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Poll Results: what is your household TV MO?

  • 8% (29)
    TV free, no TV ever
  • 23% (81)
    TV limited, but we do the occassional movie or show
  • 33% (116)
    we limit but watch something everyday
  • 14% (49)
    we are aware, but don't really limit, we just like to do other things more
  • 16% (57)
    we don't limit usage, but we do police the content
  • 4% (17)
    no limits on it at all
349 Total Votes  
post #41 of 144
we don't subscribe to cable, just netflix and so our children watch 30 min fireman sam or petting farm shows (type of thing)
post #42 of 144
We have no cable either, for the very reason that if we did we'd watch too much TV.

When the kids are with only me (*2 days a week when Daddy's at work), they watch an hour a day - usually one half hour show in the AM like Curious George or Clifford, and then Arthur in the afternoons.

On days when someone is sick, or I'm just waaaaay overtired for whatever reasons, then they watch more.

When the kids are with daddy only (*2 days a week when I'm at work), they watch no tv because he's usually busy playing all day with them.

When the kids are with both of us the other 3 days, they only watch a morning show.

Movies are rare. VERY rare. Sometimes I'll give the 5 year old a special treat while her brothers nap and let her watch an instant movie on Netflix or something.

ETA: *I know this sounds odd but yes, we both work full time jobs in those 2 days a week.
post #43 of 144
Originally Posted by StrawberryFields View Post
I think what is more important is whether you are spending non-screen time involved in enriching activities: outside play, art projects, baking, errands, free play, building blocks, reading... I always have Legos or blocks on the floor and paper/crayons on the little table so the kids can engage themselves in playing while they watch their shows.
ITA. And, despite our large amount of screen time (which I would like to reduce), we do all those activities very frequently. We live practically car-free so walk to morning activities every day of the week, we go to the playground and the park a couple of days a week, we bake almost every day, we read/play playdough/build blocks/draw every single day. It's mostly in the transition times that DS is watching (e.g while I'm breastfeeding or preparing breakfast for him or packing bags getting ready to leave) that he's watching DVDs ... and those transition times really add up during the day, particularly as he doesn't nap and is up for the day at 5.30am. That's a LOT of awake time to try to fill with activities non-stop every single minute.
post #44 of 144
I voted:

"TV limited, but we do the occassional movie or show"

But in reality, we don't watch any TV. DH and I watch the occasional movie but DD doesn't watch any TV. It seemed to be the closest answer.
post #45 of 144
we never put the tv on for dd (a few times other people have, but at 22mos she's not that interested, really).
Now that I'm sah I will watch the news or another show a few times a week - mostly when tandem feeding.
In the evenings Dp and I will watch a movie or an hour long show maybe 3 times a week? Often dd is asleep, or nursing, or else playing nearby.
We also show her youtube videos - maybe half an hour max a week? - mainly animals, or birth videos or music
I'm fine with our level of tv consumption.
post #46 of 144
We don't limit TV time but I do limit content. Our TV is a dinky little old thing that sits on a bookshelf so it's not something that gets a lot of attention, but there are a few shows DS likes to watch with DH and that's working well for us. Once in a while he will ask for a show and I can't think of a reason why I wouldn't allow it, except if we are about to leave to go somewhere.
post #47 of 144
My 3 year old watches some TV most days. He averages about 40 minutes/day (some days 1 20 minute episode of Blue's Clues with no Puzzle Time, other days 2 episodes plus both Puzzle Times). Occasionally he watches a 3rd episode, but that's my limit.

I give myself leeway for days when I need more downtime--even at 3 he doesn't play alone and he doesn't nap. Sometimes it's the only way to get a moment where I'm not playing soccer, or fixit, or puzzles, or trying to explain again why there are no houses on the freeway.

Sometimes we do pizza and a movie on Fridays, but he's not a sit-still kind of guy. If he loves the movie, he can watch about 40 minutes before getting bored.

