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post #21 of 198
awesome!
post #22 of 198
I guess for me it would depend on whether or not my child heard her or not. If he did hear her, then I'd do something about it. If not, then I really don't see a reason to get so upset about it. The elderly lady was expressing an opinion that she probably should have kept to herself, but, unless the comment hurt the child, throwing it back at her doesn't serve much purpose (except for possibly feeling self-righteous about it).

Even if the comment did hurt the child, I'd probably just explain later that the lady probably has a lot of anger that she doesn't know what to do with and hearing a child crying in a store seemed to make the anger flare up, for whatever reason.

This is just the way I go about life, though. I guess you could call me a pacifist...I simply like to look at it as trying my best to understand myself and other people in order to be as compassionate as possible.
post #23 of 198
1. You'll get NO flames from me for shopping at WalMart. We save over $100/ week by doing our grocery shopping there, so anyway...

2. I love your retort. You did AWESOME!!!!!
post #24 of 198
Can I just say that I see no problem leaving a three year old in a car for 5 minutes with his teenage siblings.
post #25 of 198
WTG Mama!!!!!
post #26 of 198
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Originally Posted by operamommy View Post
"I think YOU need YOUR butt smacked!!"
Wow. This just made my day. You are my hero.
post #27 of 198
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Originally Posted by lilyka View Post
that is not "going off on someone" . that was freaking brilliant.
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post #28 of 198
Awesome response!
post #29 of 198
I LOVE it.
post #30 of 198
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Originally Posted by Irishmommy View Post
Can I just say that I see no problem leaving a three year old in a car for 5 minutes with his teenage siblings.
That was my first thought- then it was followed by thinking that this woman now has someone to 'blame' for your child being at the end of his rope.

*shrug*

I generally try not to add fuel to the fire with that sort of situation. I can certainly appreciate your response, and don't see it as wrong at all- it just isn't the path I would have taken because I'm not outspoken.
post #31 of 198
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Originally Posted by Irishmommy View Post
Can I just say that I see no problem leaving a three year old in a car for 5 minutes with his teenage siblings.
Oh, I don't either, normally. However, both of my teens were OUTSIDE of the van busy loading groceries, and my 3-year-old wanted to stand in the busy parking lot with them. I didn't trust the safety of the situation, and I don't think most people would. Sorry that wasn't clear from my post.

Thanks for the support, mamas. I was kind of wishing I'd delivered some long lecture to her about how wrong spanking is, but maybe something short and sweet was the best way to go after all.

She's probably gone around since then though telling everyone she knows about how rude some lady was to her at Sam's Club.
post #32 of 198
I am guessing that she wasn't ready to be re-educated about spanking. It wasn't really a teachable moment for her. What she needed was to be clearly shown how innapropriate her comment was - and you did just that!
post #33 of 198
Honestly? Best response I've ever heard to a comment like that. I mean, it probably would have been "better" to ignore her, or calmly ask her to keep her comments to herself - but, jeez, I think what you said probably had more impact.
post #34 of 198
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Originally Posted by expatmommy View Post
I am guessing that she wasn't ready to be re-educated about spanking. It wasn't really a teachable moment for her. What she needed was to be clearly shown how innapropriate her comment was - and you did just that!
You said what I meant.
post #35 of 198
I wish I could be as clear-minded as you were during that moment. Usually I come up with that kind of response later.
post #36 of 198
Everytime I think about what you said, I laugh. hahahah!

Seriously. What is it about old people and loving to be snooty about children and babies???

Children are people, too!!
post #37 of 198
I had a lady in walmart years ago told me that my the 3 yo autistic son who was having a small meltdown in the cart "Needed to learn some manners"

I FREAKED. I told her she needed to learn some manners, and how dare her make a comment to a stranger about her child she knows nothing about. Then I went on a rant about how he hates it there because of the lighting and how she really needs to MHOB. I turned around and Dh had took off. LOL


Another time, same store ( I no longer go there.LOL ) a elderly woman, looked at same DS who had a pacifier. It was the only thing that calmed him with his sensory overload. She looked at him and told hr Dh " Thats just gross"
So I again let her know whats truly gross is commenting on somes child you know nothing about.

So I feel ya Mama. People really need to MTOB.
post #38 of 198
That sure was quick thinking, OP!
post #39 of 198
I am sorry but I think by replying loudly like that you were just as rude as she was and it wouldn't have achieved much but maybe made you look foolish for yelling at an old lady "I think YOU need YOUR butt smacked!!".

She had no right to make the comment but maybe as an older lady that was the way she was raised. (That dose not make smacking ok)

It might have made you feel good for a little while but in my opinion your no better than her.
post #40 of 198
You really just made me day with that!!
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