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post #141 of 212
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Originally Posted by transformed View Post
You just have to be your own best friend. LOL. Its easy....see! :

I rock!
I love that.

When I see little girls with hairdoes you know took an hour to make..... heck no, a brushing here and there, occasionally pull it up - that's it. bows for special occasions. I do not want to spend my time fighting my child to stay still
post #142 of 212
I do not get the appeal of busy, full social schedules, although that's not really tied to parenting specifically because I don't get it for adults either. I don't have fun at dozens-of-people events of any kind, be they bday parties, block parties, open houses, etc. I do not understand the appeal of "free" days at museums and zoos, because IME, they're overcrowded, it's hard to see anything, and other attendees are not well behaved. In financial straits, I would rather save my money up to go on a quiet, mostly-empty day less frequently. I don't get the "let's just wander and we'll find something to do" structure or the "drop in classes." I just generally don't like crowds or unplanned days. I like knowing what we have lined up for a while.

I also could never do as some friends do and have an au pair, a live in baby sitter, or extended family living with me for an extended amount of time. I like my privacy and while DH, DD, and DS are exempt from that, I could never live with my mother, the MIL I adore, or an au pair!

I get, but would not myself want to, unschool nor be TV-free. I am really glad that DD does not know what Chuck E. Cheese is, is only slightly interested in Barbie (because she loves mermaids and there's now a Barbie mermaid). I hope urgently that neither kid will ever be into guns, war, battle type play because it's so not me in any way.

I do, however, like structured classes and small get togethers, and Disney world. I like to play, and I love play doh. I like messy play and have set up the apartment so as to allow for that, even though it's small and we've won an interior design award.

I mean no value judgement on people who adore any of the things I would hate doing, by the way, they're clearly great for lots of people, just not for me!
post #143 of 212
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Originally Posted by EviesMom View Post
I also could never do as some friends do and have an au pair, a live in baby sitter, or extended family living with me for an extended amount of time. I like my privacy and while DH, DD, and DS are exempt from that, I could never live with my mother, the MIL I adore, or an au pair!
I would DIE to have an au pair. Please send me an au pair, god. please.
post #144 of 212
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Originally Posted by Storm Bride View Post
I have backaches all the time from doing things with dd2 over my shoulder, but she's still too little to "help". Honestly, most of the time, I'd prefer the backache. Every time I've tried to have my kids help in the kitchen, I've almost gone mad. They can help bake, and they can help unload the dishwasher (actually, they unload, and pass me the dishes - the cupboards are too high for them).


I'm not good at pretend play, and I don't like Disney. The kids had fun, but it was pretty much an endurance trip for me.
I HATE disney land!!! If my child ever goes to disney land or disney world they're going without me! I went in 5th grade to disney land and it was smoggy, and the weather was terrible and I was sick the whole time!

Now, I WILL take my baby hiking! We left disney and went to the Grand Canyon (we hiked it!) and it was AMAZING!! The BEST thing I've EVER done on vacation EVER! In my whole entire life! (helping with katrina clean up in NOLA was a close second when I was in college) (It helped that we went to the Grand Canyon and hiked down the day they re-opened from the national parks shutting down in 1995 - is that the right year? So, there was no one there and we had the place pretty much to ourselves save a few mule trains!)
post #145 of 212
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Originally Posted by transformed View Post
I would DIE to have an au pair. Please send me an au pair, god. please.
Hee. Be careful what you wish for! The friend with an au pair had to get a rematch because with the first one, she said "basically, I suddenly have a sullen teenager in addition to my own three young children. One who storms out of the house, eats up tons of food and puts the empty containers back in the cupboard, and thinks she knows everything. I expected at least 8 or 9 more years before I had to deal with teenager-y issues!" Now she's gotten a better one, though! If money were no object, I could personally see having a babysitter who shows up at like 8:30 in the morning, and/or a personal assistant type person who showed up early too. But I could not handle the 24-7 live in thing, personally.
post #146 of 212
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Originally Posted by Seasons View Post
For me, the how-do-they-do-this-regularly astonishment is about playing Princess. Horrifyingly unfeminist. Luckily my dd (age 6) has never asked - in fact she is just as disgusted by (in her words) "people who think it's all about being pretty and nice, instead of being smart and running fast."

