Tankgirl--I had to come back and read what has happened since I last posted. And I also read your updated posts, too.
In thinking about this situation again, I think that instead of treating this in a punitive way, it should be the defining moment for you and your son and the fact that he needs more than what he is currently getting for his impulse control and hyperactivity. You expressed your frustration as well, and it seems that this has been going on for a long time.
I can see that you are a bit hesitant with the ADHD medications. The one thing I can say is that medications are not permanent---if he tries them out and in a couple of months they are not helping, you can stop them. HOWEVER---they may very well work! I truly believe it is worth a try---if they do work, it will be the first step to having him learn better, act better, have more impulse control, and to THINK about what he is doing before he does it.
I realize that I was a bit harsh at first, and still do believe that a broken jaw is not a laughing matter. But I think I'd look at this as the catalyst to seek actual TREATMENT for ADHD, and not hem and haw about finding him a doctor or think that OT will completely solve the problem---if a child has ADHD, to simply comply with the OT program, it is much better to have them in a mindset to do it (which ADHD meds do) rather than trying to have them work with an uncooperative child and "force" it on him when he doesn't want to participate.
Trying to have him feel a certain way or acknowledge certain things is fruitless unless he is in a mindset to understand it---and with an ADHD child, without medication they are unable to understand a lot of things. Teaching a receptive child is a lot easier than trying to teach a child whose mind is unable to be penetrated.
I hope things are better with you and with him. I hope that everything works out.
In thinking about this situation again, I think that instead of treating this in a punitive way, it should be the defining moment for you and your son and the fact that he needs more than what he is currently getting for his impulse control and hyperactivity. You expressed your frustration as well, and it seems that this has been going on for a long time.
I can see that you are a bit hesitant with the ADHD medications. The one thing I can say is that medications are not permanent---if he tries them out and in a couple of months they are not helping, you can stop them. HOWEVER---they may very well work! I truly believe it is worth a try---if they do work, it will be the first step to having him learn better, act better, have more impulse control, and to THINK about what he is doing before he does it.
I realize that I was a bit harsh at first, and still do believe that a broken jaw is not a laughing matter. But I think I'd look at this as the catalyst to seek actual TREATMENT for ADHD, and not hem and haw about finding him a doctor or think that OT will completely solve the problem---if a child has ADHD, to simply comply with the OT program, it is much better to have them in a mindset to do it (which ADHD meds do) rather than trying to have them work with an uncooperative child and "force" it on him when he doesn't want to participate.
Trying to have him feel a certain way or acknowledge certain things is fruitless unless he is in a mindset to understand it---and with an ADHD child, without medication they are unable to understand a lot of things. Teaching a receptive child is a lot easier than trying to teach a child whose mind is unable to be penetrated.
I hope things are better with you and with him. I hope that everything works out.
