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post #181 of 238
10/21/09 at 1:56pm
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We did the PKU and hearing screen in our house when she was 5 days old but I've never received any paperwork as a result, all I was told was that both were normal. She was supposed to have it done when she was 2 days old but my midwife had other stuff going on (surprise, surprise). She's actually a CPM, so not recognized in North Carolina. I was supposed to have a lot of things done during my pregnancy, but she kept having to reschedule appointments and she would forget that I needed certain things done. Honestly, I wasn't too worried about it but now it would be nice to have some kind of record in order to get her birth certificate.

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post #182 of 238
10/22/09 at 12:43am
Wow, that seems like a really disorganized midwife! How awful, with all the other stuff you have going on, to have to do that.
post #183 of 238
10/22/09 at 1:03am
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Wow, that seems like a really disorganized midwife! How awful, with all the other stuff you have going on, to have to do that.
My DH is furious with the whole situation. We paid $2700 out of pocket for her services and while I am more than satisfied with how Laine's birth turned out, he is upset that we paid for someone to do a service for us and to attend her birth and she couldn't even get that right. The reason she missed the birth was because she got lost and I had to give her directions about 5 minutes before Laine was born. Later on she said she won't get a GPS because listening to it is too distracting for her when she drives
post #184 of 238
10/22/09 at 1:49am
WOW. Um. Turn off the sound, lady, and look at the freaking map.

You don't get a refund if she doesn't find your house for the birth? I mean, that could totally happen to me but THAT'S WHY I DON'T WORK IN PUBLIC SERVICE.

It's fine to have a UC, accidental or otherwise, but what if something had happened and she were your backup with pit on hand or something? Ack!
post #185 of 238
10/22/09 at 2:14am
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WOW. Um. Turn off the sound, lady, and look at the freaking map.

You don't get a refund if she doesn't find your house for the birth? I mean, that could totally happen to me but THAT'S WHY I DON'T WORK IN PUBLIC SERVICE.

It's fine to have a UC, accidental or otherwise, but what if something had happened and she were your backup with pit on hand or something? Ack!
That is my DH's reasoning. She did show up about 5 or 10 minutes after she was born, and in time to catch the placenta. I'm glad that she was there for the placenta because I did have retained membrane that needed help, I wouldn't have know what to do about that had I been alone. I had read enough as far as checking for a cord and removing it, and what to do once the baby was out.

Her contract states clearly that there are no refunds if she misses the birth, it's just kind of something that you assume may happen when you have a homebirth. I think mine could have been prevented if she had been a little quicker about getting to my house but I am happy with how the birth turned out. I think I knew all along that I'd end up UCing just because of how we interacted during my pregnancy.
post #186 of 238
10/22/09 at 2:21am
That's crazy- fun that you got to UC without the pre-UC angst, but crazy. My midwife actually does give refunds if she misses the birth.

But then, she will drive two hours just to check dilation if you think you're close, and she will stay 48 hours. She is used to working a rural area. I say "is" but she finally got her baby, and is no longer working for now.

DH wants to have # 3 in Germany so it will be German. We'll see.
post #187 of 238
10/23/09 at 2:15pm

Skype?

Has anyone done the whole IM/webcam chat thing with Skype while their spouse was deployed? If so, what did you think? Was it worth the initial expense and set up? We're considering using the Skype once DH has a reliable internet connection in his office, so I'd like some opinions on it.

Thanks!
post #188 of 238
10/23/09 at 2:59pm
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Has anyone done the whole IM/webcam chat thing with Skype while their spouse was deployed? If so, what did you think? Was it worth the initial expense and set up? We're considering using the Skype once DH has a reliable internet connection in his office, so I'd like some opinions on it.

Thanks!
I thought some form of it was free? You can either use that or Yahoo I believe. We haven't used either yet but now that DH has internet in his room we will eventually, I didn't even think to find out if we could use it from his office. We've used it with my BIL when he was deployed and it worked fairly well.
post #189 of 238
10/24/09 at 2:18pm
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Has anyone done the whole IM/webcam chat thing with Skype while their spouse was deployed? If so, what did you think? Was it worth the initial expense and set up? We're considering using the Skype once DH has a reliable internet connection in his office, so I'd like some opinions on it.

