my CPS story,pt 1 long!!I'm the one vote up there for a "founded" report.My ds was born at home unnassisted,and to make family happy,I called dd's ped to make a well baby appointment.This was Friday,July 13th,2001,the day ds was born(a little ironic,I know).All hell broke lose.the receptionist called 911,and 6 or so paramedics were in my hallway 5 minutes later.She had told them I was in labor.My son had been born hours earlier.They were upset that they had been lied to,and traced the call.It came up the drs office.They said congratulations to hubby and I,I signed a refusal of care form,and they left.Then the constant phone calls began.Nonstop.The dr,the juvinile detective,and the receptionist.We calmly told them we were well within our rights,our son was nursing very well and looked perfect,and if we had concerns we would be at the hospital.The dr said he would do what he needed to do,and 5 minutes later CPS was at the door.I didn't know my rights,and let her in.She acted very nice,saying our son looked great but to clear everything up could we please go with her to the hospital?We refused to go with her,but said we would follow her there.When we got up to the maternity ward,she informed us there was now a 72 hour hold on our son.She gave us her beeper number and said she would be able to talk to her supervisor and get that lifted by morning.(we later found out her supervisor was on vacation,this was one of MANY,MANY lies)Gabe was examined by the nurse,and we refused vit k and eye drops.She said he looked wonderful and they gave us a private room(I was not a patient,so they did not have to do this.The hospital was actually on our side through this,for the most part).The ped who made the CPS call came in,and demanded to examine our son.I should have said no and requested a different dr,but I didn't know I could do that at the time.He refused to allow us in the room,so we watched from the nursery window.He came out with our son,and said he needed to talk with us.We went into our room,and he told us he heard a heart murmur.He made us feel like Gabe was going to die.He said he would need all kinds of tests.We demanded a 2nd opinion,and told him to never lay another hand on either of our children.He gave us a very evil smile and left our room.The 2nd opinion came in late that night,and said she heard the murmur as well,but that many babies have them and they clear up on their own,but she would order an echocardiagram for the morning.She then tried to force the vit k and eye drops on us.We refused,and she called CPS to force it.They actually refused,saying emergency meds only.
Hubby later overheard her in the hallway telling a nurse that if they ever see Gabe alone,to administer them anyway.Lovely,huh?
Sat morning he had an echo,and was diagnosed with a congenital heart defect,Tetralogy of Fallot.Another dr told us this.I screamed at him,and he was great about it.He sat there and took it,then reassuringly told us that we did not cause this.Regardless of where he would have been born,he would have had it.I had had an ultrasound,and it should have been found but it wasn't.We decided he would be our new ped.
They were amazed that Gabe had no other symptoms.His oxygen levels were perfect,he was nursing wonderfully,and he was doing great.They told us nothing would be done now,but he would need open heart surgery at some point.We were devastated.
The CPS worker barged into our room shortly after the dr left.I had the door closed and the curtain pulled,and she opened the door and the curtain without knocking or even announcing herself.I was nursing and exposed.She gave me a very dirty look,but didn't even look away as I covered myself.She them started in that we didn't care about or love our son,and that he was now theirs.She said he would go to foster care.She also said he would now be drug tested.We were pissed,and demanded our rights.She said we had none,everything would be done regardless of what we said(I later learned their was no court order for this. I also learned this hospital routinley drug tests EVERY baby.This is why my dd's poop diapers were taken(she was born there),too.I was told by the nurse later on that the hospital does not report pot ,just hard drugs,because the nurses think it is ridiculous that they even do this without the parents' consent).I told her very rudely to get out of our room.The hospital social worker was with her,and she left too.5 minutes later the hospital sw knocked on our door,and asked if she could please speak with us.We let her in,and she immediatly apologized for the CPS worker's behavoir.She said she would try to help us,but didn't know what she could do.
On Monday the hold was supposed to be up at 1pm.At noon as we were packing ot go home,the sw came running in and told us an exparte order to take our son was being faxed as we speak.We all ran to the desk,and we were shown the order(we were not supposed to see it).The dr who made the CPS call had signed it.The bastard said we were medically neglecting our son,that he was getting no medical care!!HE WAS IN THE HOSPITAL!!!!
We couldn't go home.I was a hysterical mess.I started calling lawyers,finally finding one who would see us that week.We were served the papers for court that week.First for Gabe.They were served to my Dad,since we were at the hsopital with Gabe.Medical neglect was the only charge.No reasons listed.We had to be in court the following Monday at 9am.
then the papers for dd were served.My Dad got these too.He flipped.He gave my Mom money and told her to get Kasia out of there,NOW.He was almost crying(I have NEVER seen my Dad cry.Even after his Mom died,who he was very close to)and he brought the papers to us.The charge was neglect for her.They were not going for custody.The foster care worker told me it was because she was up to date on her shots.
Gabe never went to foster care.His ped kept him in the hospital,so we could be with him 24/7.By now he was getting formula supplements.I had to be with my dd(how do you chose between your own children?!?),and with the stress and the fact that I only had a very small cheap pump,I wasn't producing enough milk for him.this still hurts me to this day.Had we been left alone,I'm sure he would still be bf.
We went to court on Monday,with our lawyer,who we didn't meet until then(we met her partners).She screwed us.She went in and spoke to CPS without our permission,and agreed that we should have a home interview and inspection.We went before the judge,who wanted to send our son home!!!CPS said our lawyer had already agreed to the inspection,and he couldn't go against that.I couldn't stop crying.I had to wait until Thurs for the inspection.It went well,and Gabe came home that Friday,2 weeks to the day of his birth.Before coming home,we were told he needed a hep b vax.We refused,since we were not going to vax him(we had stopped Kasi's too).We were basically told he wouldn't come home without it.Billy caved and signed.I couldn't stop crying.I was so afraid of the effect it could have on his heart.
I'll finsh this later(it will be shorter,I promise!!!).Gabe has an appointment in a little while,and I have to clean this house and shower.