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post #181 of 1059
Newbie here... Darling darling daughter, I am exhausted. I want you to do one.freaking.thing without questioning/arguing/bitching/freaking out/melting down or otherwise making every.freakin.thing a huge nightmare. Can we please leave the house, or eat a meal or brush teeth or go to the park (and then leave it) or cook dinner or read books or just anything, one thing? Just one thing? Can we please have one easy thing tomorrow? I'm so tired of arguing with you, or rather, trying NOT to argue with you.

It's time for bed now and I swear if you don't just GO TO BED ALREADY, every last shred of my sanity will be utterly GONE. GO TO BED! NOW! NOW I SAID, NOW GO TO BED!
post #182 of 1059
I really dont understand why parents yell at their children,can someone explain it to me? I never ever yelled at any of my children, and never ever once even felt the urge to do so..... it never even entered my mind. Totally perplexed! (never ever hit or spanked them either)
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post #183 of 1059
Cherylannl, the idea is that we yell at the message boards *instead* of yelling at our children. Nobody here believes in yelling, hitting, or spanking. (Except the trolls, and they don't count!)
post #184 of 1059
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Originally Posted by cherylannl
and never ever once even felt the urge to do so..... it never even entered my mind.

Are you human?
post #185 of 1059
Must you unlace your entire shoe before putting it on when we are already 20 minutes late? Really, MUST YOU!
post #186 of 1059
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Originally Posted by cherylannl
I never ever yelled at any of my children, and never ever once even felt the urge to do so..... it never even entered my mind. Totally perplexed!
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Somebody get this woman an award!

While I hope that I never snap & yell at DD- I happen to find this thread pretty cleansing!






Go on...get it out. You know you wanna join in. Its not like they can hear you.
post #187 of 1059
Sigh, Cherylann, I think it has to do with being yelled at ourselves as children, and having the thought in our heads that it is appropriate to do so. With training and commitment, we stop ourselves from the outward expression of the urge to yell, but it helps to vent from time to time to keep from doing it to our kids IRL. Does that make sense?
post #188 of 1059

Most of the moms here don't really yell but that doesn't

mean they are not human if they do once in awhile. Its something I needed to work on myself. I don't do it anymore for the most part ( still working on that build up thing) but I can do it here to release my frustration. That said..

"could you please not come home from the gfs house and tell me you owe them $$ and then ask for another loan for something else when I am trying to keep $$ from flying out the window???"

"and stop fighting with your sister the minute you get home!!"
post #189 of 1059
STOP PULLING MY HAIR, STOP HURTING ME AND LAUGHING! STOP TELLING ME THAT YOU LIKE TO HURT ME! DON'T YOU KNOW HOW LUCKY YOU ARE THAT YOU HAVE A MOM WHO DOESN'T HURT YOU???? DON'T YOU KNOW HOW LOVED YOU ARE???? WE DO NOT HURT EACH OTHER IN MY FAMILY, WHY CAN'T YOU ACCEPT IT AND GET OVER THIS WANTING TO HURT ME THING? IT'S GETTING REALLY FREAKING OLD AND I'M COMING UNGLUED!

Sorry ladies. But I guess it's better here than at him. Sigh. i need to go deal with him now.
post #190 of 1059
Quote:
Originally Posted by cherylannl
I really dont understand why parents yell at their children,can someone explain it to me? I never ever yelled at any of my children, and never ever once even felt the urge to do so..... it never even entered my mind. Totally perplexed! (never ever hit or spanked them either)
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It is human nature to have conflicts with other human beings, even the ones you love most dearly. They want to do one thing, you want to do something else. When you have spent all day doing things for them, and you at last want to do something for yourself -- and they won't let you, for whatever reason, it is natural and human to become frustrated. Yelling (not AT them, just in general) is a way to release emotion. It's healthy to let off steam in an appropriate fashion. Hence this thread.
post #191 of 1059
I think it also depends on how old your kids are. Obviously, we don't *feel* like yelling at a newborn (Well, I can remember being very very frustrated with my new baby girl who would NOT stop screaming and had to take some breaks and would actually go in a room and just yell at the walls ) :LOL

This is way better than walls. :LOL

Anger is a human emotion!! How can someone not ever feel angry??

But anyway...the rest of us can get on with yelling our hearts out here.
post #192 of 1059
Repressed anger also causes/contributes to physical illness including cancer. Even allopathic MD's are starting to admit and realize this.
post #193 of 1059
Dear Julia,

Could you PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE finish one meal without having something sticky in your hair/nose/ears/pockets?????? I am so TIRED of cleaning up the mess. And do you really have to pick everything you don't want to eat off your plate and fling it on the floor? If you don't want to eat it, then DON'T EAT IT. I cannot go on washing the kitchen floor four times a day for the rest of my life. I can't.

Is it really necessary to latch off without swallowing and dribble milk down my shirt EVERY SINGLE TIME? I'd love to leave the house without stains on my shirt just ONCE.

And don't, I repeat DON'T, pull my glasses off my face. Just don't.

