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post #121 of 212
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Originally Posted by Caneel View Post
Playdates that involve moms hanging together - there, I admitted it.

(coming back to clarify I would love to hang with the type of moms/dads/parents I see on MDC. Its just my area seems to be severely lacking in that department.)
Oh my gosh this is totally ME! I am SAHM and I have hardly ANY friends, and I like it that way : I am surrounded by MAJOR mainstream moms (we are talking VERY mainstream) and they just don't "get" me at all. It is kinda sad, but I feel totally uncomfortable around them.
post #122 of 212
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Originally Posted by GISDiva View Post
People in Target who say to their kids "OK, let's go to the toy aisle!" Really, you want to willingly fight that battle? If it's up to me, DS won't even know that there IS a toy section until he's 12...
YES!!! I don't get it either. Maybe the parents just buy them a toy every time they go out? My nephew was like that...he HAD to get a toy every time he went shopping....then one time he had to with me I totally broke of him of that habit
post #123 of 212
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Originally Posted by GISDiva View Post
People in Target who say to their kids "OK, let's go to the toy aisle!" Really, you want to willingly fight that battle? If it's up to me, DS won't even know that there IS a toy section until he's 12...
I've been doing this with DS since he was old enough to be interested. It's great practice in not keeping everything we see! He's 31 months now and we usually just stick to the bins of animals. He looks at them for a bit. Then we put them away. I try to just stick to that one aisle. But now they've got an put the animals in the same aisle as *BLEEP*ing Thomas the Tank Engine! I think there's something in that blue color that just amps up his sensory level! I don't go up and down all the toy aisles though---he just gets too wound up.

Kids Music: My inlaws gave us a 3 disc dvd set of these horrible children singing sticky sweet songs, mostly religious ones. I was forewarned because we'd seen it when visiting - they had it at the house for our neice. It's so bad that my husband and I mutually agreed not to even open it. I dumped it in the consignment sale this spring! Other kid music...we don't really have any. One folkie mix with some Laurie Berkner and that kind of thing and one Bare Naked Ladies kids CD. Otherwise we sing ourselves or listen to music that Mama likes!

My biggest pet peeve: people that think I should just drag DS to anywhere I'm going and let him work bedtimes, naptimes and mealtimes around adult activities. Just because their kids survived that way, does not mean my easilly over-stimulated toddler will. And no, I'm not going to just do it more so he gets used to it!! I have friends with older kids who brought their children everywhere they went even with late nights. They just don't get that not every kid does well with mellow, go with the flow. Esp at 2 yrs old.

Otherwise nothing major. I do hope to avoid the video game thing for as long as possible though. Oh, and keep my soon-to-be-ex husband from making sports too important. He doesn't see sports as strictly fun. He was raised old school Texas style...and it was The Thing. He thinks seriously about DS going pro in something. Or college scholorships. I don't mind if DS likes sports some day, I just don't want him to pin too many dreams on it. It hurt my husband by skewing his priorities and I don't want that for DS.
post #124 of 212
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Originally Posted by BarefootScientist View Post
Ugh, I hate that stuff. My problem though, is that I'm not good at small talk and have no idea how to make friends...so we don't have any.

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You just have to be your own best friend. LOL. Its easy....see! :

I rock!
post #125 of 212
Loving this thread.

C's only 18 months, but there are a few things that I absolutely refuse to do (such as pay to watch little ones tumble in a Mommy & Me type Gymboree class). He does NOT help me cook and stays away from the kitchen (mostly because we have a small added room on the side that's a step down, can't be gated due to it being WAY too wide, and I really dislike fighting with him about eating dog food). I really, really hate playgroups with other toddlers, too. He doesn't get a lot of exposure to other children and I'll admit that it's all because of me. He's so gentle and shy that he usually gets knocked down, toys stolen and ends up using me as a rock climbing wall because the noise is too much for him. So we avoid.

I do love taking him to the farm and letting him play in the dirt, pet the horses, chase bugs, throw rocks. I love taking him on walks. I love watching him play independently - I can hang out in the floor with him and he'll play for a few hours with balls, blocks, whatever. I enjoy watching him explore and figure stuff out on his own. We spend time in the front yard every morning and he has a blast picking clover, chucking mulch into the yard, visiting the neighbors.

