or Connect
Mothering › Mothering Forums › Mom › Parenting › Things other moms do with their kids that you would hate doing with yours
New Posts  All Forums:Forum Nav:

Things other moms do with their kids that you would hate doing with yours - Page 10

post #181 of 212
umm lol I notice that a lot of moms I know with only 1 or 2 kids do a lot of things I cringe at and wouldnt even consider with all 5 of mine, like when our playgroup paints ceramics....my two year old in a ceramic store gives me a panic attack just thinking about it lol.being involved in anything sports related, nope. anything really competitive skeeves me out too. errands,anything super messy,story times at the library my kids would never sit there and behave, mommy and me activities where all the other kids just sit there happily while mine are jumping around being loud laughing and the other parents are staring....do you want me to keep going? lol
NAK
post #182 of 212
Heh; this is a great thread!

I dislike... um, anything that requires effort. That includes complicated craft projects, overly physically-exerty games, and pretty much taking DD anywhere. We don't have a car, and the pram's currently on the fritz, so taking her anywhere means walking AND lugging whatever groceries/nappies/library books etc are necessary for the trip. It's hard enough summoning up the oomph to take her on a necessary multiple errand (like today - yawn!); but taking her to something like Mainly Music (which we do sporadically), playdates (pretty much never) or, heaven forbid, the swimming pool? Gah!

The whole "cooking with kids" thing makes me giggle. I love cooking and look forward to doing it with DD, but it occurred to me the other day that it may not be as idyllic as I expect. I used to let my (significantly) younger sisters "help" me with cooking when I was a teenager, and it usually ended up in frustration and shouting. I was never willing to compromise the product for the sake of fun, so if a small sibling tipped out some of the flour by accident there was hell to pay!

DH jokes that while my mother, who hates cooking, always used to greet my culinary endeavors with extreme enthusiasm, I'm likely to respond to DD's cooking with "What a sweet Mother's Day breakfast, honey, but you don't make custard with custard powder, you have to use real eggs, and remind me to show you how to make a proper iced chocolate one day". It's possible...

I do like reading to her though. She's 18 months and really into books all of a sudden, so that combined with her recent language explosion makes it quite interactive and fun. I even do voices... my old school teachers would be amazed.

Oh, and ditto for kids' music. DD's favourite music is Billy Joel, Rent and Dr Horrible's Sing-Along Blog. Oh, and rap. We don't listen to rap, but if it comes up in a movie she's start bopping and head-banging like nobody's business. Whitest kid in the world. Don't ask me.
post #183 of 212
Quote:
Originally Posted by mamalisa View Post
I hate going to the park. I really really hate going to the park. I'm all for bike rides and playing outside, making chalk drawings and blowing bubbles, playing catch and all sorts of outside stuff. But "LOOK AT ME!" "Watch me climb this!" "Watch me slide!" "Watch me swing!!" Dude, really, I almost die of boredom. I'm going to start sending my sitter to the park with dd, that's how much I hate it. I'm willing to pay for someone else to do it.
So I am not alone!! I hate the park. I hate sitting there with nothing to do. It is hot, and humid ALL YEAR LONG, or at least 9 months of the year. I don't want to play on the equimpment with him and watching a child go up and down the same slide over and over again is monotonous at best.

Reading out loud is for the birds. I skip pages ALL.THE.TIME.
post #184 of 212
Intentionally matching mother-daughter, or family outfits. Uh, no thanks!
post #185 of 212
I RARELY read to my dd but whenever she asks me to read her a book then I'll read it to her. Unless she loses focus or start watching TV or whatever, then I'll just stop reading to her. And I rarely go to her room when its her bed time to tuck her in. I always give her a big hug, kiss and say good night babe before she goes to her room to go to bed. I ALWAYS feel guilty when I see a movie showing that a mom or dad reading their child a book in bed then tuck them in afterward. That always makes me feel like a lazy or a bad mom.
post #186 of 212
Quote:
Originally Posted by erratum View Post
I dig playing pretend. Except, this kid I babysat for used to make me be more than one character at the same time. So you're talking to yourself AND having to come up with twice the inane dialogue as usual! It makes you feel totally schizophrenic!

post #187 of 212
Pretend Play. I'm terrible at it. Terrible!