I'm sure it helps that she has never seen a "princess movie" - except the one time at the gym childcare that she STILL talks about (and not flatteringly).

Similarly, I've heard some girls like to "play bride." Very glad my dd is not into that (shudder). I could not with any integrity join in.
I loved my dd's Cinderella princess phase. She wanted me to be mean to her and make her clean-up. She would do anything I asked her to do. It was blissful

I don't get moms who get up 3 or 4 times in the middle of the night to comfort a crying baby. It seems so much more tiring than just sleeping with baby.
post #147 of 212
I hate doing anything that I wouldn't ordinarily do without kids. I have utmost patience in helping DS learn how to hang clothes on the line, bake/cook, pour tea, wash dishes, etc. But get me in a situation where we're going to a toddler music class just to "stimulate him" and I go batty.

DH and I LOVE taking DS to children's museums, though. DS likes to stay so long that DH and I take turns going out to dinner alone .

I love being a parent, but some of the things that make up supposed "modern parenting" and being child-centered instead of family-centered.....I just don't get.
post #148 of 212
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I HATE disney land!!! If my child ever goes to disney land or disney world they're going without me! I went in 5th grade to disney land and it was smoggy, and the weather was terrible and I was sick the whole time!

Now, I WILL take my baby hiking! We left disney and went to the Grand Canyon (we hiked it!) and it was AMAZING!! The BEST thing I've EVER done on vacation EVER! In my whole entire life! (helping with katrina clean up in NOLA was a close second when I was in college) (It helped that we went to the Grand Canyon and hiked down the day they re-opened from the national parks shutting down in 1995 - is that the right year? So, there was no one there and we had the place pretty much to ourselves save a few mule trains!)
Oh, yeah - we've never done any long hikes like that, but we were back out on the trails with dd1 when she was about 2.5 months old, and I think it would have been sooner if I hadn't had the c-section. She loved it, and dh and I had a great time.
post #149 of 212
Getting out the flour and cookie sheets and letting the kids play with their dump trucks and excavators and shovels in there, plus with water to mix in when they want - all inside the house during the winter. A mom told me how much fun her kids have when she got that stuff out for them and all I could think was how I would be cleaning that up forever! It sounded like that was a regular wintertime activity for them, which sounds great for her kids, but I couldn't do it.
post #150 of 212
I haven't read the whole thread - there sure is a lot of stuff you all don't want to do!

I think my kids have benefited a TON from their parent/tot gym and music classes. They've been helpful in my efforts to track my dd's sensory development (she has some subclinical issues I want to make sure we stay on top of) and make sure she's on track with other kids her age, developmentally-speaking, and they've been great for socialization. Plus, both girls have always taken awesome naps on the afternoons after class. They've really helped me be a developmentally-aware mommy.
post #151 of 212
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Originally Posted by Seasons View Post
We working moms already go to bed on time, get up early, deal with administration etc. anyway - as part of providing for our families. Dropping off our children at school on the way to work is no big deal. But trying to fully teach my child, at the end of a busy workday? Now THAT would take too much energy!
Eh, part of it may be that dh and I work opposite shifts. Adding in a set school schedule on top of the juggling we already do might be what makes it seem daunting to me. Don't get me wrong, we'd do it if we had to. But just watching our friends with kids in school rush around to pack everything in stresses me out.
post #152 of 212
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Originally Posted by siobhang View Post
Baking with children. Drives me nuts. Because, yes it DOES matter how much baking soda or salt or flour actually makes it into the bowl. It DOES matter how fast or well you mix it. I will let them pour pre-measured amounts into the bowl and do very specific things (like shred the zucchini in the cuisinart or turn on the stand mixer), but I lose it if they spill any ingredients or put too much in. Not worth the hassle most of the time.
this. the food wasting is what gets me. It really, really bugs me to throw out a whole batch of cookies. Also, DS likes to eat flour.

another thing that drives me nuts is....
keeping my kid clean.

washing hands, cleaning faces, wiping noses. it's so much WORK and I have the messiest little guy in the world. He always looks like he's been mining coal. I hose him down and three seconds later he's right back to looking like Pig Pen.
post #153 of 212
I like to cook and clean with my kids. They are little still, so not a lot of help (1 and 3), but we have fun doing it.

