How do I let it go? - Page 2

[Night_Nurse]

I'm assuming the SIL is your husband's sister then? Why not have him talk to her and possibly her husband too? I know you said it's pointless to talk to her hubby, but maybe if your DH had a man to man, heart to heart talk to him it would make a difference. If your own son is intact, make sure she knows that (and that not all men in your family are circed). If your ds in circed and you regret it, make sure she knows that too. I find the "If you circed your son and regret it" thread here on MDC is very powerful! Please have her read that. Like others have said, have her watch a video of the circ procedure. And if you are over there all the time, why not either leave a printed copy of circ risks or complications at their house, or leave a Penn and Teller dvd ready to play in their dvd player? Couldn't hurt.

[MommaLauraRN]

If it were me, I wouldn't continue to help them. If they circumcise him, the issue is going to be there, every minute of every day. My nephew is 5, and my DH and I are still disgusted with my SIL and her husband. We realize that it was one of many parenting choices which we differ on (she thought BF was gross so FF both her kids, CIO etc, put her kids in FT daycare at 5 weeks so she could work PT and have time to herself b/c they frustrated her etc) Distancing myself is a way of self-preservation...and it's very freeing. We do the birthday/holiday stuff, but I don't need to bear witness to their parenting decisions which I wholeheartedly am appalled by each and every day, kwim? It sounds like you're doing a lot to try to convince them not to do it, but once it's done it's done...and continuing to be be so helpful to them would be like enabling. I hope however things end up, you find peace for you. Take care.

[PuppyFluffer]

Originally Posted by MommaLauraRN

If it were me, I wouldn't continue to help them. If they circumcise him, the issue is going to be there, every minute of every day. My nephew is 5, and my DH and I are still disgusted with my SIL and her husband. We realize that it was one of many parenting choices which we differ on (she thought BF was gross so FF both her kids, CIO etc, put her kids in FT daycare at 5 weeks so she could work PT and have time to herself b/c they frustrated her etc) Distancing myself is a way of self-preservation...and it's very freeing. We do the birthday/holiday stuff, but I don't need to bear witness to their parenting decisions which I wholeheartedly am appalled by each and every day, kwim? It sounds like you're doing a lot to try to convince them not to do it, but once it's done it's done...and continuing to be be so helpful to them would be like enabling. I hope however things end up, you find peace for you. Take care.

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