I had a couple nightweaning attempts until the third try was successful at age 2. Maybe he was more ready, but really, I think the difference was that I was finally resolved about it and dropped my guilt about it. I think my resolve helped him understand that this is just the way it was now, and dropping my anxiety about it was reassuring for him, and really it was not that much of a struggle. I had some advice on these forums about that, and then I read a passage in "Mothering Your Nursing Toddler" that really hit home. It was something to the effect of: "Your child is not in a position to reassure you that this decision is okay. YOU have to do that for the CHILD." I really internalized this, and honestly, I think that made the difference, when he did not feel my ambivalence anymore.
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10/2/09 at 6:30pm