Intact seems normal now

[BlessedMommy2006]

A friend of mine was changing her son's diaper in front of me and he's circ'ed. I realized that circ'ed looked kind of odd to me after months of changing my intact son's diaper.

So really, when pro-circ'ers say that circ'ed looks better, it's all in the matter of perspective. If that's all you've been exposed to, then of course you prefer circ'ed, because it's what's familiar.

However, if you see intact all the time, circ'ed looks funny.

[aurora_skys]

when i see circed babies now it just looks odd to me. and kind of perverse, its like a miniature erection. I feel really uncomfortable seeing the glans of a baby now that i know it should be hidden. i just have to look away, like im seeing something i shouldnt be.

[Heavenly]

Originally Posted by aurora_skys

when i see circed babies now it just looks odd to me. and kind of perverse, its like a miniature erection. I feel really uncomfortable seeing the glans of a baby now that i know it should be hidden. i just have to look away, like im seeing something i shouldnt be.

I feel the same way.

[robertandenith]

Originally Posted by aurora_skys

when i see circed babies now it just looks odd to me. and kind of perverse, its like a miniature erection. I feel really uncomfortable seeing the glans of a baby now that i know it should be hidden. i just have to look away, like im seeing something i shouldnt be.

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[So-Called]

Originally Posted by aurora_skys

when i see circed babies now it just looks odd to me. and kind of perverse, its like a miniature erection. I feel really uncomfortable seeing the glans of a baby now that i know it should be hidden. i just have to look away, like im seeing something i shouldnt be.

I'm beginning to feel this way too. I'm not totally used to the look of my son's penis yet (he's still an infant), but I saw a circ'ed baby the other day and cringed a little. It's certainly not the baby's fault, but it looked so blunted and exposed and too "grown-up".

My son's, OTOH, looks very innocent to me, like a sleeping mouse or something. Even when he's rolling around naked, it seems like his dignity is preserved somehow. He's just a chubby little cherub on a blanket, and I'd certainly rather visualize my son that way than as an in-your-face symbol of male virility.

[PuppyFluffer]

I have often wondered if this is the reason European cultures seem so comfortable with nudity. A nude intact male is just a naked person. It's not vulgar or sexualized. They have nude beaches and it's no big deal! Now, if a man was at a nude beach and was walking around showing off an erection, I suspect that would be completely inappropriate and offensive.

The glans of the penis is private, shared with another upon arousal - a private matter. Seeing a baby be sexualized in this way is deeply wrong to me.

[Incubator]

Yeah, here too.
A couple of months ago I took care of a couple of little boys for two different people. I nearly cried when I changed the younger ones' diaper. I hate to say it, but I hadn't even thought about it until I opened his diaper. I composed myself as best as I could, I didn't want him to see me making a strange face, it wasn't his fault, after all!
When my friend came by to pick him up later in the day and he needed another diaper, I asked her to do it. I just couldn't face seeing it again.
Luckily the older one was potty-trained so I didn't have to see it up close, but he was circ'd too. That day made me so sad, and I can't say I wasn't relieved that I didn't have to take care of the two of them again. That day alone has made me rethink taking care of others' kids again.

[Crunchiemomma]

Ughhh....

It just breaks my heart...

[Noelle C.]

Originally Posted by BlessedMommy2006

So really, when pro-circ'ers say that circ'ed looks better...

This makes me feel sick. I can't believe many moms and dads circ because they think it looks better. The only one seeing that penis after diapers is the boy and whatever sexual partners he has later. I mean, are parents really thinking, "Well, at least my sexually-active son's penis looks better than it would not circ'd!"

One of the worst reasons, and most disgusting, I can think of for circ'ing is how a son's adult penis will look. Who the hell thinks about that? Who who the hell cares about how it looks as a baby? I'll be blunt - people who think about the aesthetic appeal of their own son's penis need professional help.

[urchin_grey]

ITA. Back when DS was a baby (like 6mo to 14mo) I babysat a little girl and a little boy for two of my co-workers (they were also ex-roommates) and the little boy was circ'd. It always creeped me out when I had to change his diaper. His mom gave him cups and cups of juice a day too though so he had bowel issues and the contents of his diaper would wind up in the bit of foreskin he had left. :Puke So I wanted to smack his mom once when she asked if it was gross cleaning Bram's foreskin. Um, no, but it sure was gross cleaning her kid's!

[BlessedMommy2006]

I didn't mention it in my original post, but after I saw the circ'ed baby, I felt like crying and just hugged my baby DS and cried inwardly for awhile. I felt sick whenever I thought about it for a few hours.

The redness of the exposed glans kind of shocked me.

I'm glad that I'm not the only one who feels that way! I don't think that I was fully prepared for my emotional reaction.

[Frootloop]

Originally Posted by PuppyFluffer

I have often wondered if this is the reason European cultures seem so comfortable with nudity. A nude intact male is just a naked person. It's not vulgar or sexualized. They have nude beaches and it's no big deal! Now, if a man was at a nude beach and was walking around showing off an erection, I suspect that would be completely inappropriate and offensive.

The glans of the penis is private, shared with another upon arousal - a private matter. Seeing a baby be sexualized in this way is deeply wrong to me.

This is exactly how I feel now, even though both my husband and 16 yr old son are circ'd (before I knew better). To me, seeing a circumcised baby boy just seems very perverse.. like I'm seeing something I absolutely should not see on a child of any age.

Now, *this* may possibly sound extremely perverse and as though I'm hypersexualizing little girls, but.. I would liken a young naked circumcised male child to that of young naked female child with a permanently retracted clitoral hood which exposes her clitoris. As a whole, nudity in general, including the vulva and intact penis, are not purely sexual. However, the glans and the clitoris are NOT meant to be continuously exposed organs. They are sexual in nature and should only be fully exposed during arousal. To see them in any other way makes me feel uncomfortable.

Many people may feel that *we* are the vulgar ones who are sexualizing the circumcised penis by saying that it looks perverse.. but it's actually quite the opposite.

[MommaLauraRN]

Exactly. To all of the above.