Opinions of Suppernanny & Nanny911 shows - Page 2

[ssh]

I watched an episode of nanny 911. The family's only problem was the two preschool boys wouldn't stay in bed. When the boys got upset enough, after getting up and crying several times, the mom would bring the boys in bed with her. Co-sleeping would have been the perfect solution. Laying down with the LOs until they went to sleep in the family bed then getting up. But the nanny person made the mom feel guilty for wanting to comfort her upset children. She was holding one of her sons and saying he is really upset and afraid. The nannys solution was to train the boys to stay in bed alone. I couldn't watch the rest of the show, it was just too sad and totally wrong.

[erratum]

Originally Posted by AnalogWife

I really
Or when Jo points out when kids run out of the house and the parents don't even know where they are. I just can't imagine! It's like so many parents check-out of parenting-------I feel judgmental myself but when these people have 2+ that they can't handle, why do they go and have more?? Most of the families live in some big new house in some big new boring development, it's as if the people who race for the "perfect life with the 2.2 kids and the perfect picket fence" just don't think ahead to what they're actually DOING and they're screwing up their kids in the meantime. Or maybe they're just the same type of people who want to be on tv, IDK. Like others, I don't agree with JoJo 100% (and I've never seen Nanny911), but the people they have on the show make it evident how selfish some people are out there.

THiS.
A lot of them seem almost like they have kids because they match the house and go well with the decor.

Watching Supernanny is one of my guilty pleasures. I watch it because I like to yell at the TV and play "armchair parent." Cause y'know it's sooo easy to parent other peoples children when I'm sitting in the comfort of my living room.

Supernanny's approach is very mainstream, but, really, those parents are totally drowning. Consensual Living is nice -- it's a great (and obtainable, imho) ideal -- but these people just need to start with "Living."

[Norasmomma]

I have to say that many of the episodes of Supernanny I wonder why the families even have children, so many parents they show are so completely clueless and careless about their children, and are some of the most selfish people I have ever seen. Most of these families do need some sort of help(and probably some counseling too). I know it's edited to get ratings, it's TV, but some of the chaos is just appalling.

I don't like that most of the time it is such a big deal of getting that child out of your bed, asap. Some of the families though are not getting any quality sleep because they have their situations so askew which obviously leads to behavior issues within the whole family. I know that I don't sleep as well now if my 3 y/o is in bed with us, but for a couple hours, ummm it's ok.

I do think the use of "time out" is the best approach for these families, I mean I've seen a few episodes where everyone is so out of control that brings it down quite a bit. I mean I do use an occasional time out because all the other stuff I tried with DD didn't work, but that did, so that's what we do. I see it as more of a reflection of what behavior brought her there than an isolation technique. I liken it to a "chill out" for everyone involved.

I like Jo I think she does really care about these families and their problems. I honestly know a family who could probably benefit from her help, kids out of control, parents who do nothing about it-hence the out of control kids. It just is that cycle that keeps reoccurring.

[AbigailGrace]

Originally Posted by angie7

It's amazing to me how the parents are completely clueless that their actions are the reason why their children behave that way.

I second this. I like Jo on Supernanny (for all the reasons mentioned above) but don't care for the other show.

My main thought is this, though: Crisis situations deserve crisis intervention. Not all families need what she has to offer but probably more do than any of us would like to admit.

[mommy68]

I get more upset at the nannies on the show than I do the family that needs help. I can't stand it when families are told not to co-sleep and kids get rewards for changing bad behavior. Those two stick out in my mind as no-no's, atleast for my own children. I prefer to teach my children how to correct their behavior in different ways other than stickers or whatever objects they choose to use on the show as bribery.

I feel like a lot of the other stuff the nannies teach the family to do are very common sense. I often wonder how the parents couldn't figure out the solution themselves.

[mommy68]

Originally Posted by erratum

THiS. A lot of them seem almost like they have kids because they match the house and go well with the decor.

and I may get flamed for this, but some families will have like 4+ children that they can't control and have all boys and then the one little girl, for instance, and you know they were trying for a girl so they kept having them. That's not right IMO to keep having kids you can't control just to have the gender you want. Because then the parents act like they can't do anything to control their children and wonder why their children are ruining their lives when they chose to have them in the first place.

[GreenKnitPocket]

So I watch the show for it's humourous appeal- not to pick up tips- but I do think that SuperNanny really helps some of these families. Of course, not every idea or tip she has is going to work because in reality she doesn't know these families at all. To me, it really just seems like a control thing. A lot of the time, the parents just need to show the children that they're in charge again. Once that happens, they can employ their own parenting techniques. But they get so bogged down in their failures they can't get past them and I think Jo helps with that.

Plus, it's adorable to hear the little kids talk like Jo saying they are going to the "naughty stair".

Not to change the topic, but I also really enjoy Wife Swap that comes on after Super Nanny. I only like it for it's entertainment value though--- those people are crazy!

[lava]

about forced cosleeping

One thing about the families that are having bedtime troubles that cosleeping would solve...only if they want to cosleep and some people don't, KWIM?

-Lara