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I had a couple nightweaning attempts until the third try was successful at age 2. Maybe he was more ready, but really, I think the difference was that I was finally resolved about it and dropped my guilt about it. I think my resolve helped him understand that this is just the way it was now, and dropping my anxiety about it was reassuring for him, and really it was not that much of a struggle. I had some advice on these forums about that, and then I read a passage in "Mothering Your Nursing Toddler" that really hit home. It was something to the effect of: "Your child is not in a position to reassure you that this decision is okay. YOU have to do that for the CHILD." I really internalized this, and honestly, I think that made the difference, when he did not feel my ambivalence anymore.
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I had a couple nightweaning attempts until the third try was successful at age 2. Maybe he was more ready, but really, I think the difference was that I was finally resolved about it and dropped my guilt about it. I think my resolve helped him understand that this is just the way it was now, and dropping my anxiety about it was reassuring for him, and really it was not that much of a struggle. I had some advice on these forums about that, and then I read a passage in "Mothering Your Nursing Toddler" that really hit home. It was something to the effect of: "Your child is not in a position to reassure you that this decision is okay. YOU have to do that for the CHILD." I really internalized this, and honestly, I think that made the difference, when he did not feel my ambivalence anymore.
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Keep hope alive, sisters!!!

My 27 month old DD#2 is nursing/twiddling fiend, I just found Jay Gordon's website yesterday and have read Sears Nighttime Parenting & Pantley's no cry book about 25 times apiece. I finally bit the bullet last night and decided to go for it. I had a rough one, too. Up from 2ish to 4ish. And then I coudn't fall asleep until about 6.

However, I do feel that we had success because LO fell asleep on her crib mattress (on floor next to bed) for 3+ hours. It's so hard being a mom sometimes, but it's so great to have found this thread - I feel like the only toddler-nurser on the planet, sometimes.

Weaning DD#1 was a cake walk, in retrospect. I need more sleep, and I am starting to resent the multiple night wakings - so I am determined to make a plan and work the plan.

One thing about Gordon was that it seemed like a really fast/aggressive plan. I am modifying it to a more Pantley-esque version, I'm telling her num nums are night night (stopping nursing between 11p - 5am is my 1st goal). I plan to evaluate how it's going after 10 days, so I can see real progress.

All you ladies out there struggling with nightweaning - God Bless you all, and keep you and your families safe. "This too, shall pass".
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