I had my first taste of kids' music yesterday while riding in the car with my mother. He screamed the entire time, I wanted to rip my hair out, and my mother insisted that it was because he was tired. I beg to differ...I think it's because the high-pitched, Chipmunkesque noise hurt his ears!
post #126 of 212
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Originally Posted by RollerCoasterMama View Post

My biggest pet peeve: people that think I should just drag DS to anywhere I'm going and let him work bedtimes, naptimes and mealtimes around adult activities. Just because their kids survived that way, does not mean my easilly over-stimulated toddler will. And no, I'm not going to just do it more so he gets used to it!! I have friends with older kids who brought their children everywhere they went even with late nights. They just don't get that not every kid does well with mellow, go with the flow. Esp at 2 yrs old.
DITTO! C figured out his OWN schedule and we stick to it. He naps around 1, 1:30 in the afternoon and goes to bed by 8. The two hours before bedtime are for play, cuddles and us, as a family. I'm sorry, but I am NOT going to drag my pissy kid out of the house at 6 to attend XYZ, so don't bother me with it. (Sorry, turned into a slight rant, I just received an invite to a family party for this coming Monday that starts at 7pm and it's fresh on my mind!)
post #127 of 212
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Originally Posted by choli View Post
Homeschooling. No way, no how.
Me too.
post #128 of 212
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Originally Posted by Drummer's Wife View Post
Did anyone mention chuck e cheese? gah. We probably go a couple times a year, for various reasons but it's not my idea of fun. I mean, I love to see my kids happy and shoving tokens into noisy machines and all, but I have to take 4 advil and drink the watery beer they sell to stay sane.
Oh, I hate CEC, but my kids love it so much. I take them during the day when it's quieter and drink LOTS and LOTS of sugary pop - pretty much the only time I drink pop except for the occasional rootbeer float.
post #129 of 212
I really look forward to playing cards with my kid and certain board games. A lot of the ones geared for young kids are so bad, but ones more geared for family/adults are still able to be played by kids a lot of fun (for me). And card games are such a huge thing in my family and DH doesn't like most of them, so I hardly ever get to play. I can't wait to have a kid and take them to the zoo all the time, I love the zoo so hopefully she will too. I also love the park and always enjoyed playing with my younger cousins at parks. I also love video games, so I look forward to sharing that love with the appropriate moderation.

I don't think I could homeschool, I always enjoyed tutoring and the like, but to have the discipline to do a curriculum and all that, no way! Certain sports are ok, though they can be pretty boring when the kids are really little, but some I would hate to do. My younger brother did T-ball for a year each and it was so mind numbingly boring as a kid, I can't even imagine it as an adult. Luckily, they didn't like it either Watching totally kid-geared TV/movies (the ones without the smart adult humor and the like thrown in) and listening to those annoying kid songs, yeah, going to avoid that as much as possible! There is plenty of good music I listen to that is totally kid friendly, can't see why they can't just listen to that.

And some pretend play would be ok, but not all the time. I can't imagine trying to get much actual cleaning/cooking/etc. done with a young child, but I can see doing some as a game where I don't worry about getting much done until they are older. I love reading out loud, but as at least one PP said, I tend to get frustrated with those who struggle to read aloud, so I will probably need extra patience for that when my kid starts!
post #130 of 212
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Originally Posted by choli View Post
Homeschooling. No way, no how.
I used to be this way, too. But now, out of necessity, I am. Totally weirds me out. I still freely tell ppl, "I am not a homeschooling person."

Our necessity is that we're moving to a state with only medical exemptions for vaccines. My kids have opted NOT to be vaxed (I did give them the choice but clearly explained why we have not vaxed them before) and requested to be homeschooled.

So, out of necessity, I have become a homeschooling mom. It still freaks me out.
post #131 of 212
My family doesn't know Chuck E. Cheese exists. :
post #132 of 212
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Originally Posted by RollerCoasterMama View Post
I've been doing this with DS since he was old enough to be interested. It's great practice in not keeping everything we see! He's 31 months now and we usually just stick to the bins of animals. He looks at them for a bit. Then we put them away. I try to just stick to that one aisle. .
I don't get how this is possible. Mine sees the toys from aisles away when we walk anywhere near the toy aisle. If we go to one aisle, she knows, and has known for at least a year, that there are similar things on the next aisle. A few months ago she started with, "Let's see if they have any..." and then names something she saw at pre-school, at her cousins' house, whatever.

So for me, since she knows it's there, the toy aisle can be a nice break in the middle of shopping for her. It's not me showing her the toys. She KNOWS about the toys with her mad toy radar skillz. It's me saying, "It's not all about mommy, you can have fun, too."

