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post #81 of 238
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Originally Posted by EdnaMarie View Post
There are no classes, no info for me, the spouse, because we are not stationed here at Ft. Lewis. The only reason I'm there is that my spouse is in training and this is where I live.
not sure if i am a huge help, but i am at Ft. Lewis so feel free to ask if there is something i can do.

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We are supposed to get no-fee passports through the base. The earliest appointment is seven days before we are supposed to leave. The passports take six to eight weeks to arrive.
i know that folks with plane tickets can get same day service in Seattle, certainly not free, but maybe the army has access to that same speed when it needs to. or in a pinch you can just knuckle down and pay.

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Pretty useless! I hope all our soldiers get passports when they enlist, otherwise they're gonna have a lot of people late to their duty stations!
Soldiers do not need passports for anything that involves the army, my Beloved has never had one and he was stationed in Germany in the 80's and has been to Iraq twice. He has also been on a mexico vacation with me and just had to have hid DOD ID and papers. So if they are sending him there, i would not worry, he'll be fine.
post #82 of 238
Edna Marie- We live here at Fort Lewis and we have been stationed as a family in Germany. So if u have any questions feel free to PM.

I know for sure your DH will not need a passport...only his orders and ID card. You and DC will need a passport with a visa that allows u to live in Germany and not visit. The first thing to do is make sure ur DH has command sponsorship for ur family to have a concurrent travel with him. This will be noted in his orders to Germany.

The whole EFMP thing is to make sure that no one in ur family has any medical or educational needs that would either prevent being stationed in Germany or where in Germany to be stationed.
post #83 of 238
Ack, I lost my post.

Bref- Thanks, mmgrimm and Adorkable.

You reminded me that I need to get pages in my passport for my visa. Can we get our visas in our civilian passports?

We had planned to pay- it's not THAT much more for express service- but it still takes two weeks.

So if we buy plane tickets, then they'll do it faster, but if we are cautious and plan ahead, they take their time. Great. Good to know. Is this an ask-for-forgiveness-not-permission type system?
post #84 of 238
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Originally Posted by EdnaMarie View Post
Is this an ask-for-forgiveness-not-permission type system?
yep, sadly
post #85 of 238
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Originally Posted by mmgrimm View Post
Edna Marie- We live here at Fort Lewis and we have been stationed as a family in Germany. So if u have any questions feel free to PM.

I know for sure your DH will not need a passport...only his orders and ID card. You and DC will need a passport with a visa that allows u to live in Germany and not visit. The first thing to do is make sure ur DH has command sponsorship for ur family to have a concurrent travel with him. This will be noted in his orders to Germany.

The whole EFMP thing is to make sure that no one in ur family has any medical or educational needs that would either prevent being stationed in Germany or where in Germany to be stationed.
His orders say family can go, but we're not listed in them.

We are trying to get listed...
post #86 of 238
Edna Marie- The reason for getting the passport through the military is they secure your visa for the length of your DH orders. Also without command sponsorship you cannot get military housing in Germany. Doing an overseas PCS move their are different rules than a stateside PCS when it comes to having your family with you. You really need to get the command sponsporship and military passports...I have seen when families show up without the proper paperwork and it was not good.
post #87 of 238
Oh we are not going without sponsorship! How is that even possible? We can't afford the tickets, the moving of all our stuff, without the military. It's not even a question in my mind, don't worry. The question is, how can we physically do this so that we're with him when he goes three weeks from now if I haven't been able to get DD2's passport because both parents need to be there? Etc.

Can we go without the residency visa, just as Americans, and then get that while in the Schengen zone, once we have our no-fee passports? So that I don't have to face the prospect of flying with a couple of kids all by myself?
post #88 of 238
Unfortunately this happens all the time its called nonconcurrent travel...which the soldier heads out to report and the family comes later. The problem with travelling on the civilian passport is it is only good for so many days...if the military passports don't come in that time you have to leave the country.
post #89 of 238
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Originally Posted by mmgrimm View Post
Unfortunately this happens all the time its called nonconcurrent travel...which the soldier heads out to report and the family comes later. The problem with travelling on the civilian passport is it is only good for so many days...if the military passports don't come in that time you have to leave the country.
I agree.

We had to wait on our no-fee passports & had to do nonconcurrent travel. We just did that in July.
post #90 of 238
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Hi! How do you like Japan? I think it would be awesome but unfortunately since we're Army, I don't think its likely.
Hi there! We love it for the most part. We're having a hard time with the Commissary not carrying any organic food at all & the selection of things such as produce is so sad for the price it is. You get 4 medium apples for around $10. We are going to check out some produce markets out in town on payday. Praying we find some good produce there!