It's a lot easier to limit TV now that I work part-time, TBH. When I was a SAHM the only way I found to encourage myself to limit TV was to spend a lot of the day out of the house.
post #48 of 144
When my daughter was young I'd put Pooh Bear on to keep her occupied while I clipped her nails or if she was having a really bad day teething. As she grew older I limited her TV, sometimes going for weeks at a time without her watching anything.

As we don't have cable or anything I don't mind her watching a movie every once in awhile, but stay away from it if I can. If I'm having a really bad day pregnancy wise I'll let her watch, or if I'm trying to do something that absolutely needs to get done.

If she does watch TV I always make up for it by making sure she gets lots of extra nstimulation elsewhere and then leaving the TV alone for awhile.
post #49 of 144
Whatever works for your family, yk?

I wouldn't necessarily have a problem with DD watching Sesame Street in the morning...we don't watch tv during the day, though. I keep it off or I'm likely to get sucked in and not get anything done. DD 20mo isn't really interested in it.

DH and I (and daughter as she's being rocked to sleep) watch tv after dinner, probably one or two shows (DVR'd). We have the shows we like - CSI, Survivor, Whale Wars, Mystery Diagnosis, etc. and DH likes to wind down watching it at night. Occasionally we'll get a movie from netflix and watch it on a weekend afternoon.

I don't think tv is evil. Limiting during the day was how I grew up and how I intend our family to be. I can't stand the tv on as background noise. We had a lot of fun watching 'Star Trek' and what not as a family after dinner when I was a child...it definitely was a bonding experience of sorts.
post #50 of 144
We started letting DS watch DVDs when he was that age, but we have always limited to 30-40 minutes on any given day. Occasionally, we have watched an entire movie as a family. But most days, he asks to watch something, and we let him. Half an hour to 40 minutes is our limit for him, though.
post #51 of 144
I don't allow any screen time at home before they're 2. DH and I put the TV away in the cellar during those years, and only dragged it out occasionally to watch a DVD or something, when all three kiddos were asleep. Although I did sometimes watch YouTube late at night when the twins were tiny, to save me from going insane through hours of nursing. But they were asleep, so I don't count that.

So I think that much TV during one day for a child under 2 is way too much.

Once they were all over two, we created a system where each child gets a ticket on Sundays to redeem for one video sometime during the week. All three can watch each video, and each child gets to choose for their own ticket. So what happens is DD1 uses her ticket while the others are napping, and the twins each choose a movie a week that all three watch. So it works out to about three hours a week for DD1, and two hours a week for the twins, depending on the length of the videos, which vary from 20 minutes to an hour and a half.

Once school starts, DD1 will be restricted to watching only on Sundays. The twins will be allowed one video a week each, while DD1 is at school.

We only watch videos/DVDs. We don't have any actual television in our house-- no cable, no satellite, no DTV converter, etc.
post #52 of 144
I think it's a bit much for a 20mo, but I know there were times when the DSC watched tv that much. I know folks who plop a baby in front of a tv for most of the day. At least a 20 mo can walk away if s/he gets bored.

I selected we watch TV everyday but it's limited. The caveat is limited *for our family*. If I had it my way, the TV would stay mostly off. BUT the DSC seem to not be able to conceptualize of life without a TV. The other day I told my DSD it was time for bed, and she said "already? but I haven't gotten to watch ANY TV today!" They do not know what to do with themselves when we go camping. Sigh. We are working on it. They've got a strong tie to their "digital IV" and DH also has such an issue (he seems to need to watch some tv to come down at night). We've come a LOONG way from having to watch a movie every.time.we.ate. So that's progress. But IMO it's still on too much. We're working on it.
post #53 of 144
Just FYI, there is research showing that even TV as "background noise" is detrimental to language development:

I say that because I hear a lot of people talk about "oh he's not really watching it"---it's still not ideal for a growing brain.
post #54 of 144
Originally Posted by waiflywaif View Post
Just FYI, there is research showing that even TV as "background noise" is detrimental to language development:

I say that because I hear a lot of people talk about "oh he's not really watching it"---it's still not ideal for a growing brain.
I always wonder is playing the radio or listening to music also detrimental to language development? I'm just curious.
post #55 of 144
Music is very different from speech/moving images in the way it affects concentration.