Thanks!
My husband and I did yahoo messenger (which has voice and video options) while he has been gone in Korea. It worked great and it was really nice for him to be able to see the kids.
post #190 of 238
10/24/09 at 9:04pm
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I thought some form of it was free? You can either use that or Yahoo I believe. We haven't used either yet but now that DH has internet in his room we will eventually, I didn't even think to find out if we could use it from his office. We've used it with my BIL when he was deployed and it worked fairly well.
Not while deployed, but while DH was in Afghanistan working as a civilian, we have used it. Yes, it's free, but if you don't have a webcam, you do need to get one. The quality of transmission to his civilian office was pretty poor, so my young child did not recognize her daddy's voice or face because the picture was so pixelated and the voice was all electronic-sounding. A lot of times, it just cut off. With a child four or older, I'd say it would be worth it for sure.

It might work better from Iraq.
post #191 of 238
10/25/09 at 3:20am
we wanted to use vidio or voice and ended up just using text chat a ton, he was at camp Liberty in Baghdad, but internet was there but always schetchy!! a lot!! just having text was great. the tech and camera is built into a Mac right out of hte box and did work great when we had good internet signal. but for us it was nice neer to get cut off so text was a often and comfort thing we could allways count on.
post #192 of 238
10/25/09 at 11:53am
This may be a ways back for some of you but when your SO went to BCT, did your housing allowance start right away? Our recruiter told us DH wouldn't get the housing allowance until the start of OCS. That extra three months would help alot. TIA!
post #193 of 238
10/25/09 at 12:29pm
Our housing came right away in his first paycheck, which is nice - but his first pay was over a week late. Just a head's up, so you are prepared that it happens sometimes.
post #194 of 238
10/25/09 at 1:16pm
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Pay was 4 months late for us, but when we finally did get it BAH was included.
post #195 of 238
10/25/09 at 1:43pm
we got bah during bct, but dh is only an e4. I don't know if it's different for officer candidates.
post #196 of 238
10/25/09 at 4:23pm
We got it right away, and DH was an e4 as well. But he didn't go to OCS. Hopes to when he becomes a citizen.

Question- if your DH is not an officer, and you lived or live in Europe, did you manage to live on the economy?
post #197 of 238
10/26/09 at 8:42pm

? about pay

I feel like I should know this one, but can't seem to remember the answer. My DH will be promoted on November 29. If the Army gets the accounting right (i.e. in a perfect world!), will the pay raise be reflected in the November 15 pay or the December 1 pay, given that everything is paid in arrears?

TIA!
post #198 of 238
10/26/09 at 10:31pm
If your dh is enlisted, he probably won't see the difference in pay until mid-month or end of December, and you'll see back-pay anytime up til then. If he's an officer, it could be months, unfortunately.
post #199 of 238
10/26/09 at 10:59pm
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If your dh is enlisted, he probably won't see the difference in pay until mid-month or end of December, and you'll see back-pay anytime up til then. If he's an officer, it could be months, unfortunately.
He's an officer, so March/April ? Thanks for the head's up! I won't make any plans for the extra money.
post #200 of 238
10/26/09 at 11:35pm
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I feel like I should know this one, but can't seem to remember the answer. My DH will be promoted on November 29. If the Army gets the accounting right (i.e. in a perfect world!), will the pay raise be reflected in the November 15 pay or the December 1 pay, given that everything is paid in arrears?

TIA!
If they get it right, I'd estimate it would take about a month from the date of promotion. It never works out that way though.

DH got promoted in May, as of right now we have yet to see any extra money. This next pay day will bring us to a total of $2800 is back pay. I've been told that once they get their head's out of the behinds we'll get it all pretty quickly, no clue when that will be.
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