So happy I switched our doctors!!!

[SunShineSally]

So at Ds's physical I brought up my concerns about circ and the new baby as Ds has issues from his circ that was not supposed to take place. Well he said Keep telling everyone he is to stay intact he also said that he was happy that the baby will be intact he even went on the say now you know you NEVER retract the forskin and do not soap it up as it is not needed I just smiled and nodded then he ask why I was so passionate about not circing I said well I was with Ds too and after what happened to him I became more passionate also I am protected why shouldn't every boy be also!?

He smiled at me and said "exactly" ::::

[MCatLvrMom2A&X]

I am so glad you found a great dr. they seem to be rarer than hens teeth

Have you shared your story before how ds got circed when he wasnt supposed to? I have seen you mention it in several threads. But not in great detail. I would like to read it if you have. Did you do anything after it happened like legal action for a proceedure that you did not concent to?

[glongley]

PLease send the name and contact information for your great doctor to NOCIRC so they can be sure to add his/her name to their database of foreskin-friendly docs. That way others with intact boys can be referred to him to get good care.

Gillian

[MCatLvrMom2A&X]

Oh I forgot about that glad you mentioned it.

[SunShineSally]

I will send my info tonight

What happened to my first is in my records it stated that he was not to be circ'ed I was not able to fill out my paper work before I went in to labor. While in active labor the nurse had me sign everything under the sun I did not read any of it (as I was birthing a child!!) I had a meeting with a social worker as I was single on medicaid and there was an order of protection on my X. The nurse came in and got Ds I said where are you taking him??? She said for a bath before he goes home. I looked at her odd and the social worker nodded and smiled. So she took him I was still with the social worker when they brought Ds back to me. I looked at him and said what is wrong with him he was sweaty and red. She siad ohh he was just circumsised I bursted in to tears and said he wasn't supposed to be! I looked at the social worker and asked what can I do?? She said to me "there is nothing you can do it is done now" Well years later I find out I could have gotten free cousel my fiance told me this then him and i looked into it and five years have passed so there is nothing we can do the limitations were up. I even asked when he was going through the meatel stenosis regularly (now he only has issues once in a while) his hole (I do not know the proper word) is that of a newborn when he was one and a half it was smaller than a premie! The doctor said that it was because of the circ, I asked if he would help me to do something about this and he said flat out NO! so I figured that there really was no hope yet now that I am educated in that area as so much has happened that I could have sued because of when they had me sign the paperwork, that it said no circ in his and my paperwork. In a nut shell that is our story. I would have elaberated more but Ds has his kinderguarden orientation in a little bit my baby is huge : This bean will not go anywhere with out me or my fiance he has issues also and is very anti circ after he read some of the stickys here and found out that is why he has issues!

[MCatLvrMom2A&X]

Thank you for sharing your story I am so sorry that happened to you and your ds.

[SunShineSally]

Originally Posted by MCatLvrMom2A&X

Thank you for sharing your story I am so sorry that happened to you and your ds.

I like to share it so it wont happen to others and to show others that harm can happen because of circ life long harm and that you should never let your baby out of sight even in the hands of nurses or doctors unless it is absolutely needed!

[Quirky]

That is horrible. I am so sorry for you and your son.

The good news is, he can sue in his own name when he is of legal age. If you can, getting his medical records together now, plus getting your testimony in sworn form now (while you're only 5 years out rather than 18 years out from the events), will help him have a case when he is old enough to sue. He will have 2-3 years depending on your state's statute of limitations from the time he reaches 18.

The facts that 1) you did not consent to the circ, and the hospital essentially pulled a bait and switch on you, and 2) that he has since suffered complications requiring medical treatment as a direct result of the circ -- these are very helpful.

I would contact John Geisheker at Doctors Opposing Circumcision and Dave2GA who posts here -- both are attorneys. You can also contact ARCLAW.

Getting your ducks in a row now as far as gathering all the pertinent information so that it's not lost over the next 14 years could set your son up for a successful lawsuit.

[SunShineSally]

I think before the baby gets here I will gather his records. But my concern is that the one doctor would not put it in writing that he has issues from the circ maybe our new doctor will he is a dream esp. in our area!!!

[tutucrazy]

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Get all the records ready for when he is 18!

I wonder if the social worker told them to do it. Seems like the way they lied to you and she nodded, that she might have been behind it. She probably thought you were being a bad parent for not circing.

This story is so sad. I am so sorry for you and your ds. :_(

[abiyhayil]

What an awful thing to do, I'm so sorry for you and your baby. That makes me sick to my stomach just thinking about what if. (Tell me if this is TMI) will foreskin restoration work for growing boys and have you thought about it?

[SunShineSally]

Originally Posted by tutucrazy

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Get all the records ready for when he is 18!

I wonder if the social worker told them to do it. Seems like the way they lied to you and she nodded, that she might have been behind it. She probably thought you were being a bad parent for not circing.

This story is so sad. I am so sorry for you and your ds. :_(

I never thought of that it is very possible!!! I live in a very very very pro circ area I mean I only personally know 2 men who are intact! besides my uncle and grandfather but I am talking my age who are intact!

[BlessedMommy2006]

I am so so sorry for what happened to your son. That makes me ashamed to live in America. What they did was trickery, deceit, assault, and battery. Please do get all the records together so that your son can sue when he turns 18.

What really gets me is how the nurse flat out lied to you and said that they were taking DS for a bath. Wow.

[thixle]

Originally Posted by abiyhayil

What an awful thing to do, I'm so sorry for you and your baby. That makes me sick to my stomach just thinking about what if. (Tell me if this is TMI) will foreskin restoration work for growing boys and have you thought about it?

I don't know if restoration is "beyond the scope of this forum" now. It is quite controversial to apply restoration techniques to a growing boy. Personally, I see no harm in telling your kid in the bath to tug the remaining foreskin as a part of normal bathing. Or waiting until he is older and more responsible (10-13) to introduce the concept of restoration and support him if he decides to or not.

It makes common sense to me that restoration done before adulthood would progress much more quickly because children's bodies are still growing. It also makes common sense that many are uncomfortable with the idea of parents being involved with a son's restoration.

[MommytoB]

I'm so sorry to hear they did that to your son. I bet it was the social workers and why would the hospital listen to the social worker than the actual parent that's so odd.

But it's not the first time I heard a social worker doing that to a single parent.

[Turquesa]

Originally Posted by glongley

PLease send the name and contact information for your great doctor to NOCIRC so they can be sure to add his/her name to their database of foreskin-friendly docs. That way others with intact boys can be referred to him to get good care.

Gillian

: New to this forum. Do you have a link to this? TIA!