Originally Posted by Enchanted Gypsy
My DD is two years and four months and I plan to let her wean herself. However, I do still nurse her in public on demand, but am starting to have thoughts that maybe I want to start only nursing in private. I was hoping some folks could answer a few questions for me....
1) At what age ( if any) did you stop public nursing..
2) HOW do I go about breaking this to my child who I know will be heartbroken ?
Thanks for any and all advice..
I am on my third child. My oldest only nursed 28 months and I never refused public nursing, but she never really asked in public after 20 months or so. We always brought water and she loved drinking that. She was MLW because I had extreme pain while nursing when pregnant that I couldn't resolve, and she only nursed in the mornings at that point.
My second child LOVED to nurse, she weaned just before her third birthday. While, I didn't "end" it, I was pregnant and my supply was low. At that point, I did sometimes ask her to wait or offer her something else, so it wasn't truly CLW, but it was VERY GENTLE. I had resolved to tandem when the baby came and then I realized that she hadn't asked to nurse in over two weeks. But, with her, I stopped public nursing around 2. I would nurse her if she hurt herself or something, but otherwise I just said we would nurse at home so we could get cozy. For her, it really was all about the snuggles.
My youngest will be four next week. I wasn't intending on CLW, but rather a real gentle approach kinda like my second child. Someone asked her once when someone was too old for boobies and she said 4. She still says that. . .I wonder what she will say next week.
I won't be forcing her to give it up, but she is down to nursing at night most nights but rarely any other times. With her, I had some moments that I thought I would need to wean. When she was nearly 30 months, I really started feeling irritated by it. So, I did try to divert her attention from nursing so much and offered her snacks more often, etc. That took the edge off and I was able to enjoy it again. However, once she was 3 I said no to the public nursing. I would nurse her in public though if she was sick or hurt or something. She has asked though (she only asks when she is tired). I tell her we will nurse at home, that she is big enough to wait. She is ok with that. She knows that none of her friends nurse--not even the younger ones. Also, she is BIG for her age. . . and we have a hard time getting comfy now at home. I can't imagine trying to be graceful in public with it.