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post #21 of 41
I can so relate to how you are feeling, they did some awful, awful things to DS2 while trying to diagnose his CHD when he was just 2 weeks old. It is a horrible feeling as a mother to watch your tiny baby be poked and prodded when you just have to sit by helplessly. Be gentle with yourself. I'm sure it helped Anna to have you there comforting here during the scary parts.
post #22 of 41
I went through a similar experince when my DD was 10 days old and BOY was it hard hang in there Mama
post #23 of 41
hang in there - you have been so strong - my goodness sooo strong. you are in my prayers
post #24 of 41
Sending prayers your way.. Just keep doing what you're doing, you're a remarkable mother.
post #25 of 41
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I heard a lot from the mother and the nurses about the situation with the baby across the hall, it is worse than I had thought.. I assure everyone I was not being judgemental without understanding and knowing facts. It is just hard to hear a little baby crying for his mommy and having her not be there because she is out chain smoking or too busy texting to be bothered.

I formula fed my first daughter.. I was not judging that, I am judging the fact that she ws too busy texting and smoking and making out with her boyfriend to care or comfort or feed her own baby while she was here... why bother?
post #26 of 41
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nak...

update:

last night was rough. Anna nursed every hour if not more often... I was so tired.

She still has a fever.got her third large precautionary dose of antibiotics this am.

This morning the students came in and were telling me we would have to remain here until her fever was gone. I told them that if this is viral she may have a fever for days and being a single mom I cannot be away from my daughter. If it is bacterial, i would absolutely come back and allow them to give her the antibiotics and stay the full 10 days.

So when the actual Dr came in she agreed that it was ok to sign out AMA because the next 24 hours are just observational and they are just covering themselves. She asked if I would agree to another CBC clood culture to see if her WBC count was high and I said absolutely. She then started talking about the difference between Western and Eastern medicine again and I told her, "I understand the difference, just because I don't vax doesn't make me a bad mom, I brought my daughter in for care as soon as I saw her fever, however I am quite competent to take her temp rectally at home and give her tylenol and I am quite able to drive her back if the results show a bacterial infection."

She was happy with that and so was I. So we are waiting for the CBC culture to come back and then we can go. I think we will both get more sleep at home and I can at least care for my 2 year old as well. Poor thing I miss her so much.
post #27 of 41
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Oh and Anna and I send our thanks for all your well wishes and prayers.
post #28 of 41
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Originally Posted by NaturalMindedMomma View Post
I heard a lot from the mother and the nurses about the situation with the baby across the hall, it is worse than I had thought.. I assure everyone I was not being judgemental without understanding and knowing facts. It is just hard to hear a little baby crying for his mommy and having her not be there because she is out chain smoking or too busy texting to be bothered.

I formula fed my first daughter.. I was not judging that, I am judging the fact that she ws too busy texting and smoking and making out with her boyfriend to care or comfort or feed her own baby while she was here... why bother?
Wow. If the nurses told you anything about that baby's situation that would be a huge HIPPA violation. Honestly, if I was in your situarion I would not assume that I knew everything that was going on with that baby and the mom - everyone reacts differently to the stress of a hospitalized child and maybe taking smoke breaks is her way to destress.

Hope your little one is feeling better.
post #29 of 41
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Wow. If the nurses told you anything about that baby's situation that would be a huge HIPPA violation. Honestly, if I was in your situarion I would not assume that I knew everything that was going on with that baby and the mom - everyone reacts differently to the stress of a hospitalized child and maybe taking smoke breaks is her way to destress.

Hope your little one is feeling better.
Ok, it seems no matter what the situation is, you are going to think I am wrong, Everyone judges sometimes, I judged and I think she was wrong. I guarentee most other moms witnessing what I did would feel the same way. The nurses didn't tell me anything, I can hear, I have ears. Leaving your sick baby to smoke isn't cool in my book, sitting in the room and texting while the nurse has to come in to take care of your son is not cool. I assure you, from what I saw, there was carelessness going on. It is just really hard as a mom to listen to a baby suffer alone. This was not a NICU stay, it was not a prolonged hospitalization either, same protocol as for my daughter, he was on droplets precautions and had the septic work up like my daughter, only he was MAYBE a week old.

