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post #41 of 198
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Originally Posted by operamommy View Post
Oh, I don't either, normally. However, both of my teens were OUTSIDE of the van busy loading groceries, and my 3-year-old wanted to stand in the busy parking lot with them. I didn't trust the safety of the situation, and I don't think most people would. Sorry that wasn't clear from my post.

Thanks for the support, mamas. I was kind of wishing I'd delivered some long lecture to her about how wrong spanking is, but maybe something short and sweet was the best way to go after all.

She's probably gone around since then though telling everyone she knows about how rude some lady was to her at Sam's Club.

I was picturing them sitting in the van with the radio blasting. Kind of like mine does . Yeah, that's different.
post #42 of 198
I think you did a great job.
post #43 of 198
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Originally Posted by baltic_ballet View Post
It might have made you feel good for a little while but in my opinion your no better than her.
Well, I can't speak for the OP -- but it's not my goal in life to be "better" than anyone else anyway. I'm perfectly happy to just be equal members of the human race.

OP -- great comeback!

We were recently at a coffee house gathering, outdoors on the patio, and my 4yo was playing with some of her little animal toys at the table.

She does have a tendency to squeal kind of shrilly sometimes doing this (acting out all the different animals' parts you know, she gets really into it) -- and I'm afraid I'm so used to it I sometimes zone it out and don't notice, specially when I'm talking with other people.

Well, I suddenly hear this older lady further down the table (3 tables pushed together to make 1 long table) yelling, "HEY! Knock it off!" And I look at her and see that she's glaring right at my dd. I was so taken aback, me and dh both, we just felt like leaving.

Dd seemed to just kind of stay in her little world playing, and not to be affected by the lady's raging rudeness.

This other couple who knew the lady better urged us to stay, and the husband quietly told me, "She's grouchy." We stayed a little longer but then decided to call it a night.

I wish I'd thought of some clever comeback -- but I did feel kind of sorry for the woman, since she was using a walker and seemed to be in some physical pain. I guess she was just expecting an adult gathering and it grated on her nerves to have an exuberant child nearby.
post #44 of 198
That sounds like a really nicely controlled response to me. One short sentence is definitely better than a long lecture. Great job thinking on the spot.

Maybe she'll keep her mouth shut next time.
post #45 of 198
lmao, that's awesome, mama!
i bet she won't be so fast to say something like that ever again!
post #46 of 198
Great response op!

I kind of think that some people are rude bc no one ever stands up to them. Maybe someone should every once in a while. BTW, there are lots of people raised w/differing opinions than others. To judgmentally voice them to strangers is something more than just being raised w/a different opinion.

I am all for peace in the world and loving my neighbor but if you put something out there expect if to be returned to you KWIM?
post #47 of 198
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Originally Posted by baltic_ballet View Post
I am sorry but I think by replying loudly like that you were just as rude as she was and it wouldn't have achieved much but maybe made you look foolish for yelling at an old lady "I think YOU need YOUR butt smacked!!".

She had no right to make the comment but maybe as an older lady that was the way she was raised. (That dose not make smacking ok)

It might have made you feel good for a little while but in my opinion your no better than her.
I agree. While I disagree with what the older lady said to you I don't see how being equally rude back is okay, especially if your child heard what you said.
post #48 of 198
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Originally Posted by baltic_ballet View Post
I am sorry but I think by replying loudly like that you were just as rude as she was and it wouldn't have achieved much but maybe made you look foolish for yelling at an old lady "I think YOU need YOUR butt smacked!!".

She had no right to make the comment but maybe as an older lady that was the way she was raised. (That dose not make smacking ok)

It might have made you feel good for a little while but in my opinion your no better than her.
I agree with that. I'm kinda appalled that you almost seem proud of that comment and that you're getting so many praises. This board talks heaps about respecting children and teaching them respect. Speaking to an old lady like that and sticking your finger in her face? Not respectful, not any way to talk to adult who you don't know nor will probably never see again. I know we all get that mama bear instinct but she made a comment in passing, she didn't threaten your child. Yes I know hitting is violent but she wasn't forcing you to do it, she was expressing her opinion. Just because someone is rude to you doesn't mean you have to be rude back. It's not like she was following you telling you what to do. It was what, a few seconds in passing? Why waste the energy to say something back? Personally, it's not worth my time.

Had you said something to her calmly about not hitting children I would be applauding you but not this.

And yes, complete strangers have made snide comments about me, my child and how I raise him. I shrug my shoulders and keep walking because it's not worth it.
post #49 of 198
I dunno - I'm of the opinion that rudeness sometimes deserves to be met with rudeness. And since the woman didn't think it was such a rude thing to say about a child, I think it would be hypocritical of her to feel that the OP was being rude to her by turning her words back on her. If she did recognize rudness in the OP's behavior, then maybe she actually learned a lesson.
post #50 of 198
I think you were just as rude as her, and you did it in front of your child. If you don't believe that hitting is appropriate for your child, then why in heaven's name would it be appropriate to hit an elderly woman?