I like the park, too. And, as my oldest has gotten bigger, I like playing in the yard.

But, I hate playdates with other moms there. I had much rather sit or stand alone at the park, lost in my thoughts than have to watch my kids, all while talking to someone about, well, nothing. Maybe I just don't like people. Heck, no maybe about it. LOL

And, I hate playing "cars". I encourage independent play. makes 'em smarter. LOL
post #154 of 212
I hate doing homework with my kids. Ok, I don't know anyone who actually likes it but I always had these grandiose visions of us sitting at the table really bonding over sight words. Instead I'm usually cooking while half way listening to my six year old read and it's kind of stressful because I can never seem to find a pencil with an eraser.

My two year old started having homework this week too. It really rubbed me the wrong way, but now she actually has something to do while her sister does her own homework instead of trying to 'help' Dylan with hers so it isn't actually all bad.
post #155 of 212
we are saving up for a vacation and dh is convinced its going to e disney. eh. (Its like 2 hours from us)

He wants to do the "Disney camping experience"

I was like "Why dont we just do the REAL camping experience?"

I am such a downer. LOL. hehe
post #156 of 212
I am clearly an easily annoyed person

Kids music drives me batty! Why do humans between certain ages NEED different music?!?! Dd does have some kids music but it is all on HER I-pod and WE do not have to listen to it together. Just like dh and I both have music that only we like that we listen to privately.

Sitting through sports games. Especially any that might involve cold, rain, snow, or other uncomfortable conditions. Luckily, dd inherited our complete lack of sports ability and/or interest. I am so not OK with sitting in drizzle watching 4 yos play "soccer".

I do not play. I have tried. It is misery for me. Dd is welcome to join in ANY activity I do. I have no problem with dinner taking 3 times as long because dd wants to help. I have painstakingly taught dd how to knit. She is welcome to help me sew, iron, hang laundry, can tomatoes, but I cannot play babies to save my life. Games and puzzles are the exception.

This is the biggie..... Modern kids STUFF. We live in a little TV-free, unschooling, bubble and dd has no idea that there is a "toy aisle", a Disneyworld, or shoes that light up. THANK GOD! I hate hate HATE the look, feel, and sound of almost everything marketed to kids these days. The idea of a huge pink kitchen sitting in my living room makes my teeth itch. Kids movies, character clothing, anything with batteries, etc just hurts my brain and I am not sure I could live in the same space with any of it. Kids are PEOPLE. If dd wants binoculars, she can use the family set. I see no reason at all to buy pink princess binoculars (that do not even work). Repeat for everything from shoes to cameras to music to...... Now, I understand that a 6 yo is not going to want to cozy up to watch Sopranos with me. But there are plenty of family movies that she enjoys that are not garish. Classics tend to be a big hit here. But yikes! I cannot imagine submerging myself into that culture. We live simply and I need a simple space to live it.
post #157 of 212
Cooking is the least of my worries. That's fun and stress-free and done at home.

I could never be a soccer mom. I can't stand the thought of driving my kids to and fro to go to several practices per week and then games on Sat/Sun afternoons. No thank you.
post #158 of 212
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Originally Posted by transformed View Post
He wants to do the "Disney camping experience"
Disney is another one for me. I don't see the attraction. I think it's a tourist trap. We have the money and the time to go since we are self-employed and homeschool our kids but I don't see the point in going to stand in lines all day, get tired out, have cranky kids and not really have any real enjoyment of close, family time.
post #159 of 212
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Originally Posted by darcytrue View Post
Disney is another one for me. I don't see the attraction. I think it's a tourist trap. We have the money and the time to go since we are self-employed and homeschool our kids but I don't see the point in going to stand in lines all day, get tired out, have cranky kids and not really have any real enjoyment of close, family time.
Agreed. I would rather vacation in Siberia in the Winter than visit Disney.
post #160 of 212
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Originally Posted by choli View Post
Homeschooling. No way, no how.
Me neither. I have great respect to those who do and I will defend your right to teach your own kids but its not for me and my kids.

I was home schooled so a lot of people assume that I'll home school my kids. When they find out that I'm not planning on it, they're shocked.
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