Originally Posted by Soul-O
Sarah: Good to hear that you are safe and sound back in the states. Here's to a speedy recovery!
. I hope the next seven months go by in a flurry of fun activities and great memories for you and your two.
Here's a question to spur some conversation: What is your best suggestion for self-care while your DH/SO/DW is deployed? I'm working a lot on making sure my kids will be supported, but haven't thought too much about myself, beyond scheduling activities to keep busy and hiring a regular sitter for 1 - 2 mornings per week so that I can get out on my own. Thoughts from the more experienced mamas?
Before DH was in training with the military, he was overseas working anyway, also in Afghanistan.
I have found that the following helps me:
1. Have a community. For me it's the YMCA. I hardly know the people there but I can put my kids in the nursery, we can go swimming there, and we can take classes that put a kind of spine or skeleton upon which to hang our weekly routine. Plus they have fun stuff like camp for kids and "Parents' Night Out" when you can leave your kids for a paltry sum and go have fun. Which brings me to:
2. Routine. We get up to the alarm so that we can go to bed on time. We go shopping on the same day of the week every week for a whole session (4 - 8 weeks) at the YMCA. We eat a hot breakfast. We always get dressed, no matter what. We always leave the house at least once for a walk, if for nothing else. These are tips for staving off depression, for keeping alive. Also, when DH comes home, he comes home to a real home that is functioning, predictable, and active. It's not like we've all been amoebas and he has to somehow activate us. Yes, we depend on him, but he can also depend on us.
3. I am trying to keep in touch with the military community in small ways (we get the Army Times, LOL, I never finish half of it, but I try!) at least now, will be bigger when he's actually at work. I want to start doing things for deployed soldiers even when he's not deployed. That way, I can feel more connected to him when I speak to him, to talk to him about things he can more easily relate to.
4. I'm going to counseling once a month. This has more to do with past, pre-Army problems but guess what: Tricare covers it!!! I'm totally planning on continuing.
So, those are my business trip / training coping mechanisms.