I would of just rolled my eyes at her, and then calmly explained to my child that we would never do that, as I don't hit people--young or old.

I cannot for the life of me figure out why everyone here thinks you did the right thing.

I am certainly not perfect and have lost my cool at times, but I always feel appropriately chagrined after the fact--and will even tell my kids "momma should not have said that...".
post #51 of 198
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Originally Posted by LisainCalifornia View Post
I think you were just as rude as her, and you did it in front of your child. If you don't believe that hitting is appropriate for your child, then why in heaven's name would it be appropriate to hit an elderly woman?

I would of just rolled my eyes at her, and then calmly explained to my child that we would never do that, as I don't hit people--young or old.

I cannot for the life of me figure out why everyone here thinks you did the right thing.

I am certainly not perfect and have lost my cool at times, but I always feel appropriately chagrined after the fact--and will even tell my kids "momma should not have said that...".
Because this old lady took a nasty pot shot at a mama who was having a rough moment, that's why. This mom was wrestling her upset 3 year old while figuring out how to deal with this unwelcome comment to HIT her CHILD. No, it's not the same, and I think that this old lady is lucky she ran into the OP. My words probably would not have been this kind. If you are seeking kindness in your life, perhaps you shouldn't run around suggesting people hit defenseless little children.
post #52 of 198
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Originally Posted by prettypixels View Post
Because this old lady took a nasty pot shot at a mama who was having a rough moment, that's why. This mom was wrestling her upset 3 year old while figuring out how to deal with this unwelcome comment to HIT her CHILD. No, it's not the same, and I think that this old lady is lucky she ran into the OP. My words probably would not have been this kind. If you are seeking kindness in your life, perhaps you shouldn't run around suggesting people hit defenseless little children.
Sometimes the elderly do say things that seem inappropriate. There could be many reasons for this, even mental health reasons. I am seeking kindness in my life, and I would never suggest that people should hit defenseless children--just as I would never suggest hitting anyone.

I just think two wrongs don't make a right. I can see you don't agree with me...and that's okay. I was just expressing my opinion about it. I think that what the older woman said was inappropriate, but the response that the OP gave could have been better. Threatening to hit anyone is never the answer in my mind.

Take care,
Lisa
post #53 of 198
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Originally Posted by xbabymamax View Post
Everytime I think about what you said, I laugh. hahahah!
Yeah, me, too!

Good one!!!

I can't help it, now I'm hoping I'll have some future occasion during which I can use that one, too!! LMAO!
post #54 of 198
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Originally Posted by prettypixels View Post
Because this old lady took a nasty pot shot at a mama who was having a rough moment, that's why. This mom was wrestling her upset 3 year old while figuring out how to deal with this unwelcome comment to HIT her CHILD. No, it's not the same, and I think that this old lady is lucky she ran into the OP. My words probably would not have been this kind. If you are seeking kindness in your life, perhaps you shouldn't run around suggesting people hit defenseless little children.
Yes, I agree. It's okay to stick up for yourself a little bit, and I don't believe in letting the elderly off the hook, either. Plus, the OP said she was "older", I believe.
post #55 of 198
I didn't see where the OP threatened to hit anyone. She took the lady's inappropriate comment and demonstrated exactly why it was inappropriate. I don't think anyone in that store thought the OP was going to hit the lady (or even seriously suggesting that someone else do it), but the woman clearly thought it would have been just fine, and even appropriate and The Right Thing To Do, for someone to hit a little boy. Maybe the lady learned a lesson from the experience, maybe she didn't. But I suspect she left understanding that at least one person saw how inappropriate what she said was, and at least one person wasn't going to put up with her crap withou comment. The natural consequence of being nasty and rude is people being nasty right back to you.
post #56 of 198
ROFL I'm glad I wasn't there to overhear. I would have died laughing. Seriously.
post #57 of 198
Go you!
Go the SC employee who apologized!
I fist-pumped when I read what you did.

So awesome. So perfect. Perfect thing to say, perfect place to stop. 100% win.

And if I'd been there IRL, I would've gone to that UAV and told her that you were perfectly right and that she didn't want to end up a felon like that UAV who hit a toddler.
post #58 of 198
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Originally Posted by Ruthla View Post
One concice sentence is not "going OFF on a lady" IMO. You didn't go on a tirade for the next 5-10 minutes screaming a string of obscenties at her, and nobody had to come and "break it up".
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I have to say I was a bit disappointed, although, again, what you did say was utterly perfect. But I was looking forward to reading a bit of a rant.
post #59 of 198
Oh, and you have, of course, explained to your three year old now that he's not melting down that it's wrong to smack anyone? It would have been idiotic to try to explain that to him in the middle of his meltdown at the store, but it is something that should be reinforced since he was exposed to that wicked woman's ideas.
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