Love,
mama
post #194 of 1059
My 4 year old: STOP asking me questions. Just stop talking for 5 freakin minutes. I love you but you havent taken a d@mn breath since 6 this morning. I hear your voice echo in my brain after I fall asleep at night. My ears are gonna bleed. STOP talking. Sit still. Just sit still and pay attention. PLEASE get dressed. WHY does it take you soooo long to get dressed every stinkin day???? HOW can it possibly take 20 minutes to put a SOCK on????? Stop asking me. You a;lready got the answer. It was NO. I will not change my m,ind. What makes you thiunk if you ask it 543 times , the 544 time will get you a different answer???
My two year old: Get outta the fridge. Close that cupboard. Close the fridge. No. That is not yours. Put it down. The computer is not a toy. Close the fridge. Put it back. PUT IT BACK. WHY cant you just play with toys like a NORMAL child????? Cant we go two minutes without a tantrum??? Do you have a tantrum quota to fill or something? If you scream no at me one more time i am gonna stick you in aa box and mail you to China.
My 5 month old: You will survive if I put you down for two seconds. I am NOT a walking binky. I am a real live human. I even pee with you in my arms. If I do not get some personal space I am gonna cry. STOP scratching and pinching and smacking me while you nurse. I nurse you 23 hours a day you nasty little gremlin, and all you do is claw at me till it looks like a mad cat attacked me. I adore you but I do NOT adore being spit up on in the middle of the night, being punched in the face at 3 a.m., being kicked until I have little bruises on my thigh. You are lucky you are so darn cute.

*sigh*
I love this thread.
Tonia
post #195 of 1059
Oh, forgot to add;
To my two oldest:
GO TO SLEEP. I have been coming in here every 5 minutes for 2 hours now., I cannot lay with you right now.Daddy is at work and the baby is wide awake. Just go to sleep. Mommy lives fir bedtime. I am home all day everyday wih you. The only break I ever get is this time. If you don't go to sleep soon Mommy is gonna lose her mind and end up in the looney bin. Do you really want to visit your mommy in a looney bin???? Then Go. To. Sleep. NOW.
pleeeeaaaaasseeeeeee.


Tonia
post #196 of 1059
Please go to sleep. Please, please, please, please. PLEASE go to sleep. 9pm is NOT the time to play racing games. I'm so glad you are feeling better, really, honestly, I am. But if the three of you don't go to bed soon, you are going to find out what it's like for Mommy to really lose it. I mean, LOSE IT> GO TO SLEEP. Go TO SLEEP NOW< NOW< NOW< NOW> NOW> NOW>>>>>

post #197 of 1059
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Originally Posted by redhookmom
NOOOOOO MORE !@#$% YOUGURT!!!!
Oh my goodness! What is it with the yogurt?? lol
Ds throws a frickin' fit when he finishes his yogurt.... lol
post #198 of 1059
My dearest Vaida -- you are only 4.5 mo. WHY IN THE WORLD DO YOU NEED TO FIGHT SLEEP SO MUCH!!!!!YOU CAN'T DO ANYTHING, WHY DO YOU HAVE TO CRY FOR TWO FREAKING HOURS EVERY NIGHT BECAUSE YOU ARE TIRED INSTEAD OF JUST GOING TO SLEEP!

also -- MY ARMS ARE TIRED AND MY BACK IS HURTING FROM HOLDING YOU AND YOU ARE CRYING AND SHRIEKING IN MY FACE. I DON'T LIKE IT. WHY SHOULD I WANT TO HOLD YOU INSTEAD OF LAY YOU DOWN SOMEWHERE TO SHREECH ON YOUR OWN! (fyi I don't believe in CIO, and would never do it, but it sure can be tempting some nights when she cries for two solid hours.

My dearest Titus -- FOR THE LOVE OF MIKE HOW MANY THINGS CAN YOU PUT IN THE TOILET? HOW MUCH CRAP CAN ONE TINY BOY DRAG ALL OVER THE HOUSE? YOU HAVE A MILLION TOYS, PLEASE PLAY WITH ONE OF THEM FOR A MINUTE. AT LEAST LOOK AT THE TOY. LOOK AT IT OR I WILL PUT IT OUT IN THE TRASH!!!!

sighing, at least they are both asleep for now. it is 11 pm here and we started the *bedtime routine* at 9. It only took 2 freaking hours! AACCKKK!

Feeling much better now...going off to knit.
post #199 of 1059
To my 3 y/o ds:

STOP the fake crying. It really won't get you what you want, honest. And the whining, it's really got to stop.

When we are in the car, it's ok that you talk incessantly, but do NOT badger me when I am at an intersection or in a stressful traffic situation. Mommy needs to concentrate!

And can we just go somewhere or do something once without a big battle or tantrum? YES, you need to wash your hands before you eat. YES, we need to get in the car to go somewhere occasionally, YES, you have to brush your teeth EVERY night. AND, YES, UNTIL YOU DECIDE TO USE THE POTTY, I MUST CHANGE YOUR SOAKING WET DIAPER!!!!!

Whew! I feel much better. :LOL
post #200 of 1059
This has to be the most hysterical thread. I am cracking up laughing, because it's so real and down to earth, and although at any given moment I feel exactly the same, reading it like this in black and white makes me laugh and laugh!
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