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Aloha Debra!! I have a very good friend in Yokosuka, she loves it! We are in Hawaii and Okinawa is on our list but we are trying our hardest to stay in Hawaii. DH doesn't want Japan unfortunately. We've done a tour in Italy too, living overseas is such a fun adventure!
Konnichiwa! That is awesome that you have a friend here. If she is looking for a new buddy, I always up to meeting new people. Would you mind asking her if you can pass along her contact info to me?! I don't know a lot of people here yet.
post #91 of 238

Another deployment question..

Hey Mamas:

DH is leaving very shortly (i.e. within the next few days), so I'm trying to prepare myself for the departure scene. Would it be best to drop him off at the bus, say a quick goodbye, and be on our way; or stay with him and the bus until they actually leave? I'm trying to put the departure in the best possible light for the kids, and also minimize the sadness. How do you cope with departures?

TIA!
post #92 of 238
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Originally Posted by Soul-O View Post
Hey Mamas:

DH is leaving very shortly (i.e. within the next few days), so I'm trying to prepare myself for the departure scene. Would it be best to drop him off at the bus, say a quick goodbye, and be on our way; or stay with him and the bus until they actually leave? I'm trying to put the departure in the best possible light for the kids, and also minimize the sadness. How do you cope with departures?

TIA!
We waited until he actually got on the bus and left. It was important to me to spend as much time together as possible before he left and to get those last few hours in with DS, and while it was hard to watch him walk away I knew that we had been able to spend those last moments together. When he left there were many families there saying goodbye so it was a shared sadness. It's hard no matter how you do it. Many to you, mama and I will be praying for your DH's safe and quick return to you. We're here if you need us.
post #93 of 238
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Originally Posted by KatieJD View Post
We waited until he actually got on the bus and left. It was important to me to spend as much time together as possible before he left and to get those last few hours in with DS, and while it was hard to watch him walk away I knew that we had been able to spend those last moments together. When he left there were many families there saying goodbye so it was a shared sadness. It's hard no matter how you do it. Many to you, mama and I will be praying for your DH's safe and quick return to you. We're here if you need us.
Thanks Katie. This is great advice. I think my DH would feel worse about leaving if he was one of the few sitting in the parking lot without his family.

for you and yours as well.
post #94 of 238
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Originally Posted by Soul-O View Post
Hey Mamas:

DH is leaving very shortly (i.e. within the next few days), so I'm trying to prepare myself for the departure scene. Would it be best to drop him off at the bus, say a quick goodbye, and be on our way; or stay with him and the bus until they actually leave? I'm trying to put the departure in the best possible light for the kids, and also minimize the sadness. How do you cope with departures?

TIA!
Our husbands are leaving at the same time, I'm guessing. We are going with him and are going to stay until the very end. We'll be with him for as long as they let us. It's going to be very hard on my 2yo son, but I hope to find a good distraction for him after my husband leaves by going to a park or something. I am worried about the coming days and months. He is really going to miss daddy.
post #95 of 238
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Originally Posted by Soul-O View Post
Hey Mamas:

DH is leaving very shortly (i.e. within the next few days), so I'm trying to prepare myself for the departure scene. Would it be best to drop him off at the bus, say a quick goodbye, and be on our way; or stay with him and the bus until they actually leave? I'm trying to put the departure in the best possible light for the kids, and also minimize the sadness. How do you cope with departures?

TIA!
I don't know if this is of any use to you, but we ended up saying good bye and then seeing dh again before he really left. We dropped him off at 7:30 one morning and then the next afternoon he called to say he was still in town and we ended up going to dinner together.

Helped me. Don't know how kids would take to it though.
post #96 of 238

sad, but resigned...

Today was the day. We did our best to stay until the soldiers got on the busses, but I ended up leaving with the kids about 15 minutes before they left because I just couldn't take it any more. I have already run through several emotions, but am just feeling resigned at this point. I know that the kids and I will make it through the next year and hopefully will thrive rather than just survive.

Thanks for everyone's positive thoughts and suggestions. I'll keep up with this thread a little better now as I should have more time to myself in the evenings after the kids go to bed, which is a small consolation for losing my wonderful DH for the year .
post #97 of 238
Hugs to you, Soule-O. May the year pass quickly.
post #98 of 238
Thread Starter 
Lots of hugs for you, Tabitha. I know what you mean about the resignation. You are both on a mission now and you will find that even though you're far away, you'll support each other more than you ever knew you could. You will find strengths in yourself that you never knew existed. I hope that this next year passes quickly for you both, just keep lining goals up for yourself and pushing toward them. You will be surprised at how quickly it goes.
post #99 of 238
I'm sorry about his deployment. Give yourself some time to grieve (that's how I felt anyway) and then try to find your groove. This time of year goes fast, that's the good thing, so it will be 2010 before we all know it. I find that once we get our groove/routine things just go faster.
post #100 of 238
Oh Katie, I don't know if I posted before, but now that the pic is your avi, I just have to say that it's soooo wonderful. I have a couple of DH and DDs1 & 2 like that. It's the most beautiful thing in the world.

How is your husband doing?
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