Senior Year Dilemma...need advice-Update post 21 - Page 2

[shayinme]

Update:

Well he started school in WI a few days ago and he is still undecided but the stress is already starting. The school is pressuring him, he has the lead in the next school play and now feels guilty because his drama teacher/director didn't think to cast an understudy for him he has the lead role) and the show is next month. So he feels like he has to stay at least until after the show

His father and grandma are riding him about how he has to be on his A game and should be doing even more since this is his senior year ::, but I keep telling him if he feels he needs to bail and come back here to just say the word. Right now he is working on getting all his recommendations so if he decides to leave he will have them in hand. He told the vice principal who is sorta like a 2nd mama to him he was thinking of leaving to finish out here and she was horrified.

Its hard because frankly I just want to tell him to leave but I am trying to respect his autonomy, so I am just praying that people will give him some space. This college thing alone is freaking him out (he just had his first interview and another one next week). i tell ya its so easy when they are babies.

Shay

[Marylizah]

There's a saying here in France; "Small children, small problems. Big children, big problems!"

I'm sorry your DS is stressed, I hope whatever he decides he has a positive, fulfilling senior year!!

[karne]

Shay, what an amazing son you have raised! You must be so proud. I just wanted to say that I am so impressed that your son sees both you and your home as a refuge, and wants to spend time with you. I hope that my kids feel the same when they are your son's age. And, how wonderful that you are there to welcome and support him should he choose to come and live with you. I don't think all 17 y/o's have such an experience.

[Labbemama]

He sounds like a really responsible kid so I would let make the decision. It seems unusual to me that he would make the choice to leave his dads and walk away from the senior year he is facing there but maybe the pressure is too much for him. I would let him come home to NE.

I moved my senior year sight unseen to a new place to live with my dad, but he knows what both places are like.

My mom hunch tells me there's more to the issue that would make him want to move so badly his senior year. It's usually a time when kids will fight to STAY put at any cost.

I would also explore with him where he wants to attend college.