a baby, kwim?

My girls are really starting to revel in twinness at 2 years old. They tell everyone they're twins and they're cute LOL . The way they play with each other and how they love and take care of each other is priceless. It's hard that first year don't get me wrong, but you muddle through only to see your little ones grow together like one soul. It's really beautiful. I didn't do everything the same way as I did with DS or will do with the new baby, but they have each other and as cliche as it is it really is worth the compromise.
post #36 of 37
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I absolutely see your point. AND if we do get pregnant, it would be perfectly fine because they are so precious and a gift. I also hear you about praying and God delivering two easy babies. That's awesome. I prayed for a positive and healthy vbac homebirth experience every night and God provided that exactly. However, I didn't pray for an easy baby. I should have This baby cried HOURS a day for the first 12 months of her life. She lived 10 hours a day in a sling for the first 6.5 months of her life also. VERY high-needs, so needless to say, I'm terrified.

My son, one of the twins, was my EASIEST baby and barely cried, ever. I guess I should pray for a baby like him
My fourth was just like your little one. And she was only 8 months old when I got pregnant with the twins. I was a mess of freaking out!
post #37 of 37
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It's funny, my first month or two the twins took serious pity one me and slept through the night. I was able to heal from surgery and it wasn't so bad. Nursing twins was so much easier then nursing my son, all I had to do was show them a boob and they attacked like rabid wolverines . You manage, you cope and you get through it. I'm preggo with number 4 now and I'm having that panic again... after surviving twins! I think it's just part of expecting a baby, kwim?

My girls are really starting to revel in twinness at 2 years old. They tell everyone they're twins and they're cute LOL . The way they play with each other and how they love and take care of each other is priceless. It's hard that first year don't get me wrong, but you muddle through only to see your little ones grow together like one soul. It's really beautiful. I didn't do everything the same way as I did with DS or will do with the new baby, but they have each other and as cliche as it is it really is worth the compromise.

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