I can totally relate to the sex-drive worries! Nursing, exhaustion from taking care of house and home, and guilt about not a lot of "us" time ... I think what charbeau and cherrybomb said make sense, especially the jogging example and this:
Originally Posted by CherryBomb
I don't know that I can speak to what *every* Catholic wife should do, but for me, as long as I just feel ambivalent about it, I do it. If I'm actually feeling like "I do NOT want to have sex" then I just tell him and we don't.
I think it's complicated, and there's a balance between just pleasing your man/sacrificing yourself, and never having sex again because you don't feel like it. I don't know if I would call it a "wife's duty," but I think that husbands and wives are supposed to be one, right? so I think there's some relations involved there. BUT, I think if it's a "wife's duty" to participate in the act, then I definitely think it's a husband's duty to put her in the mood for that act! In other words, it really helps me when DH 'courts' me (flirts, lots of backrubs, etc.) I consider that part of the whole thing. Does that make sense?
I never thought I would think this, but most of the time I think I'd be ok without sex for a long long time! I'd rather sleep! lol. But before we were married ... oh man, I thought I was gonna die from wanting to be with him! (We waited
) Now we have schedule "date" time in. I feel so old!
Anyways, what does your husband say? You said he's supportive ... It helps me to talk about things with DH, and I'm learning that he can't read my mind. lol. If a backrub would put me more in the mood, I have to tell him that. That kind of thing.