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I went OFF on a lady at Sam's Club yesterday

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I'm still not sure how I feel about my behavior. On one hand I feel badly for yelling at her, especially in front of my son, but on the other hand...maybe she'll think twice before making nasty comments.

The scene: We had just gotten done shopping at Wal-Mart (save the flames) and I had 10 minutes till Sam's Club closed. I left my teens at the van to load the groceries and ran into SC with my 3-year-old. He was very upset that he couldn't stay with his older brother and sister and began throwing a fit. Yelling, hollering, waving his hands, etc. all the while walking beside my cart. I needed 3 items, and we were in there literally less than 5 minutes (not going wasn't an option; it's a 45 minute drive one-way). Obviously I tried to comfort him and told him that I understood he was upset, etc. but that he couldn't stay with my older children because it wasn't safe.

As I was checking out, the cashier just smiled and gave me a sympathetic look. As I was beginning to walk out, my son refused to walk any further for just a moment and was crying. I walked on about 5 feet to see if he would follow, then went back and picked him up. (he was by NO means hysterically throwing a fit, wasn't fighting me, etc....just crying).

As I was walking with him, we passed an older lady who says (to herself) *just* loud enough for me to hear, "He needs his butt smacked."

: Umm, what?!

I rounded on her and said, "WHAT did you say?"

She kind of backed up a bit and repeated that he needed his butt smacked.

At this time, I kid you not, everyone around us just stopped and watched. You could have heard a pin drop.

I put my finger in her face and said (loudly) "I think YOU need YOUR butt smacked!!"

She didn't have a reply.

I turned and walked off, and on the way out, a SC employee who had been in front of us (and who had turned to watch) apologized to me.

Whew. I am still furious when I think of that lady. Has anyone else ever had something like this happen?

edit: "Older" does not mean "elderly/frail/ect" - in this case it meant early a lady in her early 50s, so please don't worry that I shouted at some elderly woman three years off the grave.
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Originally Posted by operamommy View Post
"I think YOU need YOUR butt smacked!!"
post #3 of 198
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I put my finger in her face and said (loudly) "I think YOU need YOUR butt smacked!!"

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I can't imagine the look on her face!
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Originally Posted by operamommy View Post
I put my finger in her face and said (loudly) "I think YOU need YOUR butt
I love it!!
post #5 of 198
Nice concise reply!
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Originally Posted by operamommy View Post
I put my finger in her face and said (loudly) "I think YOU need YOUR butt smacked!!"

Fabulous.
post #7 of 198
One concice sentence is not "going OFF on a lady" IMO. You didn't go on a tirade for the next 5-10 minutes screaming a string of obscenties at her, and nobody had to come and "break it up".

I bet that lady thinks twice before making comments like that in the future.
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post #9 of 198
Except for the finger in her face part (no judgment intended, my finger points out far more often than is absolutely necessary ), that if ROFLMAO funny and good!
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I LOVE IT!
I wish I had been there. I never have the wherewithall to say what I'd really like to say in situations like that!
I'm sure its not something you are really proud of (losing composure in front of DS) but I think it's great! And I HOPE that busy body lady thinks twice before advocating for abusing a child again! Bravo mama!
post #11 of 198
I wish I had been there to see it!
post #12 of 198
I can't tell you how many times I've wanted to do/say something like that!
post #13 of 198
Totally appropriate response on your part.
post #14 of 198
amazing!
post #15 of 198
that is not "going off on someone" . that was freaking brilliant.
post #16 of 198
I absolutely agree, 100%! That is the single most perfect thing you could have said to her. I am always thinking of perfect responses to things like that about a day after it happens. Good for you for speaking up for you and your son and for preventing another mama from hearing her ignorant comments on a nother day. Bravo!!!
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Originally Posted by Ruthla View Post
One concice sentence is not "going OFF on a lady" IMO. You didn't go on a tirade for the next 5-10 minutes screaming a string of obscenties at her, and nobody had to come and "break it up".

I bet that lady thinks twice before making comments like that in the future.
This would be "going off" on someone for me. I'm very introverted, a peace-keeper and generally don't like to stir things up. Generally, I would have later on had a conversation with my DD about other peoples' rude comments (if she'd heard it) rather than zinging one at someone, but sometimes I wish I did just say something.

I think this was AWESOME!
post #18 of 198
i agree with what you said!! an awesome comeback.
something similar happened to me. I was in a babies clothing store shopping for my daughter as i was shopping, my daughter started crying so i tried to comfort her and it wasn't working so i went the ladies room to nurse her. As i get out i hear an older lady telling a worker oh people shouldn't bring there screaming babies to a store its so rude! I wish i had spoken up to her but instead i ignored it. Its a clothing store for kids what does she expect!!!
post #19 of 198
I'm proud of you, Mama

I once said to an older lady who said to me on seeing both my children wanting me at the same time in Nordstrom whilst visiting San Fran;
Rather you than me - said with an unappreciative look in my direction, tut tutting quietly....
I said I'd rather be me than you, too. Much.

I felt great for days afterwards.

well done, not going off at all, perfect.
post #20 of 198
wow, how rude of her! and after the news story this week about that guy in walmart i imagine i would have a difficult time being civil to someone who said something like that about my kid.
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