Thanks for your concern about my little one.
post #30 of 41
HIPPA violation or not the nurses talk and you hear things. I know A LOT about the baby that was next to DS2 while he was in the ICU. I know that the baby had a serious heart defect (HLHS) and his mom did not call or come to visit for 8 days and they called her and threatened to bring in DCF and start the process of terminating her parental rights if she didn't get in ASAP and you bet your a** that I judged her. I spent a lot of time talking to her baby and singing to her because I felt so sad that she was all alone and so close to death. I was pissed and so were the nurses and they did share info with me about the baby's mom. So I completely understand being pissed when you see a very sick baby being neglected. The nurses bust their butts to ensure that these babies live and they have no tolerance for parents who don't do the same. Rightly so IMHO.
post #31 of 41
Wishing your LO the speediest recovery. Mama, I'm glad you had the opportunity to stay with your LO and make her experience more positive.
~maddymama
post #32 of 41
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Update:

Her WBC count was a tad higher. I was told they would file a 51-a with CPS if I signed out. I decided to stay one more night because her cultures will be ready at 8 AM tomorrow morning and we will go from there. I am so worried about Abrielle, I miss her and my house so much.

Anna is better. Fever has been down at 99.3 since 10:40 AM. SO, she is really doing better. Her coloring and overall appearance is better, her eyes are bright and she seems more like herself.

The nurses here are amazing. No one has said anything about my co sleeping and they are so helpful. My parents are trying to be helpful too and so isn't my ex husband. I am a little stressed because life is at a stand still and if you all knew me, my life NEVER stands still. I have too much crap to take care of for this to happen, so this is God telling me to slow down and look at the important things.

Did I mention I miss my 2 year old? Ok now I am crying, I just miss her soooo much.

Thanks for caring everyone.

Jilian- thanks, the little man went home. His mom is REALLY young, not that that is necessarily bad thing, but maybe she is overwhelmed, although I hate that excuse. I am talking early teens young and so was her boyfriend. They went home last night. I was so worried for him. I really did want to just hold him and love on him.
post #33 of 41
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Thanks everyone for your prayers and well wishes.

We are home. Anna has not had a fever since yesterday at 11 AM. She had 3 doses of ABX. I am kind of sad she had to have something in her body other than my milk, but better safe than sorry.

She did have a rash this AM, and the Dr said she thinks it is the same virus as Hand Foot and Mouth disease.

We came home and cleaned up then took a nap and a nice bath. She is doing much better and is MUCH happier at home.
post #34 of 41
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Thanks everyone for your prayers and well wishes.

We are home. Anna has not had a fever since yesterday at 11 AM. She had 3 doses of ABX. I am kind of sad she had to have something in her body other than my milk, but better safe than sorry.

She did have a rash this AM, and the Dr said she thinks it is the same virus as Hand Foot and Mouth disease.

We came home and cleaned up then took a nap and a nice bath. She is doing much better and is MUCH happier at home.
Glad you're home. I'm sure Abrielle is glad to have you back.
post #35 of 41
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Glad you're home. I'm sure Abrielle is glad to have you back.
Boy I am glad to see her too! Although she told me she didn't want to go home (she was at my moms and is babied a lot there by gramma LOL)...

: YAY for home with my babies!
post #36 of 41
Wonderful news!
post #37 of 41
I'm so glad that you're home and she's okay... so they think it's Coxsackie virus? Eek.
post #38 of 41
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I'm so glad that you're home and she's okay... so they think it's Coxsackie virus? Eek.
yes! I couldn't remember the name.
post #39 of 41
Glad you're home!!!
post #40 of 41
so glad you are home and anna is doing better!

nak
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