Also, the article I linked said that background TV limits or interrupts adult-child interaction, which I find to be true. I don't think music interrupts communication in the same way. Which annoys people more in waiting rooms, elevators, etc: music or TV? Which would you rather have playing while you were taking a test, concentrating on a task, or trying to visit with a friend: music or TV? I'd rather have neither, but TV is waaay more disruptive.
post #56 of 144
[QUOTE=sisteeesmama;14291115]I didn't actually know there set and firm rules, that is news to me, but I guess it's good to know.

I used to feel really bad about the TV thing, it was during the winter here in CO. and I am not an outdoors in the cold type of gal. So I was entertaining a 1yo with movies and shows and she was getting hooked, but the summer has killed that and she really never demands to watch anything. =/QUOTE]

This is us too. We watch quite a bit more in the winter because of shorter days and colder weather. In the summer all of us watch it much less. We check out videos (Thomas Train, Scholastic videos, etc) from the library and ds watches those a couple of times a week. He occasionally will watch a couple of things on PBS kids, but not everyday. Winter is a different story...although still somewhat limited to less than 2 hrs day.
post #57 of 144
I voted "no limits, but police content."

I have a 34 mo and a 16 mo. I turn the TV on if my older child asks. That said, some days he might watch quite a bit (2 hours or so) and at other times we go a whole week with no TV. If someone's not actively watching it, I turn it off because it annoys me. TV is not on in the evening, because we are usually busy playing together.

We really only watch PBS shows (Sesame Street, World Word, Dragon Tales, etc.) and some select movies (Nemo, Madagascar, Fern Gully).

I know the recommendation is no TV before 2 - and I think that is probably a good idea. However, I don't worry about it in our home because I personally don't feel its excessive. That - and my almost 3 year old will talk to me CONSTANTLY throughout the day, and sometimes, I just need a break.
post #58 of 144
We don't have a TV, so I guess that answers it.
We do have a big Mac screen that we use for movies though, and a Wii. And that is highly limited, not every day that's for sure. They aren't very interested either, so when they ask we usually play for an hour or so. We all join in and play golf, bowling, tennis or summat. Maybe once or twice a week.
And then we watch a movie together some weekends. And sometimes our oldest gets to watch one after the smaller kids are in bed too, he's not always that interested in the movies we watch with them.
post #59 of 144
That would have been way too much at that age for us because we waited until dd was almost 3 to even let her watch videos. I was voting for my 7.5 year old dd, which IMO, makes a huge difference from a 20 month old. I voted limited but daily, but for that age it would have been TV free. Dd gets 15 minutes TV time in the morning and we watch Andy Griffith together for a couple of episodes when it's on in the evening. She'll watch I Love Lucy or Leave it to Beaver after school if it's on. No Noggin, Disney, Nickelodeon or any of the other children's channels. At this age (above 4 or 5), I think computer time is also important to consider as well as video games when determining screen time. We have no video games and dd spends maybe an hour every MONTH on the computer to print coloring pages. Most of her time is spent reading and free play. She's very active and that's what I think is most important.
post #60 of 144
Thread Starter 
Originally Posted by New View Post
I was talking to the OP (who has a 20month old child watching Sesame Street every day, a soap opera most days, and a movie every day - 4 to 5 hours total), but glad my post helped you, too. After all, just because an Academy of Pediatrics is based in the U.S. doesn't mean their advice isn't relevant to Canadian kids. Their info can help you understand WHY tv is concerning. I see you edited your post to say he's mostly watching DVDs instead of tv, but if you Google a bit you'll see why that's just as alarming/dangerous for young brains - the content and ads aren't the only problem with screen time.

As for advice: turn it off.
I couldn't really care less what some pediatricians say about something either, seeing as I don't take dd to one for anything unless it were an emergency, haven't had one yet, though.

Any info from a more credible source?
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