Well I have forced them to give me by law what they have to give me even w/out joint custody. Like report cards, he gets them then says he lost it or something so I don't see the absences, notes, notices about field trips ect... She has a great teacher who I got to agree to call me when anything special is going on so that I can send in treats or maybe volunteer if I can, and make sure the permission slips are signed so she doesn't miss out, her dad frequently forgets.
: I think maybe I will ask her if I can give her a set of hat & gloves she can keep in her desk for her. Even the latch key teacher helps me out but she's not affiliated with the school so there isn't anything she can do on that end.
Oh and TiredX2 I'm not too familar with unschooling but I was trying to make a point that your daughters education isn't being hinderded and mine is. I do teach her at home when she is with me too as a matter of fact she's above her level in everything, but if she continues to miss tests that are important as she goes to public schools she will be left behind to me that's unexceptable.