Originally Posted by aramat
With my two prior pregnancies, I worried until the ultrasound, and then I worried again until the birth. Neither pregnancy did I manage to worry about the right things.
I plan to do the one ultrasound at some point in this pregnancy, but if we don't get around to it, then we just don't get around to it. I'm not pushing; I'm not going to worry without reason.
I mean, if our midwives and doctors are okay with our not having ultrasounds, are they being irresponsible? I hardly think so.
It is a very personal decision. Maybe there will be consequences to live with. But there always are.
Originally Posted by Ninetales
I don't believe the risks outweigh the benefits. It is not because I'm ignorant or uninformed.
I hope you don't think that I'm suggesting that you are ignorant, uninformed, or irresponsible. That's not it at all! Maybe I'm just a worrywart...I don't know how you aren't going crazy wondering how the baby is doing.
I have had two early losses, so in the first trimester it is comforting for me to see that heartbeat and now everything is going well. And now - well unlike many of you, I am feeling very little movement, so I have this paranoia that something could happen to the baby and I wouldn't know. Something like having Downs or another Trisomy condition - while I know there is nothing I can do, I want to be prepared - find out who we'll need to see, what special arrangements we'll need to make, and just get over part of the grieving process. I don't think that I could personally handle the shock of the baby being born with something seriously wrong. Not to mention having to try to deal with all the arrangements in a post partum state - I have 3 other kids who also need me, DH has to go back to work right away, we don't have a lot of family support....
I'll also be the person in the third trimester having a slice of cake because I'm worried baby hasn't kicked as much that afternoon...