a timely read

[GradysMom]

http://navelgazingmidwife.squarespac...rth-guilt.html

wonderful blog by a midwife and her very timely thoughts on processing our births, birth guilt and healing birth trauma. Also includes some great thoughts on how women as a community can be better listeners.

[Onemagicmummy]

didnt read it all, im eating 1 handed hugging a grumpy babe, but it made me realise that i have zero birth guilt about Henrietta's birth. Zero, none, zip, nada. that is monumental to me as i still carry birth guilt from the other 4.

will read it all later

kiz

[Pernillep]

Thanks for posting.

While I don't have guilt necessarily, I am doing a lot of questioning right now. I know it will not change the outcome but to accept it I need to somehow move beyond the questioning and accept we made the right choices for us in the heat of the moment.

[tracymom1]

Not in your DDC but wanted to say thanks for posting such a great site.

Birth trauma is something that so many people experience but it is rarely spoken of. There is that whole taboo factor - "well, your baby is healthy and that's all that matters" is heard way too often. The mother's feelings of grief and loss after ending up with a traumatic birth are often ignored. I know mine were. But thankfully, I turned my experience into the HBAC of my dreams this past July! I am going to do my best to let everyone know that it can indeed be done!