We've been ecing with dd for about a month (since she was 3 mo). It started out pretty good, but has gotten frustrating and I need some ideas to help me keep going.
Right now, she refuses to be held "in-arms" or to sit on her bblp. (Though making a cover for it might help?). So, I'll resort to lying her down on some prefolds, and sometimes then she'll go. (Though often it seems she waits till I leave the room.) I cue her when I see her go. I also cue her when I manage to get her to relax "in-arms" but that isn't getting her to go right now. I often hold a bowl between my legs when I nurse, and somtimes she'll pee then. But she usually doesn't stop nursing or give any signals. Just pees and seems oblivious.
Thought No. 1: I need new equipment. We just bought a bunch of pockets right before I discovered ECing
. Before we were using prefolds, the small ones, and she grew out of them. Back to prefold without a cover so i can tell better when she pees? I'm also tempted to invest in split crotch pants, traning pants, wool puddle pads, etc. But I don't want to go spend a bunch more money and not have any more success!
Thought No 2: Caregiver confusion/getting grandparents on board. We have 3 sets of grandparents in town who are very mainstream and I haven't told them about EC yet. One of them babysits in the morning 6 days a week, for abotu 4 hours. I come back to breastfeed at the halfway point. Right now I'm embarassed to try and potty her (with no success!) while they're in the house.
Thought No. 3: Time management! I work at home, on a flexible schedule, but am very busy, and all this time trying to potty is not helping! Ideally I'd be out the door (to the garden, farm stand, etc.) with dd in tow by 6:30 or 7:00...but now I just sit around the house and try and get her to go. I'm thinking I need to spend some serious weekend, totally diaper free time?? or what?
Thought No. 4: role of routine in all of this. I am not good about setting routines either for myself or DD. We have not tried at all to get her on a schedule/routine for sleeping, eating, anything. Sometimes she goes to bed at 6:30, sometimes at 10:30. Her waking time depends on when she went to bed, and whether I wake her up to take her out to the field with me. Ask me how often she eats, I have no idea. Often. Does she sleep well? I think so. We cosleep and I just latch her on and go back to sleep. I have no idea how often she eats. I have noticed at night sometimes I try and get her to nurse and she really just wants a change in position or something. My baby is generally very mellow, but I'm wondering if all this lack of routine is not helping the EC et going??
Maybe I just need patience and to relax. Thoughts? TIA.
Right now, she refuses to be held "in-arms" or to sit on her bblp. (Though making a cover for it might help?). So, I'll resort to lying her down on some prefolds, and sometimes then she'll go. (Though often it seems she waits till I leave the room.) I cue her when I see her go. I also cue her when I manage to get her to relax "in-arms" but that isn't getting her to go right now. I often hold a bowl between my legs when I nurse, and somtimes she'll pee then. But she usually doesn't stop nursing or give any signals. Just pees and seems oblivious.
Thought No. 1: I need new equipment. We just bought a bunch of pockets right before I discovered ECing
. Before we were using prefolds, the small ones, and she grew out of them. Back to prefold without a cover so i can tell better when she pees? I'm also tempted to invest in split crotch pants, traning pants, wool puddle pads, etc. But I don't want to go spend a bunch more money and not have any more success!Thought No 2: Caregiver confusion/getting grandparents on board. We have 3 sets of grandparents in town who are very mainstream and I haven't told them about EC yet. One of them babysits in the morning 6 days a week, for abotu 4 hours. I come back to breastfeed at the halfway point. Right now I'm embarassed to try and potty her (with no success!) while they're in the house.
Thought No. 3: Time management! I work at home, on a flexible schedule, but am very busy, and all this time trying to potty is not helping! Ideally I'd be out the door (to the garden, farm stand, etc.) with dd in tow by 6:30 or 7:00...but now I just sit around the house and try and get her to go. I'm thinking I need to spend some serious weekend, totally diaper free time?? or what?
Thought No. 4: role of routine in all of this. I am not good about setting routines either for myself or DD. We have not tried at all to get her on a schedule/routine for sleeping, eating, anything. Sometimes she goes to bed at 6:30, sometimes at 10:30. Her waking time depends on when she went to bed, and whether I wake her up to take her out to the field with me. Ask me how often she eats, I have no idea. Often. Does she sleep well? I think so. We cosleep and I just latch her on and go back to sleep. I have no idea how often she eats. I have noticed at night sometimes I try and get her to nurse and she really just wants a change in position or something. My baby is generally very mellow, but I'm wondering if all this lack of routine is not helping the EC et going??
Maybe I just need patience and to relax. Thoughts? TIA.