I'll gladly play with the building toys with her, do crafts, etc, but I'm not playing pretend, hrmph!
post #188 of 212
We have had a ban on toys that make noise all along. I go to other parent's houses and here kids pushing buttons on those things and want to get up and leave. So, so, annoying. We don't allow kids' music or movies that aren't even trying to be good (ie all that straight to dvd kid junk). We almost never paint, playdoh isn't allowed inside, and I don't think we've ever done a proper "craft." I pretty much suck at and hate pretend play, although I love to watch them pretend, just don't like participating.

On the other hand, we never babyproofed and I loooove sports-- I coached t-ball when my oldest was 5 and will probably coach more teams in the future, I stay for practices, throw the football around at home, and cheer every game. And I love the park-- my boys are entertained for hours while I sit and read a book!
post #189 of 212
oh, i almost forgot:

pushing anybody. on anything. ever.
post #190 of 212
Quote:
Originally Posted by MusicianDad View Post
DD's Barbie went bungy jumping! Except the string always feel off when tied around her ankles so it was tied around her neck...
Can I just say..... LMAO!!!!


I don't really enjoy pretend play.

Oh, and EC-ing. I read these articles and posts from people who EC, and all I can think is "good for them." I get the concept. Really, I do. But the thought of hodling a 1 month old over a toilet, carrying a potty chair wherever we go, constantly spraying our carpet with odor/stain remover, and walking around with a cloth dipe spread over my hip just in case baby pees/poos on me? No thank you.
post #191 of 212
Quote:
I don't care much what my kids play with - to me micromanaging their experience has gotten to be more annoying than anything.
Right on, love it. I hate seeing parent's projecting their own anal retentive ways onto their children....and getting into a pissing party over it ~ my child has never seen a TV, well we don't use electricity/gas/corn, yeah well my child wears leaves in place of diapers, mmm mine picks the organic local small-farmed non-capitalist food she eats and prepares it herself..and she's 2.

Don't get me wrong, I have a great respect for the cloth-diapering, whole food eating, carbon-footprint reducing set and I try to do my part as well. I just hate the pissing parties.

This thread is a great read. My DD is only one, so we're still finding our way.
post #192 of 212
I don't get the style of homeschooling that is a home version of a classroom. I know parents that start "class" at 7:30am with the pledge, and go through the day with a set schedule for each subject. Even lunch and outside play are scheduled. Of course, they think that unschoolers like myself are lazy, neglectful and giving homeschooling a bad name (and don't mind telling me that either!)

And along the same lines, school schedules. Getting up early and keeping an eye on the clock. No thanks.

Bed time routines. Blah.

Keeping the house spotless. How do people do this?

Reading aloud. I don't mind doing it actually (it was my favorite part of being a kindy teacher) but DD makes it torture! And why does she only want to do it when I am half asleep or in the middle of cooking/dishes/feeding her baby brother?

I hate doing anything outside when it's hot out. I live in FL so that's pretty much from April to October.

Waiting around while DD takes a class. I had to limit her to 1 activity a week like this.

Pretend play quickly makes me nuts. DD is in a phase where she likes to direct. She likes to feed me all of my lines and then correct me when I do it "wrong".

I do like cooking with DD. I just don't expect her to complete a project, she always looses interest at some point.

Looking at the toy aisle is the reward for cooperating with me when I have to run errands. We hit Target up frequently for TP, soap and shampoo, prescriptions, etc... so I make it the last stop.
post #193 of 212
Quote:
Originally Posted by mamalisa View Post
I hate going to the park. I really really hate going to the park. I'm all for bike rides and playing outside, making chalk drawings and blowing bubbles, playing catch and all sorts of outside stuff. But "LOOK AT ME!" "Watch me climb this!" "Watch me slide!" "Watch me swing!!" Dude, really, I almost die of boredom. I'm going to start sending my sitter to the park with dd, that's how much I hate it. I'm willing to pay for someone else to do it.
I'll go back now and read all the other replies, but THIS times 1,000!!!!!!

The park we drive by everyday is the bane of my mothering existence.
I didn't like the park as a kid and I don't enjoy it anymore now.

"Momma, come up and go down the slide with me." Ugh, no thanks. I will do a million other things for you, but PLEASE NOT THE PARK.

I even hate it when he's off playing with other kids and I'm stuck with the mommas....hmm, that might even be a worse fate.

and @ the park.
post #194 of 212
This is a spin-off of the playing pretend thing, but my DS has a puppet that I have been known to hide.

"You put dragon [the puppet] on your hand. You make dragon do XYZ. Dragon reads me a book. Dragon plays trains. Dragon builds a tower with me."