It's not something I wanted to do. If it were up to ME, she would not know that there are even toys in stores. But it's not up to me. We walked by the toy aisles once in search of a bathing suit and that was the end of that. She talked about going to Target for weeks after that.
post #133 of 212
Oh, and I wanted to homeschool and never imagined considering public school for my kid.

She asked to go to school right after her second birthday. We started her when she was 32 months. She points at the school as we drive by and says, "When I'M a big girl, I am going to go to that school!"

We can't afford private. I'll try her for a scholarship, she's no genius but she speaks well. If not, there we go.

I need a s/o- things you thought you'd never do.
post #134 of 212
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Originally Posted by New View Post
My family doesn't know Chuck E. Cheese exists. :
I'm hoping to keep it that way for DS as well! We used to bring my brother's girls until my husband got a PARASITE!!! when he was crawling through the tunnels to keep up with my neice. A parasite that was icky enough that I had to take a preventative pill as well in case it crawled across the sheets to me. EEEEEEEEEWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW!

Plus, to be honest, he'd get SOOOOO over-stimulated that it would take 2 days to get back to normal. Best to avoid that fun.

HOMESCHOOLING: never thought I'd want to. Now I do, but I don't think I'll be able to. But we're spoiled in the selection of neat charter schools in the area, so I think I'll be able to get something to suit.
post #135 of 212
This thread is making me feel okay about not enjoying playing Littlest Pet Shop with DD.
post #136 of 212
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Originally Posted by choli View Post
Homeschooling. No way, no how.
I think I would go crazy dealing with school. Getting to bed on time, up early, dealing with administration, making sure homework got done....those alone sound like much more energy than I put into homeschooling on a lazy day. Of course, we're pretty relaxed.
post #137 of 212
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Originally Posted by stormborn View Post
I think I would go crazy dealing with school. Getting to bed on time, up early, dealing with administration, making sure homework got done....those alone sound like much more energy than I put into homeschooling on a lazy day. Of course, we're pretty relaxed.
We working moms already go to bed on time, get up early, deal with administration etc. anyway - as part of providing for our families. Dropping off our children at school on the way to work is no big deal. But trying to fully teach my child, at the end of a busy workday? Now THAT would take too much energy!
post #138 of 212
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Originally Posted by Seasons View Post
We working moms already go to bed on time, get up early, deal with administration etc. anyway - as part of providing for our families. Dropping off our children at school on the way to work is no big deal. But trying to fully teach my child, at the end of a busy workday? Now THAT would take too much energy!
It really depends on the person.

I honestly wish I'd thought of homeschooling when ds1 was little. I don't know if I could have done it while I was living with my energy vampire of an ex, but once he left? Heck, yeah - way less of a PITA to coordinate with my WOH schedule than school was. Dealing with school schedules, fundraisers, expectations, etc. has probably been my least favourite, most difficult, part of parenting to date. And, dropping ds1 off and picking him up after work was a gigantic pain.
post #139 of 212
Public/Charter/Private school.

Dealing with all the issues that come up with the teacher, another student, etc, constant papers sent home to read for fundraisers, reminder of rules, to tell me there was a guy flashing the crossing guard, monthly news, etc. Then my kid coming home after being there all day to tell me "its beaver day" (groundhog day.LOL) followed by "who the heck is George Lincoln anyway?"

Ugh! we had our dd (legal custody from a family member) in public kinder last year. A GREAT reminder of why we homeschool. Happily the judge told us we are more then welcome to homeschool and he thinks its great.
post #140 of 212
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Originally Posted by baglady View Post
LOL. I meant those CDs like Kidz Bop where they record popular songs as sung by kids. I didn't mean I wouldn't want to listen to my kid singing. I mean just let them listen to Blink 182 not some weird other kid singing it. I don't have anything against popular music.
Ahhh, yea, those are horrifying.

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People in Target who say to their kids "OK, let's go to the toy aisle!" Really, you want to willingly fight that battle? If it's up to me, DS won't even know that there IS a toy section until he's 12...
I rarely buy my kids toys and we look at toys all the time. They KNOW if they ask the answer will be no. But every once in a while, maybe twice a year I'll ask them "hey, did you see something you wanted?" and buy it. They are stunned into silence and quickly find the THING they've been coveting. But if they ask they won't get so much as an Icee
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