I am new to the Mothering community... sleep issues are driving me to seek advice.
DS is actually a decent sleeper at almost 5 mos. Well, he doesn't nap more than an hour ever (sometimes just 20 minutes) but at night he typically only wakes twice. He sleeps in his crib in his own room (transitioned from co-sleeping about 1 1/2 month ago... and for personal reasons we don't want to return to that arrangement aside from snuggling in the mornings).
Problem is that when he wakes at 2 to nurse it takes an hour or more to get him back to sleep. He doesn't want to play but will not go down without waking/crying. I have to bounce him for quite a while after nursing before attempting to lay him down (even tho he seems to fall asleep while nursing).
Up until a week ago this was fine (tho sleep deprived I love cuddling with DS at night). But now he doesn't quite fall asleep in my arms ever--we never get to the point when his pacifier falls out & he goes totally limp & he continues to squirm for a long time... So it's like my holding him is keeping him from falling asleep but he doesn't quite yet know how to fall asleep on his own.
We repeat this at 4 or 5 (tho sometimes he simply refuses to go back to sleep then & is just up for the morning (with bags under his eyes...).
Which brings me to Hogg & her "middle of the road" "sleep training" technique. Anyone have thoughts on her pick up/put down strategy? (She advises parents to pick up their baby when he cries and put him down once he stops... repeat until he finally puts himself to sleep.) I can't figure out if it's just as bad as CIO and if it actually will work. My pediatrician (who I love but who also advocates CIO) thinks that this is more confusing for the baby than CIO.
Also, I'm not sure how much to buy into Hogg generally as I'm not a fan of her strict schedules and feeding advice. But I'm tempted by her sleep advice... it seems reasonable enough but I'd love to hear from other moms, not only on Hogg but your own experience/advice. Again, I wouldn't even be considering ANY sleep "training" except that we're at this strange developmental moment where he's not falling asleep deeply in my arms but can't yet fall asleep on his own.
Thanks & apologies that this is long!