I hate the dragon.
post #195 of 212
Quote:
Originally Posted by mamalisa View Post
I hate going to the park. I really really hate going to the park. I'm all for bike rides and playing outside, making chalk drawings and blowing bubbles, playing catch and all sorts of outside stuff. But "LOOK AT ME!" "Watch me climb this!" "Watch me slide!" "Watch me swing!!" Dude, really, I almost die of boredom. I'm going to start sending my sitter to the park with dd, that's how much I hate it. I'm willing to pay for someone else to do it.
I am TOTALLY with you on this one.

Also, I am jealous of parents that enjoy setting up and doing craft projects with their kids. I like to do MY crafts - but I'm a perfectionist and can't stand the mess that the kids make, or their imperfections, or the fact that after they make something, they RUIN it!! I'm always wanting to snatch the painting away from my DDs and say "STOP! It's perfect the way it is! Stop adding more!"
post #196 of 212
Ok, so now I've read all the replies...it's amazing how differently we all are!!

I will admit...I LOVE going to Toy'R'Us with my kid, not just the toy aisle at Target/WalMart. We can spend HOURS in there and leave with nothing.
I love taking the kid to soccer. Though I dread the other moms, I totally enjoy doing nothing but watching him run around and kick the ball.
I love playing frisbee with him. It's awesome!
I love taking him with me on all my regular errands.
I love doing craft projects with him...hitting up a craft store is exciting for us.
I love bath time....it's our chat time.
I love going to movies with him.
I enjoy CEC so long as I'm not dragged around and expected to pretend to be engrossed in the games.
Maybe that should be a S/O thread....

I hate teaching him anything formal....writing, reading, etc. It's drives me bonkers. All the other "conceptual" things I'm ok with.

I hate kids music too...except for kids Christmas music (we listen to it year round). We are avid headbangers and air guitar players!!!!!!!

I REFUSE to do anything outside in the cold. YOU wanna out on a coat and freeze your tail off, kiddo, go.right.ahead. *I* will be in the house with two pairs of sock, flannel long underwear and sweat drinking hot tea!!!!

I loath pretend play too. I've really tried to endure it for the sake of the kid, but even as a kid the closest I got to pretend play was sticking my nose in a book.
post #197 of 212
Quote:
Originally Posted by CrunchyMamaToBe View Post

I hate the dragon.
:
post #198 of 212
The park, as well. I live on Long Island, aka: Land of the $400 Umbrella Stroller. I always feel like an outcast in my jeans, sandals and pony tail, next to the other moms all decked-out in Ann Taylor, high heels, in full make-up, sipping fancy coffee, and each kid has a Happy Meal in hand. None of the parks have trees (can't waste municipal funds on raking leaves, eh?) and that full-on sunlight makes my fibromyalgia flare-up. Ugh. Plus my kids are both runners and need to be supervised more closely than many other kids, especially autistic ds.

The day I can sit on a bench and read a friggin book while my kids play is the day I will go to the park. Some overcast would be nice, too. LOL.
post #199 of 212
[QUOTE=lolablitz;14527738]Right on, love it. I hate seeing parent's projecting their own anal retentive ways onto their children....and getting into a pissing party over it ~ my child has never seen a TV, well we don't use electricity/gas/corn, yeah well my child wears leaves in place of diapers, mmm mine picks the organic local small-farmed non-capitalist food she eats and prepares it herself..and she's 2.

Don't get me wrong, I have a great respect for the cloth-diapering, whole food eating, carbon-footprint reducing set and I try to do my part as well. I just hate the pissing parties.


Don't know how I missed this thread and I haven't read through everything but this cracked me up. So true.
post #200 of 212
Traveling with babies or young kids.

No matter how much fun we had on the few trips we have been on with our daughter, it just never seemed worth all the trouble to me. We've only driven to see my mom a few times, and we flew to NYC once because my DH was awarded a free trip through work. Yeah, we had fun, but it was just too much work.

Now that we have a second, you could not pay me money to travel anywhere at this point. Between my daughter's constant talking and need to use the potty, and my son nursing and being in diapers and just being a crazy one year old, I'd rather eat dirt that go any further than the grocery store.

Once they get older though, I think we will have a blast traveling, but not until they can feed themselves, put themselves to sleep, and wipe their own butts .
New Posts  All Forums:Forum Nav:
  Return Home
  Back to Forum: Parenting
Mothering › Mothering Forums › Mom › Parenting › Things other moms do with their kids that you would hate doing with yours