This is to the OP-
i have only read the first page of posts. I see there is an adoption debate but havent read it.
The point of my post is to explain that attitude can change everything.
I am also a single mom, and i dont have much money either. The difference is, that unlike you, i actively sought to get pregnant with my first and 2nd child. I am currently pregnant with my third, and very actively sought that for over a year. I see everything from the point of view of the family, and the children and their relationships, rather than the relationship with the father. I am not asking to hear any opinions about this at all. I am only demonstrating a different point of view.
Although you might be unprepared for a 2nd child in your family, there are many advantages to having one. For a start, your older child gets a sibling, 2ndly, the fact that they are relatively close in age can be advantageous as well, as far as their playing together, sharing activities and toys, and even friends. In the long term, it can only be a good thing that they have each other and you. Maybe you might add to your family later.
Where does the father fit in? That is up to him. At the minimum he will be paying child support. Hopefully, he will play a more active role, especially if he's such a great guy as you say. As far as his opinion on abortion, i applaud his open mindedness, but not when you are not the consenting party. Your body, your choice, and that is that.
You cannot control how he will react, but you can control how to build your family at this point.
If you are a student, then all the better. There are many supportive mechanisms in place for student parents.
Yes, it will be hard, especially for the first year. But its only a year! Then it gets easier. Im not saying it will be easy, but most things in life that are worthwhile are challenging.
I find myself looking at everything in the long term rather than the short term. When you have a baby, that is for life, You have started a family. Personally, i think family is the most important thing there is.
As for supporting yourself, cut yourself some slack. You are studying, you have plenty of time to work on a career. As the kids get older, that will only get easier as they become more independent.
Go on public assistance, food stamps, and whatever else is out there to help you and your children. They are there for a reason.
I really dont see how adoption is relevant in this scenario.
You can be single mom and love it!, even if its unplanned.