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post #21 of 111
Oh seriously? Go.

I left my daughter alone with her Grandparents starting at 15 months and she's healthy, happy, and pretty much has an awesome relationship with them.

Don't buy in to mommy guilt, and you're NOT leaving her with a stranger it's her own damn father, he's going to do a fine job.
post #22 of 111
I have never left my children for longer than maybe 6 hours or so and my ds is 3.5. But I would totally go if I was in your shoes!! Since you are not nursing, I don't see why your little one can't spend a day and a half with Daddy. Enjoy!!
post #23 of 111
I say go! The time goes by so quickly and taking time to take care of yourself is so important. A weekend with Daddy could be really good for their relationship.

I fully believe AP is about meeting needs and mom's needs are important, also.

The times I have been "strongly encouraged" to go to a movie, or have a night out (these are still rare in my life) but they are rejuvenating and I think they do nothing but benefit my kids as I feel better and have more energy and that only impacts my home in a positive way!

My kids are 6 and 4 now and I see how our wonderful attachment is strong and loving and part of that is them respecting me as a person who has needs, also.

Enjoy the chance to go!
post #24 of 111
Oh my gosh, PLEASE ignore the mommy-guilt. Go!! Have a wonderful time! I'm sure your DD will miss you, and I'm sure you will miss your DD....But you will both be fine! And, chances are...going away for 48 hours will give you and chance to relax, and you will come home a rejuvanated, refreshed mama!

So, please...go! Go for all of us who can't go! We need someone to live vicariously through! Have a great time!
post #25 of 111
I would go!

Catherine
post #26 of 111
I wouldn't leave a 16 month old for that long. That doesn't mean you shouldn't. It just means I wouldn't.

If it's only 30 minuts away, could you not go home at night time to spend some time with her?
post #27 of 111
Personally I wouldn't but it's up to you of course!
post #28 of 111
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I love how enthusiastic all of the GOOOO! answers are. LOL!

I talked to my friend who is also planning on going, and she has a DD the same age as mine. She is really adament that this short trip will be so important for both of our mental healths, and I am beginning to agree with her. She also wants to "hire me" to babysit a couple of times before we go so that I can put that money towards the trip. Not sure if I will let her do that or not yet (I will babysit for her, I just don't like taking money from friends), but she got me more geared up about going.

I work AT home (doing childcare) so it is definitely not a case of DD never getting to see me. That is also why I feel like I really do need this break, and some adult company.

I don't think driving there and back would really be very helpful, and would just remove the "retreat" aspect of it. I think that might actually make me feel MORE guilty, if that is possible.

And I can't imagine bringing a newborn to this next year. It is held at a summer camp facility so there are bunk beds and shared rooms. It wouldn't be fair to the other ladies to bring along a baby that may be up all night crying when they have spent good money to take a break from their own kids. So it is really this year, or wait a few more.
post #29 of 111
Since your baby isn't nursing, I'd recommend that you go. Having said that, I'd never be able to take my own advice. I am terribly jealous of family time, and wouldn't give up a weekend together with my family for a weekend away. But that's me.
post #30 of 111
Personally, I would not go. In our family we live by the "one hour per 6 months of age" rule. That basically means Mommy can be away from baby for one hour per 6 months - so at 16 months, that would only be about 2.5 hours.

16 months is still very young. My concern with leaving a child of that age is that most of them can't very well articulate their thoughts and emotions. I think it can be a little unfair to put a child in a stressful situation (first long-term separation from Mommy) without the tools and capacity to communicate with the person supervising them.

Just my two cents It does sound like a nice trip - will it come around again in a year or two?
post #31 of 111
I vote go!

I'm assuming you'll see your kid Friday morning and probably till late afternoon and come back Sunday evening. So really only 1 day of not being together.

This was around the age my dd started to become a daddy's girl. I think the time together will strength their bond and overall be a great thing.

The only reason I would suggest someone not go, is mainly if the mom was still nursing or didn't have a person the child was comfortable with.
post #32 of 111
go go go!

i totally believe that the time you spend recharging will be priceless for your whole family.

and it will be great bonding for your DH and LO.

have fun!
nak
post #33 of 111
Honestly...my husband always THANKS ME when I leave him alone with the children. He says it truly deepens their bonds with him and he appreciates their special time together!
Go! Just Go! your lo will be with her DADDY for goodness sakes!
post #34 of 111
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Originally Posted by THANKFULFORFIVE View Post
Honestly...my husband always THANKS ME when I leave him alone with the children. He says it truly deepens their bonds with him and he appreciates their special time together!
Go! Just Go! your lo will be with her DADDY for goodness sakes!

My husbadn doesn't take week long trips either, even though the kids are with their mom. I just think that's too long for the child to not connect with the important people in their lives. they dont' have the same sense of time that we do, and they really dont' understand that mom or dad is coming back. I think it would be really awful for a baby to wonder where that person went to and are they ever coming back??
post #35 of 111
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I would go too. Nursing is the only issue that keeps me from leaving dd overnight and since that is not an issue.

Go and HAVE FUN!!!
totally agree. if you're not nursing, it is much easier to just GO! so GO!
post #36 of 111
Good grief, if you don't want to go, I will!

Go. You have no reason to feel guilty. DD will get lots of Daddy time and you will get a nice weekend to recharge your batteries.
post #37 of 111
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Originally Posted by vbactivist View Post
My husbadn doesn't take week long trips either, even though the kids are with their mom. I just think that's too long for the child to not connect with the important people in their lives. they dont' have the same sense of time that we do, and they really dont' understand that mom or dad is coming back. I think it would be really awful for a baby to wonder where that person went to and are they ever coming back??

She's talking about 2 days!! No one said anything about a week long trip!
post #38 of 111
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Originally Posted by vbactivist View Post
My husbadn doesn't take week long trips either, even though the kids are with their mom. I just think that's too long for the child to not connect with the important people in their lives. they dont' have the same sense of time that we do, and they really dont' understand that mom or dad is coming back. I think it would be really awful for a baby to wonder where that person went to and are they ever coming back??
The OP isn't leaving for a week...just a weekend
post #39 of 111
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Originally Posted by mommariffic View Post
Oh seriously? Go.

I left my daughter alone with her Grandparents starting at 15 months and she's healthy, happy, and pretty much has an awesome relationship with them.

Don't buy in to mommy guilt, and you're NOT leaving her with a stranger it's her own damn father, he's going to do a fine job.

Yes yes yes!

My oldest was 17 mos old when I was in the hospital for 3 days, having his younger brother. Then, he had to stay with Grandma for several days, because I had complications. He is a perfectly happy, normal 11 yr old. No worse for the wear.

I am sure that being gone for a weekend will not scar your baby for life.
post #40 of 111
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Originally Posted by KweenKrunch View Post
Personally, I would not go. In our family we live by the "one hour per 6 months of age" rule. That basically means Mommy can be away from baby for one hour per 6 months - so at 16 months, that would only be about 2.5 hours.

16 months is still very young. My concern with leaving a child of that age is that most of them can't very well articulate their thoughts and emotions. I think it can be a little unfair to put a child in a stressful situation (first long-term separation from Mommy) without the tools and capacity to communicate with the person supervising them.

Just my two cents It does sound like a nice trip - will it come around again in a year or two?
Does your DH leave your kids with you for longer than 1 hour per 6 months of age? Just because mom's can nurse babies doesn't mean they are more important than the dad.

Also - way to make every mom who has to work feel guilty. Some women don't have a choice and have to leave their babies for longer than your guidelines.

OP, your DH is a parent too. Let him do his job and go have some fun.
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