what do you do about moms who always brag about their child? - Page 3
I guess that's why it doesn't bother me at all when a parent says wonderful things about their child - even things others might perceive as "bragging". I am completely happy and secure that I'm doing the best I can for my child (though always open to improvement, mind you), so I'm not in competition in any way shape or form with anyone else - even if they might see it that way, I don't... so, it doesn't bother me.
Only I define my own reality.
Many times unless you are in the exact same place in your life as the person telling stories they come off as bores.
I'd just smile and nod. It's most likely that she's doing it because she's either very insecure and needs her child's minor accomplishments to make her feel impressive, some parents seem to want to live vicariously through their kids, or else she's very lonely and doesn't have other parents to talk to very often, adn when she has you, it all just has to come out.
Either way, there's no use calling her out on it. Just grin and bear it, or try to take her in short bursts if you can so that you don't get frustrated.
Can someone define exactly what bragging means? I mean, I think we all stand around talking about the positive aspects of parenting (talking about the negative somehow throws you into a category of angry mom/person with issues).
Yeah, I brag about my DD. She's an awesome kid (not due to anything me or DH have done...she's just an interesting person). Oh whoops! I'm bragging.
The flip side is that I could complain constantly about the difficult times, and believe me, there are plenty.
What constitutes actual bragging? Is is: "My kid read Dickens by three years" or is it "My kid is so smart." I tend to give people the benefit of the doubt because their child is the thing their life revolves around. Talking about your kids' perceived successes gives you confirmation that perhaps you are doing something right? There is nothing more insecure than parenting. Especially when there is so much data/information/unsolicited advice that you are doing everything WRONG.